In the past it has happened too often that my twinflame suddenly did something different than I had expected. For example: a few times I thought everything was fine between us. But then suddenly he did something that showed the exact opposite. I have the feeling that I cannot rely on him at all, with the result that I have become extremely careful and assume in advance that he will do something that I am not going to like at all even stronger, something disastrous so At the same time, I do not feel that I am not in control of myself and my activities. I have learned that by now, to do that. Do you have that too?
For me the feeling of being unpredictable at moments and at other times then I know what my twinflame is doing or what is going to happen. But you have to ask yourself if you are going to maintain that, that thought seems tiring to me and it would be a shame that you are going in the same direction as your twinflame, because that is what it looks like. See what you can do to take time for yourself and find yourself
My twinflame also often says things that I don’t like to hear. Especially about other women. But experience has taught me that we are exact mirrors of each other and as I do he does; I am not going to leave my partner, so there is no future for us together unless the relationship between my partner and me ends. And I understand very well that this is frustrating for my twinflame, but I have simply chosen in the past and think that I should stand behind it, because I am not only in the relationship, there are also children involved and I also feel love for my husband. Only that is not comparable with that for my twinflame. So what he reflects is that he, too, does not want to stay alone and is looking for a partner. Not a nice feeling for me, but its good of course.
I did indeed refer more to what answer 1 says (thanks for both answers, by the way). The unpredictability of my twinflame, but yes maybe he thinks so too, since you mirror each other.
Recognizable what you write. I have also lost faith in my twinflame. I don’t know what to think anymore. I don’t want to worry about it for a long time exactly how it works. I might get those answers on my own. So I let go of what I manage to do well and continue my life, trying to enjoy, doing fun things. What the future brings has also become a question mark for me, it is also not important, live as much as possible every day.
I have lost all faith in my Twin. He has crossed my borders in a terrible way, of which I had clearly indicated them. But still go over it. And have no regrets or nothing. just blow and sigh if you ask why he did it now. The worst thing was that he was sitting with his girlfriend for Christmas and made me wait with two meat dishes a few years ago. All appointments canceled and I was there alone. And if you ask him, he sighs and blows and then says: do you have to start again? That was so long ago … And relationships never become something with twinflames so I will continue for good alone in my uppie and no more sex no more love because I can not bear it anymore. That is what he has achieved with it. I am such a sensitive person that my heart could not take it anymore. I never want to see my twinflame again and no more contacts. it is good that only for the rest of my life without any feeling for anything. Is that what a relationship is good for? Do people destroy lives? Good to hear the rest of your life without the person you love most. Fine spending Christmas alone without heat while you know he is with someone else but would choose you. Is that what everyone is doing here? Fine spending Christmas alone without heat while you know he is with someone else but would choose you. Is that what everyone is doing here? Fine spending Christmas alone without heat while you know he is with someone else but would choose you. Is that what everyone is doing here?
My opinion: If your twinflame acts differently than you had expected, your twinflame acted out of fear; excuse. I do not know what exactly happened, but you are the one who must “confront” him so that your twinflame will follow the right path again. You feel your twinflame perfectly to what it is planning and feeling. You can indicate your own limits in this. I also understand that you feel a lot of distrust towards your twinflame. Try to understand that your twinflame acted out of fear and not with his feelings. I know this is very difficult, but this is a process that will make you stronger together. Don’t try to feed your fear, put that distrust away. When you have addressed your twinflame in a good way (depends on what happened), this will end automatically.
Answer 6: Hey Alicia, it’s great that you are back. Your answers always help me enormously. I agree with what you say; you can set your own limits and feel in all purity why your twinflame does as he does. Also a learning point for me because sometimes the ego has the highest word.
I fully agree with answer 5. I too am a hypersensitive person and I confidently entered my relationship with my twinflame, in which he then also indicated that he would stay together, because we both felt, and so did he, the ultimate amalgamation. That is why I dared our relationship, but he gradually withdrew to the question of why did I get vague answers, such as wanting space, etc. Anyway, I could no longer rely on him. For example, I let it go beyond my limits and when I confronted him it all lay with me and nothing with him. Ultimately, a relationship was broken, resulting in no more trust in anyone. The reason ??? Growth in unconditional love? Nice and easy for him, for the “runaways”. We may struggle with it, while we mean it so well. Anyone who is so in it (especially person antw.
Thank you Alicia for your answer. But how can I confront my twinflame? I have absolutely no contact with him, no phone number email nothing. I can only call him at work or send a letter to it, and I have done that a number of times, but there are no responses. He himself will not come to me. He has not done that for almost 3 years. I have given up hope. I no longer know what the right tone and way is to confront him and words apparently mean nothing to him anymore. As if he is completely slammed and everything I say goes in the first ear and the other just as loud. At least that’s how I experience it. I have absolutely no idea what he is feeling anymore. I myself have the feeling that he misses me very much, but maybe that is because I am so desperate that I think so? I can no longer do anything and when I called him at work to meet to talk, he makes an appointment and does not show up and otherwise he says something about it, you will see me appear because when we finish speak and I am not coming you are disappointed. But nothing. It remains only with promises and nothing is delivered. I do dream about him on a regular basis, but he also regularly says that he is rejecting me. The same story as in real life. I can hardly remember whether the dreams are in color or black and white. also can’t call his work too often because he has told very nasty things about me, stalking and so on. which was not true. But also because of his flight, I think, and afraid of being kicked out of the house by his girlfriend. But I can’t go any further now than with my own life. I need those answers so badly to be able to continue. What is the best confrontation? So much has happened and I don’t even know why and what my share was in it. I only picked things out and then I found out that he lived with his girlfriend. I confronted him with that. But that was also self-protection. And if he had honestly said he was with her, she is a lot older than me, by the way, we care 13 years. Then I might have found it less bad because I don’t want to break relationships. I’d rather have stayed friends. Now I have lost everything. And he had once fled once in the past.
@Answer 7 Thank you for your message Try to help / support as much as possible. I am sometimes absent for a while because of the negative energy that sometimes hangs here
@ Answer 8: Your twinflame has fears, but you also have fears. Remember that people can also confront for fear. The rejection process is difficult, but it makes you think about the fears that have come up. The runaways are unfortunately somewhat less strong than the “waiting side”. It seems as if the runaways are allowed to do anything, but it actually brings the “waiting side” to insights that there has always been a lack of certain attention in the past. From your twinflame you also do not get the attention that you so long for. The pain that you feel comes from your past coming up. Face this pain and you will progress in your process. It may seem that I have not experienced any pain, but on the contrary. You also do not know what “mischief” my twinflame has experienced.
@ Answer 9: You currently have no contact. The person who broke off the contact; the “runaway” must contact again. When you start contacting yourself, your twinflame can react bluntly out of fear. You definitely miss your twinflame. Fears have surfaced, so your twinflame needs some time for themselves. By leaving your twinflame alone for a moment, he will naturally get back to his feeling, so that your twinflame will automatically contact you again. Your twinflame has very many feelings for you and tries to block these feelings in every way. You then get situations in which you stalk him, etc. There will be more moments of putting off. Expressing and following your feelings, not fear is the way of confronting. Trust your own sense of what to do. You can’t do anything wrong. You only act in the way that you should do to become stronger yourself and to face your own fears. I wish you a lot of strength and love.