Q0851. What now?

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What now ? Do I have to choose feeling, heart or mind? My family will suffer for this, my husband knows nothing but my love wants me and I want him…. So far away, I get sick at the thought of letting him go but I am not happy …

Answer 1
I understand you so well! I am also in a relationship, I have 2 kids, I am unhappy. No, but not super happy either. Well, and then you meet that one man. Everything is upside down, I prefer to be with him, that is what my heart says, but I think it is not the right time yet. I am convinced that we will come together! I met him once, I doubted if I had to do it because of my feeling, and maybe he was very disappointing. Unfortunately my feeling towards him has only increased and I am having a terrible time. Fortunately we are in contact and I can share my feelings with him, I am also very happy that I can contact him for that! I am grateful that I can have this feeling for someone, although it is very difficult. I experience it as very deep intense love, which is very difficult to describe.

Answer 2
You know, you don’t have to choose. Live your life by the day, try to make the best of every new day with your family and spouse. You didn’t marry him for nothing, there must have been love. The fact that you also got to know and recognize your twinflame is something beautiful that you can genuinely enjoy. But I believe that twinflame love is not meant to cause sadness and to pull people apart. It must be a more subtle and gradual process, in which you get to know yourself better and better and in which you gradually grow apart in a marriage, and at some point you are simply done with each other. I think if you start something with your twin headlong, this is doomed to fail because many people around you will be sad. Strength and success. (Unknown)

Answer 3
I fully agree with the person from answer 2. Of course, it is possible that the love between spouses changes from a flash flame to a small pilot flame, but promising one another faithfully means that you do not just give up. Not even when you meet your twinflame. The soul love is meant to come much closer to yourself and if that means that you and your husband still grow apart, then that is true. But as the person from answer 2 said, this is a lengthy process that you have to go through. Impulsive decisions are rarely good in the long term. Indeed because it increases the chance of failure and then you will end up empty handed. I assume you better treat yourself? All of this requires a clear mind. Remember that it is never too late to ask God to help you with that. He will mark the path determined for you by means of a variety of signs, but it is up to you to (want to) see it and to accept that they sometimes send you in a different direction than you expect. Expectations must be set aside and that is not easy, but it is necessary to understand that the designated route is the only correct one. If you follow this path and make the choices you encounter on your path, then you never have to regret it. Let us know how you are doing. Wishing you strength and wisdom! (Unknown) If you follow this path and make the choices you encounter on your path, then you never have to regret it. Let us know how you are doing. Wishing you strength and wisdom! (Unknown) If you follow this path and make the choices you encounter on your path, then you never have to regret it. Let us know how you are doing. Wishing you strength and wisdom! (Unknown)

Answer 4
Dear questioner: unfortunately there is no ready-made answer to this. Others cannot draw the answer for you either. You only know how much weight all the factors play a role. But in any case, dare to be honest with yourself, then you will get the clearest idea of ​​what is best, no matter how spicy or easy it will be. (Unknown)

Answer 5
Answer 3, I was from answer 2 and I think you said it very nicely! That’s exactly what I meant. I myself am also in the middle of it, I am married, I have children and I have a soul love. The marriage with my husband is actually getting better, we have known each other for a long time and can read and write together, we still find each other very attractive and it is more than good in our relationship on all fronts. I therefore feel a very happy person. And yes, then there is the other, the twinflame. The one who is always with me is spiritual, who constantly holds up a mirror to me and I to him, who runs away from me and I to him. But of whom I know that there is something between us that we both cannot explain and that I have often cursed. In the meantime (and then I talk about 18 years) I am finally satisfied that he is always present in the background in my life. Sometimes he comes to the fore (when we see each other) and afterwards I always have a hard time, and he too. I know EVERYTHING about him without telling me much. It goes very deep and it can hurt very deeply, I know from experience. I will never leave my husband for him, I will never hurt others because I choose him. No. If it has to be that way someday, then it will be so. But I know for sure that he still has to grow a lot spiritually (and I don’t mean that arrogantly) and is not nearly ready for all this. IF he will ever be. I know that I have a kind of guiding role in his life, not meant for a romantic relationship. No, I believe that twinflame kinship is not about romantic relationships, but about growing spiritually, developing yourself to become a whole person. And sometimes people come together in it and sometimes it can go well. But only if both are the same, which is seldom the case. That is what most people who have got to know their twinflame do not want to face. And that is a shame because you deprive yourself of the chance to become happy with someone other than that twinflame, and you focus entirely on your twinflame while the time is not right for it. Do not. If it is meant to be, it will come naturally. In the meantime, you have to live your life to the full and give your love to anyone you want. Allow yourself to fall in love terrestrial, in a heart there is room for more than 1 person. Love does not diminish when you share it. Things can coexist, as long as you allow yourself. I met my husband and it was love at first sight. It has always clicked like a tierelier. I knew that he is the (earthly) love of my life. Later I realized that what I feel with my twinflame is a twinflame kinship. Then many question marks fell into place. For a long time I thought it was a forbidden crush, but it wasn’t. With twinflame I have a kind of bond that I don’t have with my partner. Telepathy, feeling each other at a distance, etc. I really believe that this is meant to grow both spiritually. And if there ever needs to be more, it will come out. (Unknown) It has always clicked like a tierelier. I knew that he is the (earthly) love of my life. Later I realized that what I feel with my twinflame is a twinflame kinship. Then many question marks fell into place. For a long time I thought it was a forbidden crush, but it wasn’t. With twinflame I have a kind of bond that I don’t have with my partner. Telepathy, feeling each other at a distance, etc. I really believe that this is meant to grow both spiritually. And if there ever needs to be more, it will come out. (Unknown) It has always clicked like a tierelier. I knew that he is the (earthly) love of my life. Later I realized that what I feel with my twinflame is a twinflame kinship. Then many question marks fell into place. For a long time I thought it was a forbidden crush, but it wasn’t. With twinflame I have a kind of bond that I don’t have with my partner. Telepathy, feeling each other at a distance, etc. I really believe that this is meant to grow both spiritually. And if there ever needs to be more, it will come out. (Unknown) For a long time I thought it was a forbidden crush, but it wasn’t. With twinflame I have a kind of bond that I don’t have with my partner. Telepathy, feeling each other at a distance, etc. I really believe that this is meant to grow both spiritually. And if there ever needs to be more, it will come out. (Unknown) For a long time I thought it was a forbidden crush, but it wasn’t. With twinflame I have a kind of bond that I don’t have with my partner. Telepathy, feeling each other at a distance, etc. I really believe that this is meant to grow both spiritually. And if there ever needs to be more, it will come out. (Unknown)

Answer 6
@ Answer 5: I am the one of answer 3 and I in turn find your story one full of wisdom. It is really enviable that you see things the way you see them. I share your opinion that soul love is not about romance, but about your own development. But every now and then I wish that the man my soul love focuses on would also recognize me as his soulmate “and we lived happily ever after.” Sometimes I find it really hard to let go of everything completely and to follow my own path, but that is getting better and better. With an occasional relapse, I slowly pick up again. This is how I come from a phase in which I wanted to do everything, both material and spiritual. I managed to let that go and the saying “want less, achieve more” is absolutely true. It is as if I experience everything much more consciously and live much more in the NOW. Can only fall in love with someone else ..? that is still difficult. In the meantime I am dating other men again and I do not expect anything from that. If there is a suitable person, I will notice that automatically. If it has to be that my soulmate becomes my partner, then I will notice that automatically. That the greatest strength and wisdom lies in letting go, I no longer doubt that. In practice, however, it is a difficult but fascinating process! That keeps me going. (Unknown) then I notice that automatically. That the greatest strength and wisdom lies in letting go, I no longer doubt that. In practice, however, it is a difficult but fascinating process! That keeps me going. (Unknown) then I notice that automatically. That the greatest strength and wisdom lies in letting go, I no longer doubt that. In practice, however, it is a difficult but fascinating process! That keeps me going. (Unknown)

Answer 7
Dear writer / writer of answer 6; thank you for your sweet compliment, the tears are catching my eyes for a moment, it makes my (gloomy) day good. I think that you also deal with it wisely and wisely. This is certainly an intensely difficult process in which I often have the feeling of two steps forward and one backward. Periods of stagnation and frustration, on the other hand, there are times when everything flows and seems to go naturally. It also makes me very tired physically, constant thinking, feeling, never resting. Then there is my dear husband, who loves me so intensely and I love him. Really my soulmate. And I can stand up to him like that, out of pure frustration. The poor soul does not deserve that, at those moments I feel so bad. While I know I’m not bad. But it sometimes tore me apart. I don’t want my twinflame in my life (and yet again, do you still get it?) Because it makes everything so complicated. But my twinflame IS in my life, and that will not be without reason. I am faced with the difficult task of dealing with this in the right way, whatever has been successful so far. There were very difficult and seductive moments, recognized by both my twinflame and by me without talking about it. And I noticed that he then also took a step back, which I found embarrassing, but which also graces him. My husband and twinflame know each other and have a very good understanding. That makes it extra difficult and precarious because I always have to pay attention to everything I do and say. And then my husband flawlessly senses that twinflame and I “share” something together, that there is something between us that we cannot even name ourselves. He is wrong if the same sentences are rolling out of our mouths, if we are discussing and he and I appear to have exactly the same vision. I know he finds this okay as long as nothing happens. And I am 100% responsible for the latter. The love in my relationship and for the children is worth too much to me, is worth everything to me. And that includes the pain that this entails and that keeps me growing, even though it is not pleasant. (Unknown) And that includes the pain that this entails and that keeps me growing, even though it is not pleasant. (Unknown) And that includes the pain that this entails and that keeps me growing, even though it is not pleasant. (Unknown)