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Dear soul lovers, I have known my soul love for 3.5 years. We both have a relationship with children. There is no possibility of us coming together. Totally different worlds, although there are similarities in professions and character. I do not expect anything and am not waiting for a change that would bring too much pain for others. He has always kept me at a distance in a businesslike way. I always feel the flow of love when we are together. He clearly states his limits, but does this in a friendly manner. Always trying to give me the message that it only comes from me. This hurts. I don’t see him that often, but I feel a strong need to sometimes have that contact. Even if it is to know that he is doing well. For a few months I see him for a reason that has nothing to do with us. So often I have tried to make it clear to him that the bond we have is very special, through a conversation, via e-mail, etc. He repels me and behaves more and more distantly. Sometimes I feel irritation, which makes me afraid that he will hate me. I don’t want this. Now I am faced with a dilemma, despite the fact that I like to see him, I am thinking not to go next time. It hurts that he rejects me like that. Then I restrain myself, while I so much want to enjoy his short presence. When I go, it hurts to feel that he doesn’t want anything from me. If I don’t go, I will miss him so much and I can no longer feel his energy. In short, I don’t know anymore .. Going hurts, staying hurts .. I must allow him to push me away. Every time he does this, I think that everything was just an illusion. Maybe that is also true … please go .. let go ..
Answer 1
I sympathize with you. The desire remains whether you do it or not. You could go but release your ego. Keep the conversation cozy and light. Don’t force a conversation, like explaining to him that you have a bond together. He is not open to it. Seeing him can be an advantage, you can now control the conversation in a different way. Just what you say, let go, let go. (Unknown)
Answer 2
You already say it yourself; let’s go. Easier said than done. If he really is your twin, then someday you’ll be fine. Ever. But you both have to be ready for that and the situation has to be right. In the meantime you will have to let it go and that does not mean that the connection will disappear because it will always be there. It means that you let him lead his life and you yours. Not seeing each other anymore can be better than seeing each other and always experiencing that rejection. Often someone you have released with your heart, just comes back to you. (Unknown)
Answer 3
And when I read this I think…. how coincidentally again … is this real? or? which desperate twin did I think I wrote while reading this story, the one who is bored and trying to get under the skin of his twin to elicit reactions? or the twin who thinks he is the teacher and wants to tell his student something important … but why should that be so? you also don’t let your child drown in half by constantly throwing him into the deep when he has to learn to swim … I try to understand but I can’t … help …. (Unknown)
Answer 4
I am the questioner. To answer 3: I ask the question purely to find some support and an answer to my question. No hair on my head that thinks my twin is reading this, no way! He is far too sober for this. So no double message, just a question for wise advice. To answer 1: I let go of that ego, it works reasonably well, but I still feel the pain, probably of the rejection of my love. . Answer 2: I tried this method 1 time, I had myself with it. It was as if I had stuck a knife into myself. I literally felt the tear of my soul. How difficult this is, just when you think of: ‘now I have it under control, it comes up again’ One thing I know for sure: “this will never go away, this will just stay” Some people think that it is just like falling in love, it can also be intense, but after a while it drops. This feeling is always something that burns like a small flame, sometimes it almost seems to be over, it flares up regularly. But it will never go out completely. Thanks again for the kind reactions. (Unknown)
Answer 5
It hurts when the other person is not ready yet, I felt that too, but always knew he would not hurt me, but he is not ready yet and then I had to let go. Oh yes I have been very sad sometimes, several times, but it is your own sadness, your own impotence, try to turn that into understanding and then it hurts a lot less and you only see love. Seeing each other too often in such a process can be disruptive until you are ready for it then it seems completely great to me .. until patience
Answer 6
I agree with answer 2. If you have released your twin with your heart, it will just come back to you. However, releasing your twin is one of the most difficult things. It is up to you how you feel with it and whether you can handle it. Don’t force him to believe in a band like you do. In this way you push it even further away from you. If you choose to see him, keep it cozy. While distance, on the other hand, offers the opportunity to reflect. Success in your decision. (Unknown)
Answer 7
Once again with the latest answers! That is how it works. I am also in the middle of a similar situation. My twin is not yet as far as I am and sometimes rejects me, rejects me after he first attracted me. Feel like a toy sometimes. But I know he does it out of fear. I feel that fear too. As soon as he is a bit more relaxed because he has drunk something, his soft side comes to the table. But unexpectedly always comes the moment that he rejects me. Then I leave, for example, and he just doesn’t say goodbye. It is a feeling that will always be like a pilot in you and sometimes it flares up into a real forest fire. I had that Saturday, I saw him, was close to him and Boem! That desire overwhelmed me terribly. Difficult to do something useful with that… (Unknown)
Answer 8
He pushes you away because he is in a denial phase. He probably feels it, but is shocked and tries to pretend that it isn’t. I was in the same situation years ago. He finally said that he was in love with me. Now we have a relationship together and work towards a life together. We are both married and with children, but we have decided that we do not want or cannot live without each other. My advice is go, and be a good friend, dear friend. From that friendship that love will come true. Then you also know whether it is there or not. But be confident. If you feel this, then he feels it too. Try to see him with different eyes, of unconditional love and friendship. That is what soul love is all about. You feel what he feels and you also know that he distances himself from fear. I must warn you that this love will not go away and you will want to be with him more and more and with you. It is very difficult if you already have a life. But on the other hand this also happens for a reason and I think we should always give this a chance. Children can pick up so many beautiful things from life when it comes down to you choosing one another. This is part of a much bigger plan than our daily robot life and it certainly deserves a chance to see what it is and why we feel the way we do. (Unknown) But on the other hand this also happens for a reason and I think we should always give this a chance. Children can pick up so many beautiful things from life when it comes down to you choosing one another. This is part of a much bigger plan than our daily robot life and it certainly deserves a chance to see what it is and why we feel the way we do. (Unknown) But on the other hand this also happens for a reason and I think we should always give this a chance. Children can pick up so many beautiful things from life when it comes down to you choosing one another. This is part of a much bigger plan than our daily robot life and it certainly deserves a chance to see what it is and why we feel the way we do. (Unknown)
Answer 9
Answer 8, you hit the nail on the head. It is something that will never disappear, but it is difficult. I am in a marriage and have children. You don’t just get out of it. I do experience that the urge to be with my twin is becoming more intense and that some people around us seem to be keeping us apart due to so-called coincidences. The other day we would have to go somewhere in the car, and a third person asked if I would not sit in the car with them. I refused. I won’t let my twin take me away for a minute. People around us seem unaware of what is going on between twin and me. (Unknown)
Answer 10
I am the questioner: What a sweet answer! Thank you all very much .. It is a heart to me, I get so much support from this. Answer 8: You say that it will only become more, the feeling: then I think: ‘more? can I handle that? ”What you say about friendship and unconditional love, I can feel that from him, that feeling. That he always approaches me that way, despite the fact that he clearly draws a line between us. I will certainly use the wonderful tips! Lots of love. (Unknown)
Answer 11
Yes you are going to want to be with him more and more, that is also my experience, let happen what is unstoppable..loving. (Unknown)
A nswer 12
I’m from Answer 8: Here’s a good tip against that pain. In addition to the greatest love, this person is also the best person in the world. What can really run very nicely is if you delve more into your friendship. Love him as a best friend and try to get a relationship out of your mind. This love grows alongside friendship, but in a very innocent and pure way, without anyone being frightened. In this way you can grow together and see what this means. This is a good way to feel less pain. There is no room for jealousy for the partner in this relationship. Know that whatever happens, YOU are in his heart forever. What makes this love so special is that you are always best friends. Focus on that! and you will be with this person and with this person. And if it has to be more, then it will naturally come up, from the other. Never let go. This is going to grow so much deep and becomes so much more beautiful. At a certain point it doesn’t hurt anymore. Whatever he does, even if he has 50 partners, you will feel no pain. Because this person is our true half, made for us. And nobody, but nobody, can get that out of him! (Unknown)
Answer 13
To antw.12, 50 partners? then you are clearly not ready for your other half .. dear friends? yes .. it grows by itself, but if my twin had 50 partners it would hurt me incredibly and I would not want to be my best friend if you are twins you want each other as a partner in the long run (at least feel that way) me that) and the rest is friends..so I see that and you can love those friends incredibly much if a twin is still in a relationship then it is something else, that is another way that it should probably go and that 50 partners haha..i would say good luck with maintenance. (Unknown)
Answer 14
Dear answer 12, I almost cry for your reaction, which touches me in the heart. This is truth, and also my truth. This is how we are doing exactly. That friendship is so intensely special. My twinflame and I do not often have the opportunity to do something with the two of us, but it worked out once and that was great. We could be ourselves together. I still get a lot of energy out of it! I feel that there is a lot of love beneath the outside of this friendsha, how do you say that, also attractiveness towards each other. But that may not come out, it is too early. But we both feel it and that is even harder for him than for me. He has had many girlfriends and more will follow, but nevertheless I know that I am his true, that I will never go out of his heart, and that is why I never feel jealous of his partners. It is an all-surpassing and unconditional love, that soul love! I can’t think of anything that would hurt him so much that I would never want to see him again. Impossible. Because I know that’s all ego. His ego sometimes plays a big role when I see him, but I look through it and then I see pure love, our love. It is so special. (Unknown)
Answer 15
Answer 12, very nicely said, that’s how I feel, but what if your twinflame doesn’t even want to be a friend of yours, let alone your best friend, how do you handle that, how should something grow like that, and how should you ever get to know each other in earthly life (Florence)
Answer 16
I am answering 12: 50 partners is an example. What do you think unconditionally means? I am talking about 1 partner, but to indicate the pain I say 50. It is best to let twinflame find out for themselves what they want. If he / she is not ready, do not be angry or sad. This is a part of yourself that is probably not ready, because you are 1. I speak from experience, we have overcome everything. With a lot of pain, yes, but we are already so far and inseparable. The harder you pull the twinflame, the harder he runs away. Be the person who loves him / her in every situation, unconditionally, even as the best friend. This way the process goes faster. If he doesn’t want to be friends, let him go. Find that love IN yourself. Because you love this person because he is a part of yourself. Only guess 3 times where the other half is … Let go of the enormous need to have an earthly standard relationship and he will come back himself. This is anything but earthly. It is not everyday, it is heavenly and pure and there is no room for ego. And for those who wrote about those 50 (Answer 13) partners … Yes, I know that what I say is unacceptable in our daily lives, but to love someone so unconditionally is only possible on a soul level. Knowing that you are the only one for him (even though he may be in a relationship), understanding his fear, and loving him / her unconditionally. You need everything you know about relationships, all the rules, all the jealousy, all the nasty feelings, all the demands in a relationship, really EVERYTHING you know about relationships for a moment and love this person the way you would love yourself. You love yourself even though you know that you are making mistakes, sometimes doing things that you will regret later. This love should be that unconditional. That is expelling ego. If you succeed, then you will naturally come together. And everything on your way disappears by itself. Work on your ego and really try to look at that twinflame differently. This is something very different. Trust me, I’ve experienced so much in this. and most importantly, never let this love go out of your heart, because THIS IS WHO YOU ARE REALLY! (Unknown) That is expelling ego. If you succeed, then you will naturally come together. And everything on your way disappears by itself. Work on your ego and really try to look at that twinflame differently. This is something very different. Trust me, I’ve experienced so much in this. and most importantly, never let this love go out of your heart, because THIS IS WHO YOU ARE REALLY! (Unknown) That is expelling ego. If you succeed, then you will naturally come together. And everything on your way disappears by itself. Work on your ego and really try to look at that twinflame differently. This is something very different. Trust me, I’ve experienced so much in this. and most importantly, never let this love go out of your heart, because THIS IS WHO YOU ARE REALLY! (Unknown)
Answer 17
To ANS.16, thank you for your ANS, yes I think so too, that is unconditional for me (I am ANS.13), and a standard relationship I think I had let go of for a long time, unconditionally love each other no matter how it goes and want to be a friend even if it is at a distance with all the love I have in me .. and fear of losing him I don’t have, I know we belong together, but how do you go you miss it? that is still difficult for me. (Unknown)
Answer 18
Reply 16, nicely spoken and I understand what you are saying. And it is true that you can only love someone so unconditionally on a soul level, despite the mistakes that person makes. That love never goes away and I wouldn’t want that either. And everyone makes mistakes in their lives, that is also allowed, only if I hurt someone in the earthly or deliberately do damage and I come to the conclusion later that I have been very stupid / wrong or mean then I offer them I apologize to that person, especially if I knew that that person was STILL in some sort of uncertainty because of my actions. If I didn’t correct that in the earthly, I couldn’t even look at myself anymore, but that’s me. (Florence)
Answer 19
Yes Answer 16, Loving yourself a lot is the key in twinflame happenings. It is a trait of me to always keep myself clean, and I always keep my twinflame clean because we are 1 in two. There has never been anything unpleasant between us. (Unknown)
Answer 20
Dear writer of answer 16; you say exactly the things that I would say and as I experience them myself with my twinflame. Only since I have the soul love in my life do I know what unconditionally means. And it was a very big bump to accept that the love for my own earthly partner is not unconditional and that for my twinflame is. I believe I was never as shocked as when I realized that. My twin is such a person who actually had more than 50 partners (and free-range, of course). And that is completely ok for me. He is still on dating path and is a rather loose-minded type. But that cannot really affect me all. Because I know, really feel from my heart, that he belongs to me and only feels the same to me as I do to him. All earthly limitations and ideas disappear when I am with him, it goes beyond all the limits that you get to know in the course of life. Most people don’t understand this and would condemn me particularly hard if they knew about my feelings for this man. But I know and he knows that this is purer than pure, heavenly and cannot be broken by anyone. I am now so far that I now dare to surrender everything to the universe and trust the good outcome. (Unknown) I am now so far that I now dare to surrender everything to the universe and trust the good outcome. (Unknown) I am now so far that I now dare to surrender everything to the universe and trust the good outcome. (Unknown)
Answer 21
To answer 19, I don’t think it’s a clean conversation, but understanding each other, because you’re the same and therefore often encounters the same reactions and situations, I understand my twin, don’t need to talk to him clean because it’s good like he is, just see Love in him .. see him for me as tender, gentle, for me an angel, and yes he will make ‘mistakes’ just like me, we are not saints but people with sometimes shortcomings, questions, uncertainties etc. but boy I love that man .. (Unknown)
Answer 22
And yet, despite all the difficult stories here, I hope and actually I believe that in the end we can handle a standard relationship, it will take some getting used to constantly looking in the mirror and it will sometimes be fierce but we are both , always, sweet to each other, and understanding and I have had signs that point to a real relationship, with all the trimmings, maybe not immediately, but still, but still .. or is this just wishful thinking? (Unknown)