Q0671. The key in the final phase?

Lisette

My twinflame and I want to be together and have chosen each other. The problem is that we are both in a relationship and he is not let go despite having told his partner about his feeling. He has accepted that and simply does not want to let him go, even though he states that he is not happy and wants to be with someone else. They have a dead relationship and a lot of arguments. We have dealt with this very carefully for years, to hurt the people around us as little as possible. We cannot live without each other and want to be together. It now seems as if we are standing in front of a wall and cannot go anywhere. It seems to have a key, just like everything in the twinflame relationship that brings a lot of mysteries about the growth process. And we can’t find that key. Does anyone know how this final phase works and how we can be released? His partner is quite selfish and wants to cling at all costs and secretly tries to force a pregnancy and financially secure him further, so that he can never go away. I have always given her every chance to deal with this in the best possible way and I have never forced anything. I have distanced myself for years so that she can find her way in this situation. But he definitely wants to be with me and I want to be with him. What is the key to each other when someone like that stands between us and keeps us apart. I know it is part of the phases of this love, but we will never get out. Does anyone know how this works? Everything has been for a reason so far, to bring us closer together. But how do we deal with this? I have always given her every chance to deal with this in the best possible way and I have never forced anything. I have distanced myself for years so that she can find her way in this situation. But he definitely wants to be with me and I want to be with him. What is the key to each other when someone like that stands between us and keeps us apart. I know it is part of the phases of this love, but we will never get out. Does anyone know how this works? Everything has been for a reason so far, to bring us closer together. But how do we deal with this? I have always given her every chance to deal with this in the best possible way and I have never forced anything. I have distanced myself for years so that she can find her way in this situation. But he definitely wants to be with me and I want to be with him. What is the key to each other when someone like that stands between us and keeps us apart. I know it is part of the phases of this love, but we will never get out. Does anyone know how this works? Everything has been for a reason so far, to bring us closer together. But how do we deal with this? I know it is part of the phases of this love, but we will never get out. Does anyone know how this works? Everything has been for a reason so far, to bring us closer together. But how do we deal with this? I know it is part of the phases of this love, but we will never get out. Does anyone know how this works? Everything has been for a reason so far, to bring us closer together. But how do we deal with this?

Answer 1
If I read your story like this, I think how long will you let this happen, what would you say to let such a person go, why should you be released? understand that your twin is afraid of doing something like that, but you write that it is a dead relationship, the key that is already in the door, and you just have to open it … that’s the last hurdle if I do it that way read .. so you maintain something that makes everyone unhappy .. that’s how you act out of fear and not out of love anymore … strength and love. (Unknown)

Answer 2
There is something I do not fully understand. How can this partner force a pregnancy? If he has chosen you then I think it is strange that he is still intimate with her. Not fair and not careful in my opinion either. But maybe I see it wrong or I miss something. And why can’t he leave her? What does that have to do with? To be honest, I always ask myself whether it is so good to switch from one relationship to another. Soul love or no soul love, you still need time to recover from a broken relationship and to know exactly who you are without another. (Unknown)

Answer 3
Twinflames should assume that, once they are together, material things don’t matter to me. Certainly not in a prosperous country like the Netherlands. It is a spiritual connection. Here too you could have an exemplary function. There are no problems if you are in your joint strength. Go away and go your own way. Can last for years but someday the partner comes after the feeling of loss. And she also gets the feeling that everything is relative. Try to see everything in a larger context. There is no key in the final phase, or is a different one with each twinflame set (Wieweet)

Answer 4
Hi Lisette I recognize your story like this! I’m looking for that key too. I have a bad relationship, my twinflame is single. As long as I am in a relationship, he no longer wants to contact me because of his principles. On the one hand understanding for its principles, on the other hand I think; that’s how life is, that’s how things work. The only thing I ask for is a little support. My partner cannot and will not let go of me, just like the partner of your twinflame. I know how bad this can be and how good of you that you do show understanding for your twinflame and try to help him. I have to figure it out all by myself, but that may also be part of our story. In any case, I recognize your story so that everything has happened so far for a reason to bring you closer together. Occasionally I come a step closer to the key to my feelings, maybe we can exchange experiences and thoughts? Who knows can we help each other to progress? Maybe we can email with each other? It becomes a bit too detailed to write here .. (TD)

Answer 5
I think the question arises here; should you be let go or you can let go yourself .. that is the last hurdle..but that is up to your twin and not to you..and you are also in a relationship, so that may also play for you in your relationship .. know and do..that is a whole step..strength (Unknown)

Answer 6
To answer 3, you are right, everything material, it will be resolved over time, if you let go of that fear then you are already that far, then it is a force that attracts the good things, you are taken care of, at the moment of letting go of that which is no longer good for you, you break through a wall and then ‘upstairs’ can help you .. then a lot of things will happen automatically .. there was once a huge angel in front of my door (really !) in human form, 1.5 years ago .. a soft / strong look .. I felt that he was happy that I had come that far and he gave me courage to continue. If you also start to feel that joint strength as you continue together then nothing will blow you away anymore .. I believe in that and I hope for that. (Unknown)

Answer 7
The situation you describe is partially recognizable to me. Your twin will have to find the power within himself to make a choice to go for love instead of matter. It is not a matter that you get stuck but find the power to make choices. Regarding forcing a pregnancy and to read that the relationship is dead, I ask myself. The signal that the feeling is not completely dead between the two. (Unknown)

Answer 8
The feeling does not have to be completely dead .. I also still feel love for others, so why not for an ex-partner, but whether you can go further together as lovers, that’s what it’s all about. (Unknown)

Answer 9
I am going along with answer 7. If she forces a pregnancy, I assume that they are also intimate or not !? I can’t get that out. But when the feeling is dead, there can still be a feeling left for each other to a certain extent. I wish you a lot of strength and positive thoughts. That you find the strength to be able to go for each other. Success in overcoming your fears. (Unknown)

Answer 10
Hi I am the questioner. Thank you for all your answers. Yes they are intimate for the form I think, but that is something that cannot come between our love. I have no sense of jealousy, because what we have is unconditional. With her his ego is intimate, with me his soul. Same goes for me. I am also intimate with partner, but with great effort and for the form. We are so far in the process of twinflames that nothing can come between us. Our love transcends daily life. No jealousy, no doubts, really nothing that can touch us. That is why we are ready to be together. We have let each other free out of complete trust. Now for the final phase. (Unknown)

Answer 11
And that ego and that of your partner you are intimate with, what kind of relationship is that? seems to me bad for your emotional life is my experience, yet also good to look at your own role in this, a nice play that you perform. (Unknown)

Answer 12
That is what unconditionally means. That is the ultimate test. If you overcome that, then you are already very far. (Unknown)

Answer 13
Unconditional? ultimate test? how do you mean? unconditional love and that play with intimacy with partners, it does not go with me .. how far are you then? is that fair? I am not jealous, I have no doubts and I think it is fine if my twin has a relationship, but honesty is my top priority, otherwise you will not be ready. (Unknown)

Answer 14
Answer 13, the people around you must also be ready. You cannot demolish everything in the name of your own happiness. I believe that we are so much more spiritually developed than the partners, and we must guide them through this process. They are our partners for a reason, because they also have to undergo a process. And about honesty, the partners are informed and will not let go. (Unknown)

Answer 15
To answer 14, how can other people be ready for your twinflame relationship? And what I do not understand: if you already know that you do not want to continue in your old relationship, why still muddy? Even if he or she wants to hold you (I know what I am talking about). Very human but not honest about your (former) partner? That may eventually become happier without you .. even though he / she does not know that yet. I know who the twin is of my (almost ex-) partner, namely a friend of mine. He denies her now. Perhaps that is different if we are completely separate from each other. Only then she has a partner that she has to let go (seems like a chain reaction). (Unknown)

Answer 16
I am from ANW 13. No, you must be ready. You are not responsible for the happiness of the other person, no you just throw things upside down because you don’t like twins, but “old” love as we know it appears to be based on dependence … , I do so ‘.. now that I know for sure that I no longer want to / can go with ex I get to see how it really is that old relationship..a confirmation (old energy) and I have to say it is wonderfully liberating for that to see. and yes I also know the twin from almost ex and hopefully he can learn a lot from this in life too. A chain reaction but that is the way it is in the world and so it is also in the small, everything that is no longer fair / love / truth is being cleaned up and we can work on it, wonderful anyway! (Unknown)

Answer 17
You are right, but it is not that easy to come loose. You care about a partner and you don’t want to hurt them. If you look at them like that, it’s pathetic, it will break your heart. If only it were different, but if you are a natural empathy, then it is even harder. Are you the partner or the twinflame? (Unknown)

Answer 18
To answer 17, yes I know that feeling, it is very difficult idd and it breaks your heart, I am a twinflame who also feels that and therefore I have postponed it for a long time, unfortunately there will come a moment then you cannot persevere with pity and luckily I had a partner who at some point realized that the relationship was no longer possible, no matter how difficult it is … but what hurts more? and it is still difficult .. it sounds a bit loud what I wrote but it has not happened to me in recent years. it is painful, difficult and maybe hurt myself, I cried about it for 3 years alone, without understanding, but I believe it is for a reason. one day it will become clearer, hopefully for everyone and I trust that the universe will also help my ex-partner and no, then it will no longer be pathetic. Precisely because of a lot of grief / major changes you get that contact, that trust, just look at twinflames what they have endured in grief, perhaps inwardly, not visible to the outside world. It is difficult. Strength. (Unknown)

Answer 19
Honesty is one of the most important aspects of life. What I read is that your twin still has intimacy with his partner. So, he gives her a certain hope that it can still work out well between them. I don’t agree with you that you don’t run over other people’s feelings. The fact is; you say you are ready? Then why not choose each other? You can both close your current relationship with respect, regardless of how your current partner is doing. That your current relationship no longer feels good is a fact. Who are you kidding? In general, people get hurt when you break up. How you deal with it now only gets worse. I agree what answer 13 writes. Be realistic. You won’t get any younger if you keep on muddling like that. This has nothing to do with selfishness, purely choose where you feel good with a clean feeling. (Elisabeth)