Q0219. Is this cheating?

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After the first time he broke up I knew, this is my great love, we came together again and everything looked like 1 big dream of almost a year, he broke up, my world collapsed in 2 years I have mourned him, could no longer fall in love. Then I found a new partner, I got married and I had two beautiful children. When I was pregnant with the first one, I found my soul love again, it was pretty intense, he also told me he left me, he wanted a better life for me, he had loose relationships, but he could never forget me, and during my pregnancy we also enjoyed the fact that we had found each other again after my son was born the contact again less, and I became pregnant again by a beautiful daughter, now she is 1.5 and I have looked up my soul love again because we both longed for it, I just can’t put it out of my mind, and I have! it is very difficult with peaks, my partner takes good care of his family, but my soul love takes good care of me … can something be done about this? I mean is this still cheating?

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It is my ex-boyfriend that I just can’t get out of my head. And the worst thing is that I have no guilt feelings about my current partner. And indeed, I often ask myself, you cannot love two men, I love my ex in a very different way than my husband, it is what is stated below what you can do after meeting a soul love then feel the same? No, absolutely not, I think, I love my husband differently, and now I have to make a choice for myself because I am being torn apart in this way. (Unknown)
Answer If you go to bed with someone while you are still married, then that is clearly cheating. I can’t think of another word. (Unknown)

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Cheating means that you could and should only love 1 person … First of all, you should check with yourself whether this is true soul love, or still ‘normal’ love / falling in love. If it is soul love, then in fact nothing can be done about it. This is just there. It’s up to you what to do with it. If your partner believes that there is nothing, he will sooner or later find out that something is not right. He feels that anyway. And in the meantime you feel rabid because you carry this secret with you. If you confess fairly, you risk breaking a relationship or at least a crisis. If there is a fracture, accept it, then a process was already underway with him. It is also possible that he finds it difficult, but still tries to understand … in that case you can try to find a way out together. And what everyone hopes for in this situation, acceptance and tolerance, it would be the solution for everything. But that chance is! very small in my opinion. Wishfull thinking… The fact is that someone can love two people at the same time, albeit in a different way (soul love cannot be compared to ordinary love). Loving and having a relationship with your soul love is therefore not cheating in my opinion. It is a pity that in this world we are often forced to choose … (Unknown) Loving and having a relationship with your soul love is therefore not cheating in my opinion. It is a pity that in this world we are often forced to choose … (Unknown) Loving and having a relationship with your soul love is therefore not cheating in my opinion. It is a pity that in this world we are often forced to choose … (Unknown)