Q0933. Painful to see your twinflame with someone else?

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Who recognizes the painful nagging feeling of seeing your twinflame with someone else? I was looking at Facebook (yes, I know, that’s not smart) and then came across a few photos of him and his girlfriend that I had never seen before. And I didn’t like it. Moreover; it keeps on gnawing at me. Am I jealous? And what do I do to get rid of it? I don’t want to feel that way. I really don’t want to think about him anymore, it hurts too much. Come on with your advice!

Answer 1
I recognize this. For that reason I have not been looking at his profile for some time. Because I know that I don’t like to see which other nice women he is in contact with or looking for. In most cases it is about women from the profession in which he is, so it is usually a business contact, but still … The best thing is to become aware of the fact that your focus is on him at those moments, instead of from yourself. That is the first step to better. The purpose of twinflame love is to become and be yourself completely again. I don’t know if you have hobbies, but if not: take a good look at the things you enjoy doing, what you are good at and that give you energy. Those are the things that reveal something of your true core. If you dream of becoming an artist, Then do research into the steps needed to reach your goal and take that important first step! I myself have already taken a number of steps towards my own dream! and that fills me with joy, because I notice that I am getting closer to myself. Living from my true core, that is my assignment. I know that and I feel it too. Lots of strength. (Flower)

Answer 2
That those photos are on his Facebook is a sign on the wall. How many characters of yours have hurt him? Be honest? Because my twin has said from the start that our reunion would only be in some time, makes it a lot easier for me than for you so I can talk easily. If you have not received that message of reunification from your twin, then letting go is the only thing on it for you. let it slide past you like water, that I do too (Wieweet)

Answer 3
Yes, I can be brief about that. I know this feeling and what you describe. I sometimes have it myself. My twinflame is also in a relationship and sometimes I see them close together once in a while and sometimes I see his girlfriend shooting past in the supermarket, my twinflame and I live in the same city. What I do myself I stay very close to your own feeling and give yourself a lot of love, and keep in mind that you yourself are the only true love for your twinflame, whatever happens and how it will run, and that you and twinflame belong together, that what is happening now, tests can test how strong you are already. Know that you and your twinflame are 1, his girlfriend can’t stand to just say it. I know the feeling, my lord I know what you’re going through oh yeah it hurt me too, but the love for my twinflame has never diminished there. Because of the pain that you now feel and everything that goes with it, you grow. Also don’t forget to tame your EGO (is also a tip! For meI hope to have helped you with this, I wish you lots of love and explanation with your path because you know what you are going through. Good luck! Much love (Butterfly)

Answer 4
My twinflame also has a husband and a child. I want to be as little in between as possible. I wish her all the love and happiness, in fact it is her conscious choice. And although I want to be with her so much, I also have to accept that in earthly life. If only I can do it with my soul dreams. Still it is nice to see how things develop. I can write a book about it hahah (Unknown)
Reaction All thank you very much for the answers! Nice to read. To Wieweet: how many signs of mine have already hurt him? Innumerable … he was at my wedding what I think was the most painful of everything for him. He often sees me and my husband together, and I can go on and on. I know I have to let go. Sometimes it works better than the other. But I really recognize what Vlinder says; I know from my heart that it is him who belongs to him, that his girlfriend will always come in 2nd place. He even tells me that he has great doubts about his relationship with her! And then again those photos, it’s so contradictory. He has also made it very clear to me a few times that he feels the same to me as I do to him, but I cannot accept it when he says something like that because there are others there. Were there not, then I would explain to him how I feel and think about it. So yes, outside of my ego I know very well how the fork really works and that I don’t have to be afraid of competition. But som! It’s so hard to keep that in mind. I also understand his frustration very well. I never cross the bridge with answers, not even silent hints. I am very careful because I don’t want to hurt my husband and other people involved, but I do hurt my dearest twinflame. And then I hope he understands, that he knows that I feel the same way for him. Hmmm, this gives food for thought ladies. (Unknown) It’s so hard to keep that in mind. I also understand his frustration very well. I never cross the bridge with answers, not even silent hints. I am very careful because I don’t want to hurt my husband and other people involved, but I do hurt my dearest twinflame. And then I hope he understands, that he knows that I feel the same way for him. Hmmm, this gives food for thought ladies. (Unknown) It’s so hard to keep that in mind. I also understand his frustration very well. I never cross the bridge with answers, not even silent hints. I am very careful because I don’t want to hurt my husband and other people involved, but I do hurt my dearest twinflame. And then I hope he understands, that he knows that I feel the same way for him. Hmmm, this gives food for thought ladies. (Unknown)

Answer 5
Oja Wieweet; you ask if I have received that message of reunification from him; Yes I have. A few months ago, he said in a slightly intoxicated state that we will meet in the next life. When my twinflame has drunk, he always becomes very honest and makes it easier to let go of what he thinks. So I felt that as a serious message. There were more, by the way. So he always gives a pass, but I dare not respond because we are never together. One time he was enormously frustrated and he blurted out a comment that made me feel very embarrassed in front of my husband. I was angry about that at first, but I understood later. Oops Oops, what a mirror is held up here again. Very good! (Unknown)

Answer 6
Answer 5 Yes of course you will come together in a next life is my opinion. Twinflames always come together again in a life, short or long time. But in this life? Was he the man of those free-range? -connections from previous lives with which he had to put the finishing touches? I remember that now because I also had that with my free range, between 50 and 100 I had there. Until it was ready I have had them all (I am in my last life) and I am now waiting for reunification with twin. When the time comes, you may not be able to imagine it now, but what you have now crumbles at a record pace. ( Who knows)

Answer 7
When I read these answers / reactions, I wonder why do you stay with your earthly partner? If you both love each other and long for each other, why not be together? Why all that pain and that sadness? Why marry someone else when you’ve already met your twinflame? I’m curious about your answers, in a similar situation. (Unknown)

Answer 8
Who knows, yes, that was all of those free-range ones. It’s good that you remembered that. He has had countless numbers there. I certainly think you are right, and that he had to put the finishing touches on them. Small detail of the photo on his facebook page: not he but his free-range has put it on it, the photo was on her page and then comes naturally to his. I always have the feeling that she is more fond of him than he is of her. Do you mean that my current relationship / life will crumble at a rapid pace when it soon comes with my twinflame? I keep getting all kinds of signals about how long we have to live apart from each other and that is now 28.5 years … so last year it was 29.5 years. I suddenly see those numbers like last week on a license plate and last year also in France .. So we have a little bit to go. To answer 7; I’ve explained it so many times. Now choosing each other simply means that it is not the right time. We are both not yet completely ready for that reunification. I am genuinely happy with my husband and I love him very much. He is my soulmate, which is something very different from a twinflame. With a soulmate one can often have a long and perfect relationship, which is the case with us. But: it is an earthly relationship with all the earthly things that go with it (jealousy, conditionality, it is on a different level than I am spiritually speaking, etc). With my twinflame it is purely unconditional, and we understand each other without words. We think the same, are the same. I have an inexplicable relationship with him that was explained to me when I learned what twinflames are. My husband and I have children, and also to them I have a responsibility. I want to comply with that, and it takes no effort. Sometimes the only difficult part is that I fall for my twinflame! but when I feel that, I also realize that he has always been there, and that we are only not together on a physical level. If everything is ready, then it will come. (Unknown)

Answer 9
To answer 7: Yes, there is a point. You hit the nail on the head with me, food for thought, thank you! Am in reply 3 butterfly. I myself am free and I especially learn lessons with but without my twinflame. My twinflame is in a relationship, and we are friends and dr have been many special, intense moments. I will continue to live with me and I let my twinflame be free and let him follow the path he wants and grant him all the best, still I heart I hope we will come together Love (Butterfly)

Answer 10
Answer 7, you have to look at the SOUL MISSION is my opinion, how often do I have to say it haha, you should not look at the sadness and the anger, because that is “only” a symptom and sometimes you just have the symptoms take away or relieve. The cause is the soul mission that still has to be completed with or without someone else. And that is fixed, cannot be changed just like that. Remember that we are all here the result of a soul mission (from our biological parents) Twinflames only come together if both receive the same soul assignment. That is all pre-programmed. (Wieweet)

Answer 11
that episode with that seagull that is being followed? That is exactly how my son follows me as a guide! Occasionally those guides intervene for a moment and tell them which way it is going, every two months for me! den.Sus you are never alone in your process, greeting and here the link (if you may) of the seagull http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QSOEhoy_XcM(Wieweet)

Answer 12
A question to answer 6 / Wieweet: I am the questioner, and you say that we will certainly come together in a next life. Yes, I am convinced of that. But now my question; are not twinflames incarnated simultaneously in all lives? I understand from the many literature that exists that it is usually the case that one soul lives on earth and the other in the spiritual world. The fact that we are both on earth now would be rare. Do I have to assume that it can therefore take many lifetimes for reunification to take place or is it possible that we will both be back on earth in our next life? Pfff, difficult subject this. I wish I had certainty in this regard. Because I often get a “now or never feeling”. That I should not let my chance go. But on the other hand it just doesn’t feel right to start anything with him. Yesterday there was a cigarette pack of his brand on the street right in front of my nose and there was written in big letters: smokers! die younger. As if it was a message to me. My twinflame smokes and can’t help it. I am so afraid that he dies much sooner than me and we then “lose” each other for a long time. (Unknown)

Answer 13
Well Vlinder, who doesn’t hope so? That’s why I really don’t understand why twinflames who have met can enter into a different relationship. Love! (Unknown)

Answer 14
I met him again in this life, and for a short time I was in love with him, as well as with the one who had married me, my! father, reincarnated again and guess what: I fell in love with them too. When I was with one in southern France, the other here died in the Netherlands of AIDS (Unknown)

Answer 15
Thank you answer 14. So as souls develop, they reincarnate faster. Yes. And I know that both my soul and his are well on their way. He told me a while ago that we will be together in the next life. I didn’t know what I heard, I had no idea how he looked at things like this. But it didn’t have to be a surprise either, since we have two equal souls and I believe this too. It made me so intensely happy and sad at the same time because it means that a reunification will last a very long time. This statement by him was THE great confirmation that I had long wanted. Then I just got it, after a pleasant evening. When he had said the words, he ran away very quickly without looking back … that told me enough. It was a huge step for him to throw this out. Again my husband was standing next to it, but I think it had to be that way. He too is slowly becoming! prepared for what will ever come. He is often even the one who proposes to do something together with my twinflame. That initiative almost never comes from me. (Unknown)

Answer 16
Response to answer 11. That program of that flying seagull and that is a zeeuws program I know. My twin lives in that province and recently that gull flew over her village when I had just turned on the TV. And no I am not jealous when I see my twin with her husband or with other people. I wish her the very best in life. I have always had that feeling for as long as I have known her and that has now been like about thirty years on earth. (Unknown)

Answer 17
For me it is very painful to see my twinflame with his wife. If I know that they will be together somewhere, such as a party or certain occasions, I will not go there. I can’t stand to see them in pairs and knowing that they will do everything together in this life, think of having children, etc. It is very nice to see him, and I certainly need that from time to time, that soothing feeling of safety, but that currently weighs less than the pain and sadness I experience after seeing them together. It is just that way. Warm regards. (Unknown)

Answer 18
Indeed SOUL MISSION, if you look after that, you better place it. I see and feel it that way, everywhere my love and I are busy with, my lessons, his lessons together and without each other is for our growth, for both. That everything happens for a reason, later when everything falls into place you understand why this was necessary. That is how I experience it with everything in my life. Thank you for clarity Liefs (Vlinder)

Answer 19
Answer 13, I don’t understand a thing either. My twinflame also married another woman, while he and I knew each other from before. Then you don’t want anyone else anymore? To this day, it doesn’t get that. Something like that transcends any fear, so you still feel at home? You never want to lose that again? And if that woman were still nice … (Unknown)

Answer 20
@ anwd 19: I understand your words and your questions, you have them too. My love had a short relationship with his girlfriend when we came in contact with each other, still today. we are now friends Had ‘discovered’ him much earlier but was not yet the moment for me. Now many years later I understand why, I had to grow first, walk other roads, so that I was ready, I also see all this as a preparation. It’ll be fine! Love (Butterfly)

Answer 21
Answer 13, I don’t understand a thing either. My twinflame also married another woman, while he and I knew each other from before. Then you don’t want anyone else anymore? To this day, it doesn’t get that. Something like that transcends any fear, so you still feel at home? You never want to lose that again? And if that woman were still nice … (Unknown)

Answer 22
My twinflame has chosen a woman who cheats and wants to determine everything without taking him into account. That is a bitter pill, in spite of all his learning processes. I still think: why does it take so long before he’s done with that type of type? We are already on the same wavelength, I feel that, so I do not understand that he cannot use that wisdom of that wavelength in his decisions. As if he shields himself against injuries and then sticks to those who are the cause of having to shield himself. twinflame, why does it take so long before you really take action to give your life a better twist? Do you want to get a heart attack or something? I hope you will soon see changes. (Unknown)

Answer 23
Answer 22 I think it has to do with past lives again, unresolved issues. See it again as a big clean-up, clean up. Chances are that he once made the same mistake in another life with another, so has treated badly, intentionally or unintentionally. It cannot go forward with you before it has “grown” out of it, same wavelength or not. that those processes are so flawless, also for the two of you. Oh and don’t forget that it is a formidable lesson for him. (Wieweet)

Reply 24
Thank you, Wieweet. (Unknown)

Answer 25
My twinflame is also married to someone he met after we had a relationship. Very painful. I think we have to learn a lot before we are ready to reunite. I could also see it this way: she helps me, as it were, because my twinflame can work with her on themes that are still needed for our reunification. Goes very far, but actually I can be grateful to her …. I also wonder if my own karma plays a role in this. Because in the past I had twice something with a married man, wrong! Now it happens to me that my lover is with someone else. (Unknown)