Why does everyone first have to stand on their own two feet?

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Why does everyone first have to stand on their own two feet and cannot twinflames learn and grow together? message: I have a twinflame who is still very young and noticed something at the time of our meeting but cannot name it. Because he is a young guy and has little experience, he doesn’t think about it. Now it is talked about everywhere that everyone must first stand emotionally on their own, without being dependent on the other, before one can meet again and enter into a relationship in whatever form. I should therefore let him go and wait until he has grown sufficiently and maybe someday will contact me again. While I now sense that if I let him go, he forgets me and that we will probably never have contact with each other again. I am told that he is entitled to make his own choices and mistakes. In other words, I will have to give him the freedom to grow myself. I totally agree with that !! But on the other hand, I agree with many fellow sufferers that the w! eg can also be walked together. That he can go through his growth with me in the background. He still makes his own choices. It’s not like I’m telling him what to do. It is more that I am a sounding board he can talk to. Either way, he makes his own choices and makes his own decisions. Recently a good friend asked me the question: “Ask yourself why you want to contact him.” This morning while writing in my story I just wrote the answer: “talk to me, I can help you. “(This sentence has haunted my mind for weeks)” Not that I have an answer to everything, but whatever he will say about his feelings, I will be the only one who feels exactly and knows what he means. I have already experienced that I feel his pain and sorrow. He does not have to keep up with me, and can tell all the pain and sorrow and confusion and uncertainty. ”Are there other twinflames who experience something similar and hey! r have experience with it?

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I feel a fear here that I will never see someone again. With you in the background, as you would like, he will feel that with every decision he makes in life, you are over his shoulder That is not growth, nor joint growth. If you want it to grow fast, I think you should let it go completely. Overcome the fear that you will never see it again. That is your growth spurt and there unknowingly and indirectly, he is also wearing something. (Unknown)

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My twin is much younger than me and is in a relationship with someone else. He still has to grow a lot and grow up. I can help him by being a regular friend to him, but I find that I also have to grow a lot myself. So the time that we are not together brings a lot of sadness with me but I do learn from it, I learn to be independent, I learn to be more spiritual, I am discovering and getting to know myself again, I live more consciously than before met my twin. Hope my answer has helped you a little (Lotte)

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It sounds very familiar this story, has been with this problem for 3 years, that we both wait and then do nothing .. I am also behind that you can grow together, but the weird thing is that every time I notice that my twin says for example, that I am a closed door that it is me for me too, crazy eh. we actually also think that the other person should contact us, you both want the same and therefore both do nothing. I know that on my way I need my buddy for certain things I’m not that far in yet, but my twin also needs me for things I’m further into, according to me, yes nice to grow together, we now have regular contact but that could be a bit more personal (more direct) so that you can be clear to each other now there are always others involved, there is no way for me to approach him without other viewers, so I can’t do that much unfortunately, so yes what is the best way eh? and then I say we! there why always wait for the other person? and then twin says the same again .. who is the closed door? haha (Unknown)

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I think it is quite possible that you grow together, provided that you have determined that together in advance. Once, up there before you returned to earth. You have always determined the encounter with your twinflame in advance up there, just like the lessons you wanted to learn from it. Perhaps you have agreed that in this life it was only meant to awaken each other or especially you. It is a big misunderstanding to think that twins are always meant to stay together in this life. If that is the case then you often “know” that and you will be helped from all sides to make that happen. Twinflames meet each other in multiple lives, but you do not encounter your twinflame in every life. The encounter is usually temporary and always serves to help each other work out karma. Only when all karma has been worked out and both twinflames have reached the same spiritual level will a jointly shared life! here on earth. This total amalgamation also has a purpose, the twinflames have a joint mission and they know that from each other. Usually it is also about persons / souls who have already experienced a lot in this life, often they also have external characteristics in common and the course of their life will have many synchronous events. Accept that your twin wants to stand on their own two feet, no matter how much you would like to help him. Sometimes it is also necessary to let your twin struggle yourself, with trial and error you often get further than if you are always protected. That too is love, letting go in love … If your twin needs you, he will come and see you.

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I was the questioner. Lotte, you are also talking about a twin that is much younger and for which you want to be a friend. I would like to continue to discuss this with you. If that is mutual; my email address is known to the editors. (Lilly)

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I think you (questioner) are quite haughty towards your Twin. How do you know you can help him? And it is not about your ego helping him, because the name twin SOUL says it all, if he wants to be helped then his / your soul who is all-knowing will help him on his way, first learn to become independent of him , because that is also one thing a soul must learn and not interfere with its development, firstly it will repel you (and you achieve the opposite of what you want) and secondly it is a mutual learning process, so start first with yourself, what your shortcomings are, your unprocessed emotions and opinions, your judgments towards yourself and others etc. And yes it is a mess, but don’t forget that a twinflame encounter is often just a reminder to let you know that the beautiful thing you feel can be found in yourself and that he only touched it if you touched it If you do not want to see, you will remain dependent throughout your life on someone else who probably will not even come into your life anymore or who wants to go through life with you. It may sound harsh but is often the reality. (Unknown)