Q0253. Is it possible to stay friends?

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I wonder if we can continue as very good heart friends. Because we are married a love relationship is not possible. Is it possible to stay friends, since we can still be together and help each other, where necessary? And is it treason if we don’t tell our wives?

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I think it will be hard to be friends when love is so deep. But certainly not impossible. I am now in the same situation, she is also married and has a family. So now stay friends. You have to go see what you really want. It is very difficult to let go of someone for whom you have such a deep love. I now experience that too, but I have accepted that it can only be friendship, no matter how much I long for her. I don’t want to limit her in happiness by letting her choose. I want her to be happy .. And I have peace of mind with this. You must go and see what makes you happy. I said exactly the same words to her, friends but just a little more, helping each other where needed. I think you must first accept that it cannot be a love affair, (which of course is possible, but then you have to give up the marriage) and continue working from there. I also don’t think you should want to look too far ahead. Because that is not possible with such a love .. Let everything come over you, enjoy it. I do not know if you are cheating on your husband, I think that feels so to you because you know that those feelings for her are more than just friendship .. You also have to realize that the love you feel for her is completely out of the fact what you feel for your husband .. Soul love .. that is just there .. Go to regard those two loves as separate, because in the end you cannot compare those two loves with each other .. They are separate from each other. When I look at my previous crushes, they are very different from what I feel for this woman .. I can’t compare them either, so I try to do that as little as possible … I would say enjoy it, and ultimately you find the solution in yourself. And dare to keep looking at your feelings objectively and truly. Do you stay with your husband because you are also really happy with each other and do not want him without him ??? Or ! do you stay with your husband because you dare not take the step, while you actually feel that you only want to share your love with her ?? .. I wish you good luck .. Love (F) . I wish you good luck .. Love (F) . I wish you good luck .. Love (F)

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Staying friends seems impossible to me. There will always be mutual jealousy. Because this love is so incredibly deep. And the partners will not be able to live with this either. There will always be people who drive this friendship apart and do not want it to be the one. (Unknown)

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Yes, it is possible to remain friends, because there is no jealousy in soul love. (Unknown)

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Reject from your soul love and then? He has asked me several times whether I want us to have no contact or whether it is best for me. But we both cannot let go, we cannot let go of each other. He wants to do what is best for me. But I can’t do what’s best for me. It is so incredibly difficult. I want to let go of him and the grief, but I don’t want that either. Because letting go inevitably means a removal from him, whom I love so much … .. And he can’t do it either … I really don’t know what to do next … (Unknown)