Q0303. A relationship was too difficult for me but why can’t I forget her?

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I broke the relationship myself because it was too difficult for me. I’m not ready for it yet, but not a day goes by that I don’t think about her, do you recognize this too?

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Hai, I recognize this too. My soul love has definitely broken the contact between us. And even though I try to let her go, she still has a lot of thoughts on me. I also miss her so much .. does your soul love know why you broke the relationship / contact? Or did you not tell her? She may also be thinking a lot about you. I think it is a kind of interaction .. The more you think of each other, the more often you keep thinking of each other and continue to feel each other .. The question is, what do you want with it? Were you unable to cope with the relationship because it felt too much for you? Or could you not handle the relationship because of other things. Like having another partner, for example. Or maybe because of both of the things mentioned above. Dear Greeting (Unknown)

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Well I think she knows it (also a woman), We are always attractive to each other but also rejecting, but she is definitely in my heart forever, and yes I am still married, although that does not mean much brother -sister relationship, I did course on course to learn to stand up for myself, but fall back into the old pattern every time !! Perhaps also afraid that she will also abandon me, and this is safe !! Really I have experienced enough though (breast cancer 4 years ago) but I still miss her every day, also my feeling that we still come together strange hey ??? Love (Unknown)

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Jeez .. How intense that you have had breast cancer .. brr .. I get goosebumps .. Luckily you’re doing well now (right?) MMM difficult situation indeed. my feeling also says that my soul love has therefore broken our contact .. For the same reason as you. She is also married. I told her very honestly what I feel about her. Not immediately told that I feel and see her as my soul love .. I did not dare. Because using such a term is quite something. She always told me not to feel the same .. But she often gave conflicting signals .. Which was very confusing for me. Seen with reason then. In my heart I know she feels the same as I do .. Although I find it hard to trust that. because she always said she didn’t feel it for me. I don’t think it is strange that you feel that you will come together anyway .. I also feel that. Despite what my mind tells me, and despite what she said. Never before have I felt so much love for someone. also my soul love and I are both a woman .. Gosh how I would like to hold her in my arms. And dear how I love her. I now know what unconditional loving is. And I find it very special to feel that. She also has a very special place in my heart. that I will never give away to anyone else … Funny we are both in the same situation but then vice versa .. do you ever plan to contact her again? love … (Unknown) Never before have I felt so much love for anyone. also my soul love and I are both a woman .. Gosh how I would like to hold her in my arms. And dear how I love her. I now know what unconditional loving is. And I find it very special to feel that. She also has a very special place in my heart. that I will never give away to anyone else … Funny we are both in the same situation but then vice versa .. do you ever plan to contact her again? love … (Unknown) Never before have I felt so much love for anyone. also my soul love and I are both a woman .. Gosh how I would like to hold her in my arms. And dear how I love her. I now know what unconditional loving is. And I find it very special to feel that. She also has a very special place in my heart. that I will never give away to anyone else … Funny we are both in the same situation but then vice versa .. do you ever plan to contact her again? love … (Unknown) that I will never give away to anyone else … Funny we are both in the same situation but then vice versa .. do you ever plan to contact her again? love … (Unknown) that I will never give away to anyone else … Funny we are both in the same situation but then vice versa .. do you ever plan to contact her again? love … (Unknown)

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No dude it’s about myself I’m still married !! And I also know that this is love at the soul level !!!!! Yes I would like to contact but dare not, it might bring so again, n unrest of both sides !!!! But she’s not a day out of my mind !!! Love (Unknown)

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I also tried to let go. And further with my life. But no other woman can touch me. Other women don’t hurt me, it leaves me cold, no matter how beautiful they are, it doesn’t hurt me anymore. I completely collapsed because I no longer feel complete without her. (Rene)

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Hi! Sorry for replying so late! But I was gone the last few days and could not go on the internet! My excuse! .. What do you mean? It’s about yourself? Well, I understand that you are afraid to contact her again, because it can indeed cause unrest again. But … why can’t you handle a relationship with her now? Is that because you are married? Or is that because you do not dare to take the step yet, because you find it extremely difficult to oversee the consequences? And to what extent would you like a relationship with her? I know it’s hard to investigate when you’re in such a situation. You are afraid of hurting other people. Including your husband, and maybe also your soul love .. But still .. It will probably continue to gnaw at you .. And you can’t be with another one day after another. You have to investigate your feelings well, and make room for them. Do you dare to accept that you have these feelings, and do you even dare to accept for yourself that you have feelings for a woman? I really miss my soul love. When I think of her, I think how nice it would be to kiss her and hold her. To make love with her, to caress her through her hair. That has never happened before, but despite that, I miss it. And also how nice it would be to be able to look her in the eye .. I miss her immensely. But she was the one who definitively broke off contact. I sent her honor! I received an e-mail stating that it would be wiser for me to ‘park’ her for a while. To which she sent me that it seemed more sensible to have no contact at all. And also not to see each other anymore. That saddened me a lot. Because after such a break you do not know when and whether you will ever see someone again. There I was, after reading her e-mail, with all my love for her and all my desires for her … And I can’t help it. It has now been about a month and a week since she finally broke off contact. And I still think of her every day, and I still feel her every day, and I still miss her every day, and I still long for her every day. I wonder what has to happen to be able to stop it . Anyway .. What are you going to do now? By the way, do you know if she feels the same for you as you do for her? And have you ever told her of your feelings at all, or were you just the same about the double signals! s my soul love haha ​​.. Lovers! And to write!

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Hai Here a message from me. how are you doing anyway? I suddenly changed my mind. Do you also have children? My soul love does have children, I think that’s why it’s so difficult for her. If you also have children, I understand that it is very difficult for you too. of course that is not nothing in such a situation, and it can make it all very complicated. Yes, I often think of my soul love. I wonder if she thinks about me that often. I really like to correspond with you that way. Of course it gives a nice feeling, if you know that you can share something with someone you know you understand. I hope to hear from you again soon !! LIEFS !!!! (Unknown)

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I play Paul de Leeuw’s CD every day, I love you all my life, and then she is really with me, and she feels her too !!! Isn’t that special? Love (Unknown)

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How nice! When I hear the song of Paul the lion with ‘I love you’ I always have to think about my soul love .. and I feel her with me too! it is indeed Special. LIEFS !!! (Unknown)

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I said hoho meanwhile you have already had other relationships !! I have lost a little bit of trust you understand if she handles relationships so easily, she may also leave me soon if the ff is down !!! But I continue to care about her alone I think we will come together later when she loses her wild hair, we care 8 years old !! Well age is of course not really important but she is in a different phase of her life !!! texted the day before yesterday and then I hear nothing again, so I let her go in love !! Greetings (Unknown)

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okay, you know? you are now confusing a number of things. at first you are happy that she e-mails you .. that is of course very nice. but you also say that it is somewhat oppressive to you again .. In addition, you say that she jumps from one relationship to the next, and that it makes you lose confidence with you .. There are several things going on here. Namely: You were the one who broke the contact, not she. If you break the contact, I understand that she will continue with her life. And tries to build a relationship with someone else .. You have to do something .. in her situation .. that those relationships may not go so well, maybe it is because she actually longs for you, can’t get you .. and that is projected on the relationships she has had .. She doesn’t email you for nothing .. In addition, you write that she said she has been waiting for you for two years .. the fact that she has had relationships in between, does not mean she did not wait for you .. She then decided to go on with her life , which I find very understandable .. You also say that you feel anxious about the fact that she immediately wants more. Maybe you should be clear to her about what you want .. Maybe you should look for what YOU want! I understand her, after all, if you feel so much love for someone and that person always knows what she wants, you will get desperate. You do not want to meet her because you are afraid of unrest .. in fact, that unrest only plays out in yourself, and that is because you do not yet know what you want, or you know it, but you dare not yet to act. You are the one who has to make a choice .. I think it is important to really have a conversation with yourself and really start looking at what you want .. and if you know that, it is important to have a to have a conversation .. and to be clear to her .. Actually you just have to make a choice .. and you find that very scary which I understand well .. You leave the thing! n rather the way they are ,, that is much easier than acting according to your feelings .. What you have now, the relationship with your husband, is safe and familiar .. What you can get if you continue with her, you know that you do not .. you may not dare to choose because of the consequences .. Be honest with yourself about what you want .. drink a cup of coffee with her, talk to her .. About the age difference; I find eight years very little age difference. My soul love and I care a lot more in age with each other .. Of course you may be in a different phase of life, it would be naive to think not, but I think if you are both aware of that, you also find a way in that can find. by letting each other be what you really are. By taking each other into account. by respecting each other and each other’s choices. You have seen a beautiful movie today. namely: Aimée & Jaguar. I think that if you watch this movie, then you will get some insights … I got that after watching this movie. it is a true story and very beautiful! and it is very similar to the situations we are in .. LOVE !!! (Unknown) Of course you may be in a different phase of life, it would be naive to think not, but I think if you are both aware of that, you can also find a way in that. by letting each other be what you really are. By taking each other into account. by respecting each other and each other’s choices. You have seen a beautiful movie today. namely: Aimée & Jaguar. I think that if you watch this movie, then you will get some insights … I got that after watching this movie. it is a true story and very beautiful! and it is very similar to the situations we are in .. LOVE !!! (Unknown) Of course you may be in a different phase of life, it would be naive to think not, but I think if you are both aware of that, you can also find a way in that. by letting each other be what you really are. By taking each other into account. by respecting each other and each other’s choices. You have seen a beautiful movie today. namely: Aimée & Jaguar. I think that if you watch this movie, then you will get some insights … I got that after watching this movie. it is a true story and very beautiful! and it is very similar to the situations we are in .. LOVE !!! (Unknown) by letting each other be what you really are. By taking each other into account. by respecting each other and each other’s choices. You have seen a beautiful movie today. namely: Aimée & Jaguar. I think that if you watch this movie, then you will get some insights … I got that after watching this movie. it is a true story and very beautiful! and it is very similar to the situations we are in .. LOVE !!! (Unknown) by letting each other be what you really are. By taking each other into account. by respecting each other and each other’s choices. You have seen a beautiful movie today. namely: Aimée & Jaguar. I think that if you watch this movie, then you will get some insights … I got that after watching this movie. it is a true story and very beautiful! and it is very similar to the situations we are in .. LOVE !!! (Unknown)

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You are absolutely right !!! I am definitely going to watch that movie Love .. The weird thing is how you describe it could also be from my great love !!! (Unknown)

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mmm I also thought for a while that your messages came from my Great love, and that my soul love wrote those messages. Because a lot of things are similar, such as: the song of Paul the lion, my soul love is also a woman is also married also has children. Enzo .. But when you wrote that you had received an e-mail from your soul love, I knew that the author of your messages is not my soul love. I and my soul love care much more in age. and besides that I have not been waiting for her for two years but now for almost a year and a half .. And you write that you have 1 daughter while mine has 3 children .. No, I think I understand your soul love very well because I am in the same situation .. I think that’s why I understand how she feels. Because I am in the same situation as her .. Since my soul love is also a woman and is also married. and so I know what it feels like .. I think the movie Aimée & Jaguar will make a big impression on you .. you almost certainly know! You can rent this movie at a video store. by the way .. Maybe you prefer to email? We already have such a long correspondence here on this site haha. My e-mail address is soulliefde@live.nl I created this specially, so I don’t have to put my own e-mail address .. I think it would be nice to continue e-mailing with you .. It might also be a bit easier! So my e-mail is: souls love@live.nl I hope to hear from you Love !!!! (Unknown) You can rent this movie at a video store. by the way .. Maybe you prefer to email? We already have such a long correspondence here on this site haha. My e-mail address is soulliefde@live.nl I created this specially, so I don’t have to put my own e-mail address .. I think it would be nice to continue e-mailing with you .. It might also be a bit easier! So my e-mail is: souls love@live.nl I hope to hear from you! You can rent this movie at a video store. by the way .. Maybe you prefer to email? We already have such a long correspondence here on this site haha. My e-mail address is soulliefde@live.nl I created this specially, so I don’t have to put my own e-mail address .. I think it would be nice to continue e-mailing with you .. It might also be a bit easier! So my e-mail is: souls love@live.nl I hope to hear from you Love !!!! (Unknown)

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Follow your heart. Because you are not ready, you walk away from it. Together you can talk about your feelings !? I can assure you it will relieve you. What you do is attract then repel. In the meantime, all the beautiful things you can have with her pass by your nose. Life goes on, but also in your age. Success. (Unknown)