Live as much as possible in the present, enjoy what comes your way, learn from it and do not look to the future. Look at the positive things that it brings you and don’t pay too much attention to the lack. Stay sober and see the humor in it – no matter how difficult this sometimes is. Also know that you are not the only one with such an experience. (shared grief is half grief) Do not try to reason everything rationally (not everything can be explained) Experience how it feels and accept it, do not resist it because it is impossible to resist this. (the insurmountable) Don’t declare yourself crazy if this happens to you, there is a common goal. Only afterwards can you see what this experience was needed for. Involve your possible partner as much as possible and ask for understanding and support.