Don’t go find it … I don’t think it works like that .. Let it come as it comes. If you are not looking, the way is open .. Stay honest with each other. The things that you have to process are not always easy. And also the things that you can supplement together and therefore because of the hustle and bustle in life you often have something like “yes I know that already …” yet take the time to listen to each other. Often because you feel and complement each other, you think you know that you already know how the other reacts, but always take the time for the other to tell and process it.