Since six months I have met my soulmate. I didn’t know this existed, because I thought I already had everything with my husband. But the feeling I have with my soulmate transcends everything. I have been thinking about him 24 hours a day for six months now. I now also know that he also has that with me. It hurts such an incredible pain, I would prefer to scream and go to him. But yes that is not possible, I am married and have children and he is also married. Fortunately, we do see each other regularly, because we have been coming to visit each other (with partners) for six months (… yes the first time on a visit and it was right). But it seems to be getting harder all the time. It is almost impossible to stay away from each other. We secretly touch each other as we walk past each other. A wave of energy and intense love then passes through us. If we are alone in the kitchen for example, then we have to look at each other, deep in the eyes and there will only be words from I LOVE YOU, REALLY FROM YOU. But we both do not want to give up the relationship we are currently in, although I do regularly think about the consequences. My question is whether there is a possibility to temper this feeling for each other. My whole life is upside down because of this, I am only busy with ‘us’. I can no longer do without him, but I will still have to do without him and vice versa. Is it really true that the feeling never goes away? Of course I hope not, because although the pain is so huge, the feeling of love is many times greater. I am also afraid, afraid of the future. Shall I leave my husband for him? Or will we have to let go of each other? In both cases there is so much sadness, I just don’t know what to do. I would prefer to meet with him (without partners) to talk for hours about how we feel, but I also know that it will not be just talking. I don’t want to cheat bodily, I can’t do that to my partner, I think, this secret cheating makes things difficult enough. My husband realizes that something special is going on between us, but completely trusts me. Does anyone have experience secretly agreeing with your soulmate, discussing the feelings well, and that afterwards it becomes quieter? but I also know that it is not just talking. I don’t want to cheat bodily, I can’t do that to my partner, I think, this secret cheating makes things difficult enough. My husband realizes that something special is going on between us, but completely trusts me. Does anyone have experience secretly agreeing with your soulmate, discussing the feelings well, and that afterwards it becomes quieter? but I also know that it is not just talking. I don’t want to cheat bodily, I can’t do that to my partner, I think, this secret cheating makes things difficult enough. My husband realizes that something special is going on between us, but completely trusts me. Does anyone have experience secretly agreeing with your soulmate, discussing the feelings well, and that afterwards it becomes quieter?
You don’t meet a soulmate just like that, there is a reason. that reason is often self-awareness. At the moment you do not sound very self-conscious (yet), but you spend a lot of time with the other person and you are confused by the intense emotions that play a role. Being busy with the other obscures your view of yourself …. so the message is: look at yourself and allow yourself to be mirrored lovingly by your buddy. (Unknown)
I speak from experience, to give you the answer that soul love for each other cannot be tempered! You continue to feel and experience what is in your soul. To temper our soul love, my soul love put an end to our contact after 6 years. Since he left, my love has only grown every day. But of course also the loss and the pain. We have also opted for our families, but I think, as it now looks, that it cannot be achieved. My whole life has been turned upside down and if you love your soul love so much, you can no longer love someone else in another way, not even your own husband or wife. Maybe there are people who experience it differently. But with me it goes this way and I read with many people that they experience it that way. We have been “divorced” for a year at the moment and it is terrible. I keep feeling and believing that we still come together. Experiencing soul love is something very beautiful, something very deep, but it also gives a lot of struggle and pain and lack, both with yourself and your soul love as with the people in your family that you are with. So I don’t believe that “talking” will solve the problem. I think that only time and struggle can do something about this … I wish you a lot of strength, because I know exactly what you are feeling. (Me)
The love for a soulmate cannot be tempered. You can continue to fight but – if it really is as you describe – then you pull at the short end. Talking to your husband doesn’t help. He probably won’t understand how deep it is. It both cost me and my twinflame the marriage. But there was no fighting. … unfortunately. We have been together for 1.5 years now and it is so beautiful! (Ronald)
Hello Ronald. I think you have given me an answer more than once … I now read that you and your soul love have come together and that it has cost you both marriages … I myself am also in such a situation, only my soul love has after we had more or less had no contact for a year (he had broken this) and after a year we had another very good conversation by telephone, but then he remained silent for another month in all languages. Can you tell me something more about how you got back together? The longer he is away and the more he is silent, the more I feel his presence. I often doubt these feelings, but at the same time I know that you cannot imagine such deep and intense feelings. But what do you do now with a soul love who has fled and probably cannot face the confrontation? (is also married, just like me, but I’m not going to save that anymore and I don’t think he will either …) But you know and you feel certain that he loves you very much (even though he doesn’t admit this anymore) and that he misses you terribly. Did it also go well with you? I actually feel and “know” that we are coming together again, but for that we really have to be with the two of us (I can feel that we are two). (Me)
The same situation with me, accidental meeting, hours of talking as if we had known each other for years afterwards, at least three nights a week, it became very intense, up to a certain moment, I describe it as the flashing light; putting on and shutting off periods of intense heat to extreme cold, letting go of each other for months and then picking up the thread again and then arguing again and this has been going on for four years now we cannot get along with each other but also without each other, it is strange and difficult , but sometimes also clean … (Ronald)
This is a very difficult thing and so recognizable. I experienced it myself and it cost me my marriage. (he was single) There was no fighting: not being in love, but soulmates. No matter how you look at it, it is spiritual adultery! You have gone too far when you share things with someone other than your own husband or wife. Something is wrong with your relationship and it is better to put your energy into it. If I could redo it, I would not have made this choice. My (egoistic?) Choice It has been devastating not only for myself but also for various people. Now I would have chosen to just keep walking around myself with grief. My motto is: you can’t build your luck on someone else’s accident! (Unknown)