Q0340. How do you continue after the soul love?

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2 years ago I met my soul love, that has been very intense and confronting. I would like to have a relationship with him, but he has made it clear to me that it is not going to happen because he already has a relationship and lives together. I find this very painful, also because the attraction is very strong, and he is also aware that we share soul love. Because I love him so much, I have to accept that the situation is as it is. I try to go further and have met someone else, a sweet man with a gentle nature, only my soul love is somewhere in between, when my friend is there I am even more confronted with the lack of my soul love. I wonder, how did you do that ?? How do you proceed with the next relationship or with the relationship that you do not want to give up and can it be there? What is honesty and respect for someone else? I want to listen to my heart, but does that mean I have to sit alone for the rest of my life? I’m having a hard time with this and I hope someone has some good tips. I do want to indicate how nice it is that this site exists, it often helps when I am not comfortable, knowing that there are more people who experience the same thing, lots of love

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The situation you are in, I think, is very recognizable for everyone here. What helps me is to accept the situation, that doesn’t mean you forget it. This is called lovingly releasing, he does not want to continue with you for now, accept this, you will find that this really relieves! You don’t have to do anything with your feelings, just let it “be”, also accept the attraction, but don’t do anything with it. I know this is easier said than done, but really try to let go. I would not start a new relationship that soon, or at least take it easy. I have a permanent relationship myself, so does he. For both of them there are too many obstacles to come together, we have no relationship, it is a very strong “love”. That is something very different from earthly love, it is unconditional. The pain really comes to an end, it is a phase, you will even find that you do not miss him anymore, because he is always with you. A lot of strength (Unknown)

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I also have a lot of trouble letting go of my twinflame, you want so badly with each other, especially if you have known each other for a long time, but if you are not yet destined for each other then you just have to look over lives does not seem good to stay alone, enjoy the relationship that you do have. I myself have been ruining my own relationship by hoping that it would be something with my twin. but as with question 339, if it is not yet the intention that you come together in this life, then it is good to enjoy the relationship that you do have, and to thereby further develop yourself and certainly not remain alone. tell your relationship what the other person means to you so that you can occasionally find support with this if you have sorrow or other processing symptoms about your twinflame. Because they are coming. . irrevocable .. it really is a huge learning process of trial and error .. hopefully you have a dear friend who is also open to souls and soul relationships .. mine sometimes understands nothing at all .. that does give removal .. hope that we can get a little closer together again (Unknown)

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I wonder what you expect from your current friend, should he fill in your being alone? Have you communicated well in advance what it means if someone has a soul love? “Get the sails”, do you know or don’t you feel that he has the energy of another woman hanging on his body, is that so nice then? (Unknown)

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Thanks for the sweet answers, in the meantime I broke up with my boyfriend, I was just not ready for it, moreover it clicked between us too short to continue. I did tell him of my soul love, I had done that quickly, I can’t stand secrets well, he had no further problems with this, I did, I didn’t think it was fair. I know that I have to let go in love and really try to learn that, I was still in contact with my soul love until a few days ago, after another confrontation I heard nothing from him, not even after my insistence . Michien is also better this way, I have to learn it too, just don’t know very well how, in that respect I hope I can end up in that period that I no longer miss him and that everything has been given a place, it it only hurts. But growing also hurts, I know that too. Yes it is idd annoying when you feel the energy of another woman around someone, that’s why I broke up, there should be nothing in between a new relationship, but I want to emphasize that we were really together for almost a year ago have been. I can’t do it anymore, I want him to stay and not always go back to the other, that doesn’t work and hurts too much. Thanks again, I know but we all have to do it our own way, a lot of strength for the future (Unknown) but I want to emphasize that we were together for the last time almost a year ago. I can’t do it anymore, I want him to stay and not always go back to the other, that doesn’t work and hurts too much. Thanks again, I know but we all have to do it our own way, a lot of strength for the future (Unknown) but I want to emphasize that we were together for the last time almost a year ago. I can’t do it anymore, I want him to stay and not always go back to the other, that doesn’t work and hurts too much. Thanks again, I know but we all have to do it our own way, a lot of strength for the future (Unknown)

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After the first meeting of my Soul Love (which went terribly wrong) I had an earthly relationship for 8 years. My partner was aware that my Soul Love was walking around somewhere. It has been debilitating for her. Living in uncertainty. Always knowing that one day I would choose the other. It eventually broke her inside. When the day came that my Soul Love wanted me again and I chose her, it broke my partner. I never want to do that to anyone again. Choose your ZL, unconditionally, even if that means that you have to stay alone for years because your Soul Love is occupied. You will be terribly sad to earthly partners one day. Moreover, there is probably a suitable earthly partner for “your” earthly partner. So let go of that earthly partner as soon as you meet your Soul Love. Don’t be selfish, just enjoy life on your own. Don’t break someone’s heart because you can’t handle life alone. (Unknown)

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Thank you, that’s how I feel about it, I tried it, but I really can’t keep it up for long, I can’t live to my heart, it’s with him. I can only make a real connection with him, everything else feels fake and I will feel guilty about that. I think that being alone is indeed the best choice for me, does not want to hurt others and I did so in the hope that I could bend my feelings, but I cannot. it’s a fight against yourself that I can’t win, thanks again, love (Unknown)