Q0865. What now?

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Yes, what now? A lot has happened in the past year, but I will try to give a complete picture. My twinflame is married. We saw each other for a year and had a secret relationship with the outside world. He knows what his heart wants, but is still too anxious to make a choice. I spent a lot of time working with him over the past year trying to help him (not well according to a psychic I spoke to). We were in a situation where I wanted to move him too much. Because of this he felt rushed and I felt frustrated. I have released him since Thursday. We have agreed that we no longer have any contact, so that we both have time to work on ourselves. It hurts enormously. I have had a lot of pain in my heart and stomach. I realize that this is necessary. Does letting go of your twinflame means that I no longer interfere with his trial? How can I start working on myself? Can letting go also cause physical complaints (irregular intestines)? And especially how to proceed? Thanks in advance!

Answer 1
I recognize a lot in your story. I also struggled with the question of influence. You so badly want the other person to find his / her place. But it’s not necessary. Like you said, it can set someone up. Furthermore, the other person is not for nothing with his twinflame! Pulling will not help. You do not know at all on your conscious level what the path is that leads you both to your goal (whatever that is in this life). Letting go seems very difficult for you. Especially since you could talk about it together, and now you suddenly get blindfolded. But it does not mean that you are separate from the other person, or that you no longer have any influence on each other. For me, letting go means not actively influencing. My experience is that the best influence is not influence. If you go your own way, do what is right for you, that also happens on the other side, you are simply stuck together from the inside. You are in mind and asleep with your twinflame, you are constantly in communication even though you do not know that, you agree unnoticed about things, and suddenly you discover that the penny also falls on the other side. Your own quarters may not be as yours as you think! What do I say, if you have always thought … Working on yourself is: Just continue on your way, you already had it before you knew your twinflame? Unfortunately I have lost the motivation a bit, but I can still do it with my head. There is no escaping that pain that is just as good as the other. Then carry it with you. I also recognize that gut story, but not specifically as a result of letting go. (Arundash) You are in mind and asleep with your twinflame, you are constantly in communication even though you do not know that, you agree unnoticed about things, and suddenly you discover that the penny also falls on the other side. Your own quarters may not be as yours as you think! What do I say, if you have always thought … Working on yourself is: Just continue on your way, you already had it before you knew your twinflame? Unfortunately I have lost the motivation a bit, but I can still do it with my head. There is no escaping that pain that is just as good as the other. Then carry it with you. I also recognize that gut story, but not specifically as a result of letting go. (Arundash) You are in mind and asleep with your twinflame, you are constantly in communication even though you do not know that, you agree unnoticed about things, and suddenly you discover that the penny also falls on the other side. Your own quarters may not be as yours as you think! What do I say, if you have always thought … Working on yourself is: Just continue on your way, you already had it before you knew your twinflame? Unfortunately I have lost the motivation a bit, but I can still do it with my head. There is no escaping that pain that is just as good as the other. Then carry it with you. I also recognize that gut story, but not specifically as a result of letting go. (Arundash) and suddenly you discover that the penny also falls on the other side. Your own quarters may not be as yours as you think! What do I say, if you have always thought … Working on yourself is: Just continue on your way, you already had it before you knew your twinflame? Unfortunately I have lost the motivation a bit, but I can still do it with my head. There is no escaping that pain that is just as good as the other. Then carry it with you. I also recognize that gut story, but not specifically as a result of letting go. (Arundash) and suddenly you discover that the penny also falls on the other side. Your own quarters may not be as yours as you think! What do I say, if you have always thought … Working on yourself is: Just continue on your way, you already had it before you knew your twinflame? Unfortunately I have lost the motivation a bit, but I can still do it with my head. There is no escaping that pain that is just as good as the other. Then carry it with you. I also recognize that gut story, but not specifically as a result of letting go. (Arundash) but I can still do it with my head. There is no escaping that pain that is just as good as the other. Then carry it with you. I also recognize that gut story, but not specifically as a result of letting go. (Arundash) but I can still do it with my head. There is no escaping that pain that is just as good as the other. Then carry it with you. I also recognize that gut story, but not specifically as a result of letting go. (Arundash)

Answer 2
Well and whether you can get physical and psychosomatic complaints, it’s all part of the transformation process. That too is about again, for me it was changed sleep rhythm and shingles, it is not the twinflame itself that causes it, but the emotional mess and the sadness of many many lifetimes that has to go. Usually nothing for a while and then cleaning up again. If we cleaned everything up at the same time, we would die because it is too much for 1 time at a time. Just like the body actually cleans up. See also question 492, which deals with it. (Who knows)

Answer 3
Dear Arundash, Thank you for your comprehensive answer. When I am with him, I am influencing him from my conscious and unconscious. It seems like I can’t control it, it just happens. Now we have no contact at all (well, not by telephone, mail, etc.). And then I can’t influence him, can I? Difficult and it hurts terribly, especially a lot of physical pain. I know very well what I want in my life and I am getting started with that. I don’t feel that my twinflame is inhibiting me in that. I have also taken steps away from him (looking for other work that appeals to me, while he is now a colleague). I think it’s such a nice idea that we are together at night. We also often dream about each other. I would just like to experience it more tangibly. It doesn’t feel like I’ve been to him at night. Although I do know that I hardly ever stay physically ‘home’ at night. What could my intestinal complaints be related to? (Beauze)

Answer 4
Dear Arundash and Wieweet, thank you for your reactions, it is very useful to me. Last weekend I almost went crazy, I have never felt myself so unhappy and full of pain. It was so bad that I didn’t want to be there anymore. I am quite fierce in my moods and that has become much worse in recent years. I even think I have bordeline to a certain extent (if you want to put a label on it). I also experience physical symptoms that may indicate a cleansing. Skin complaints, eye complaints, poor sleep, tiredness. I even had shingles last year. Regarding the influence of your twinflame, you have to trust that he or she will automatically come to the right place, although that usually takes longer than we dearly love. Indeed, letting go is the best and the most difficult. I try as much as possible to do what feels right to me, to fill in my life in a way that is nice to me and hope that my twinflame will benefit from it. I know from experience that we often get together in our sleep. That is very expensive for me because we hardly ever see each other. And yes, I don’t have the motivation either, but I have to go on just like you. (Who knows)

Answer 5
Dear Beauze … If you decide you no longer have contact, you can still influence each other telepathically or more generally energetically. Being physically together is just not possible (see it as “even”, that helps). Physical pain is very difficult to deal with. I know that dying of sorrow in which your heart hurts, but that is a blow to me and passes. I have no experience with permanent physical pain. Someone else? About dealing with emotions: it easily engulfs you. Then come out. The trick is to prevent it from happening. When I feel “the” feeling coming up, I pay attention to my thoughts. What did I think a second ago? Ten to one that it is the thought that triggers the emotion. If you pay attention to that, you will find out what your thought pattern is. What you say to yourself all day. Then you can convert it. For example, I always thought: “How awful …” but now I immediately think of it … “exciting!” With a deep sigh. which totally changes the energy. The desperate emotion also comes after it no more. Of course there is your deep soul pain. You don’t just solve that, you need your twinflame for that. And vice versa. But you don’t always have to touch it or raise it yourself. I think it is bad enough when it comes to me from outside. All those signs, huh. Very clever that you could take a different job. Viewed in this way, your twinflame has a huge impact on your own decisions. Who knows how important that is for your way. Just a little longer! (Arundash) The desperate emotion also comes after it no more. Of course there is your deep soul pain. You don’t just solve that, you need your twinflame for that. And vice versa. But you don’t always have to touch it or raise it yourself. I think it is bad enough when it comes to me from outside. All those signs, huh. Very clever that you could take a different job. Viewed in this way, your twinflame has a huge impact on your own decisions. Who knows how important that is for your way. Just a little longer! (Arundash) The desperate emotion also comes after it no more. Of course there is your deep soul pain. You don’t just solve that, you need your twinflame for that. And vice versa. But you don’t always have to touch it or raise it yourself. I think it is bad enough when it comes to me from outside. All those signs, huh. Very clever that you could take a different job. Viewed in this way, your twinflame has a huge impact on your own decisions. Who knows how important that is for your way. Just a little longer! (Arundash) Very clever that you could take a different job. Viewed in this way, your twinflame has a huge impact on your own decisions. Who knows how important that is for your way. Just a little longer! (Arundash) Very clever that you could take a different job. Viewed in this way, your twinflame has a huge impact on your own decisions. Who knows how important that is for your way. Just a little longer! (Arundash)

Answer 6
A desperate emotion was always fear with me .. fear that it will not / never go well, now that I have faith and want to keep that fear away and therefore the emotion to that extent and yes it is exciting and a sigh. (Unknown)

Answer 7
The soul is like a computer. The cleaning process, what is that called in computer jargon, it is kind of formatting indeed. And my brother-in-law, who is a computer programmer, can explain that perfectly. It is often manual, takes a lot of patience, he stays on standby (read: at the lesson or with his feet on the ground), and in the meantime does something else, with an oblique eye to the ongoing process. I look at it that way, a little bit programmatically. What the soul has for the computer: ALL time in the world. (Who knows)

Answer 8
A knife with a thousand barbs through the soul every moment of the day. Amputated (Unknown)

Answer 9
I sympathize with you .. I had the same thing and you are almost literally bleeding behind, such an extreme pain I never thought possible !! After being pathetic for months, it is a bit of my own “arrogance” mss, I thought. I visualized the connection by cutting the wire with a pair of scissors and said out loud (add extra strength) sweetheart I let you go now, I’m going to break here .. K love you but I love myself even more and this is possible not like that anymore .. I will continue to live, the best. When I went to look for new work, make new contacts, train again a few days a week, eat good healthy food (all nutrients), she came back into my life .. The big lesson in this is for both: choose yourself and realize that you love are !! The physical ailments etc also pass, this is part of being born again and is all very old .. also from other lives! Trust in divine timing and indulge yourself nicely, do nothing that you don’t want to do and above all make sure that you keep the focus and attention to yourself otherwise all your energy will flow away .. As soon as you feel this! then that true person will also come back because once in each other’s energy you reinforce each other and the growth almost goes on then .. Stay confident because in the time that you still have to wait you should make it as pleasant as possible for yourself! Change some things in your house, start doing new things, eat well and keep moving .. Realizing that you yourself are love and feeling this will make your soulmate return quickly .. Let it go! Trust in divine timing and indulge yourself nicely, do nothing that you don’t want to do and above all make sure that you keep the focus and attention to yourself otherwise all your energy will flow away .. As soon as you feel this! then that true person will also come back because once in each other’s energy you reinforce each other and the growth almost goes on then .. Stay confident because in the time that you still have to wait you should make it as pleasant as possible for yourself! Change some things in your house, start doing new things, eat well and keep moving .. Realizing that you yourself are love and feeling this will make your soulmate return quickly .. Let it go! Trust in divine timing and indulge yourself nicely, do nothing that you don’t want to do and above all make sure that you keep the focus and attention to yourself otherwise all your energy will flow away .. As soon as you feel this! then that true person will also come back because once in each other’s energy you reinforce each other and the growth almost goes on then .. Stay confident because in the time that you still have to wait you should make it as pleasant as possible for yourself! Change some things in your house, start doing new things, eat well and keep moving .. Realizing that you yourself are love and feeling this will make your soulmate return quickly .. Let it go! then that true person will also come back because once in each other’s energy you reinforce each other and the growth almost goes on then .. Stay confident because in the time that you still have to wait you should make it as pleasant as possible for yourself! Change some things in your house, start doing new things, eat well and keep moving .. Realizing that you yourself are love and feeling this will make your soulmate return quickly .. Let it go! then that true person will also come back because once in each other’s energy you reinforce each other and the growth almost goes on then .. Stay confident because in the time that you still have to wait you should make it as pleasant as possible for yourself! Change some things in your house, start doing new things, eat well and keep moving .. Realizing that you yourself are love and feeling this will make your soulmate return quickly .. Let it go! I wish you a lot of strength xx (Unknown)