Dori
My twinflame is getting married .. I feel lonely and I do not feel that I can go somewhere with my feelings. I am always on my own again and again .. I am always alone to process what I get. I recently learned that my twinflame is getting married. I am hopelessly lost and desperate about my own life, about myself and how everything will continue. I know this is part of the lessons we learn in our own lives, hoping to be together someday. I myself have a partner, but since the arrival of my twinflame I can no longer dismiss the idea that I have no children, I am not married and I like to see my partner because of my ego and this is not pure love. If it’s meant to be this way, I would rather not have been aware that this twinflame love is what I experience for him. Then I would have preferred to live in the unconscious just like him, or not? I do not know anymore. Will I ever have real love in this lev! and know? Or am I not going to get married and have no children, or rather, and always with the thought of my twinflame and the special bond in mind? But does this matter once you are in it? Am I processing one of my greatest life lessons ever? To become completely independent and to be one with myself? Then one day I will no longer feel as scared, lonely and full of doubts as now? I would like to meet people who have just experienced the same thing or have experienced it, and were in the same situation, but let that be the hardest thing .. Regards Then I would have preferred to live in the unconscious just like him, or not? I do not know anymore. Will I ever have real love in this lev! and know? Or am I not going to get married and have no children, or rather, and always with the thought of my twinflame and the special bond in mind? But does this matter once you are in it? Am I processing one of my greatest life lessons ever? To become completely independent and to be one with myself? Then one day I will no longer feel as scared, lonely and full of doubts as now? I would like to meet people who have just experienced the same thing or have experienced it, and were in the same situation, but let that be the hardest thing .. Regards Then I would have preferred to live in the unconscious just like him, or not? I do not know anymore. Will I ever have real love in this lev! and know? Or am I not going to get married and have no children, or rather, and always with the thought of my twinflame and the special bond in mind? But does this matter once you are in it? Am I processing one of my greatest life lessons ever? To become completely independent and to be one with myself? Then one day I will no longer feel as scared, lonely and full of doubts as now? I would like to meet people who have just experienced the same thing or have experienced it, and were in the same situation, but let that be the hardest thing .. Regards and know? Or am I not going to get married and have no children, or rather, and always with the thought of my twinflame and the special bond in mind? But does this matter once you are in it? Am I processing one of my greatest life lessons ever? To become completely independent and to be one with myself? Then one day I will no longer feel as scared, lonely and full of doubts as now? I would like to meet people who have just experienced the same thing or have experienced it, and were in the same situation, but let that be the hardest thing .. Regards and know? Or am I not going to get married and have no children, or rather, and always with the thought of my twinflame and the special bond in mind? But does this matter once you are in it? Am I processing one of my greatest life lessons ever? To become completely independent and to be one with myself? Then one day I will no longer feel as scared, lonely and full of doubts as now? I would like to meet people who have just experienced the same thing or have experienced it, and were in the same situation, but let that be the hardest thing .. Regards or rather and always with the thought of my twinflame and the special bond in mind? But does this matter once you are in it? Am I processing one of my greatest life lessons ever? To become completely independent and to be one with myself? Then one day I will no longer feel as scared, lonely and full of doubts as now? I would like to meet people who have just experienced the same thing or have experienced it, and were in the same situation, but let that be the hardest thing .. Regards or rather and always with the thought of my twinflame and the special bond in mind? But does this matter once you are in it? Am I processing one of my greatest life lessons ever? To become completely independent and to be one with myself? Then one day I will no longer feel as scared, lonely and full of doubts as now? I would like to meet people who have just experienced the same thing or have experienced it, and were in the same situation, but let that be the hardest thing .. Regards
Answer 1
Dear Dori, What I am going to say now is not easy but I hope it will help you. I write it from “the other side” because I am my twinflame (tz) and I am also the one who is married and has children, he is single. When I got married, I had a special feeling with my twinflame for a long time, but I thought it was just a sort of crush, a weak one. I loved and loved my husband very much and we got married. Children were already there by the way, but that doesn’t matter for my story. After three years I found out that the man for whom I had a weakness for so many years is my twinflame. All the pieces of the puzzle fell into place because a lot of strange coincidences had happened in recent years and I felt that special bond but did not know what it was. It was a shock because I was married, I should not have thought of another man, let alone be in love with it. When I looked at our wedding photos afterwards I saw my twinflame on it (he was also present) with a sad expression on his face. This must have been very difficult for him and I didn’t see it then, I think he already knew it then. I felt heavily guilty for my husband for years, and that got worse when I realized that I really feel unconditional love for my twinflame, and not for my husband. That was a big shock to me. I am now three years later, and everything has landed a bit. I still see my twinflame regularly because he is a friend of ours. We have never said what is going on between us, nothing has ever happened, but I know that someday we will come together. Only when my marriage ends. I feel very clearly that in this life I have to fulfill my duties first and must grow to that twinflame relationship. Only when that is ready, and that also applies to him, can we be together. I strongly believe in the fact that you cannot force anything in these relationships, it is all guided by the universe and patience is put to the test. You will experience that too. Know that the bond between twinflames can never be broken, that it is always there! time, and that it is love of a different order than ordinary earthly love. It goes much and much deeper, is much more intense and therefore much more difficult. Live it day by day and you will get there. Have an eye for the signs of the twinflame that come your way daily (such as his name, certain numbers, song associated with him, for example.) Marriage is something that was invented here on earth, but twinflames are married to each other spiritually, even though they are married to someone else on earth. I sometimes call it my earthly relationship and my heavenly relationship. If you have questions, just ask them. Then I will do my best to answer them! Love.
(A twinflame woman)
Answer 2
Hey Dori, I know how you feel I am also sitting in a similar situation and I think you probably also know that it is true that you really have to go through the difficult process of being with yourself and to love yourself and not try to find love or confirmation outside yourself. And that is easier said than done. I don’t think you can let go of your twinflame forever, somehow you will stay connected to him, but you must embrace the harsh reality that you are unlikely to have a physical relationship with him in this life. Yes or maybe when you are old and old, well I don’t know how old you are but to let your life lead through it all those years does not seem a good plan to me. Actually, however difficult it is, you have to accept it completely and really let go of it and also the little hope that you may one day come together in this life. If you’ve done this and you! If you are going to look honestly at what your life looks like at the moment, you will probably also see things that you are not really happy with. And this is often the most difficult of all and I also think that is the purpose of meeting your twinflame because you now really have the life you would like in terms of partner, job, hobbies, friends, etc. Do you love yourself and can you be alone? Do you know what your positive points are and your negative ones? Have you processed everything that happened in the past? Can you state your limits properly or do you still let them cross you? Respond to your own wishes or be guided by the wishes of others. I think that if you ask yourself these questions honestly, a very clear picture will appear which way you will have to go. And that may be the path that will cause you a huge amount of fear, but it will also be your path to enlightenment. I think if you go this way and yes it! is a road that you will only have to go through, you will certainly still experience true love, but only after you have followed this path. Look up something on google about eros and agape then you probably also understand what I mean. I think that many people do not choose to walk this path, but stand still and hang in life, which actually does not suit them and precisely because you have met your twinflame, you are almost forced to take this path anyway. So you have to work hard on yourself and the more you do in this life, the greater the chance that you will come closer to your twinflame. Not working on yourself will not bring you closer to him or perhaps for a moment, but then it will turn out to be nothing. Well a mega long story but I just recognized myself in your story so couldn’t resist not responding. It may seem like an impossible mission but if you look back in your life and you start thinking about all the energy you have put into other people or! maybe in helping or changing people or in waiting or hoping they would change too. Put that energy into yourself from now on and you will succeed! You can only change yourself and surrender to your divine plan. By the way, do you like reading? These books have helped me unwise, don’t let the titles scare you because I thought so too, it’s a spiritual connection here and I don’t feel like psychological states. But believe me it is very interesting and you will recognize so many things not only in yourself but also in your environment. You can find them at bol.com or at marketplace as second-hand, so it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. The first book and also the most important book is: As long as he is happy from Robin Norwood. The second book is: When love becomes an obsession of Susan Forward. And the third book is: Lovefulness by Isha Judd. You will not regret it after reading these books. Well girl I wish you a lot of strength and I am sure you are going to be where you want to be and should be! Big hug.
(Amber)
Answer 3
Getting married and having children, luckily I now know the story about marrying my twin. Please note: in our first life, that is, our first incarnation, my twin and I – a half brother and half sister – took a child from a woman for genetic reasons. That woman has been reincarnated and is now my twin’s wife. He has to make it up to her, that is our karma for this life. That lasts for 7 years and then he has worked out the karma with her and soon, in about three months, then twin and I will be reunited again. What I want to say with this is this: if it is really your twinflame, then his marriage to her may have something to do with YOU, ie you and your twin and she. And afterwards be happy that finally a karma or something from your past can be put right. I hope it can offer you a comfort.
(Unknown)
Answer 4
Hai Dori, recognizable your piece. I have also experienced such things and such feelings (had). Fortunately I could go to a friend of mine who understood. Not good for you that you can’t share it with anyone. I know how hard it can all be. If you would like to exchange ideas, I would like to e-mail you, please request my e-mail address from the editors. Greetings.
(JL)
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Thank you for the many and sincere responses, that is great !! I have a lot of answers to your answers, just the fact that someone listens to you and you understand will take you a little further. It was as if a colossal weight slid from my back and my heart was filled with warmth. Thanks to your answers, I know that things are going well and how I can grow even further and how to think farther now. Thanks for the book tips Amber, I like to read, and certainly about soul love hihi.JL thanks for your proposal, I would like to be in contact with someone who can talk about it and listen to other experiences! To prevent misunderstandings, after posting my question, I remembered that another member introduces himself as Dori (I am not sure but thought I vaguely remembered this). Should this be the case, I’m not the same Dori. Greetings to all xx
(Unknown)
Answer 5
Hello Dori, I read your message and can very well imagine how you feel. My twinflame went for a 2nd child with his wife. I like to share my story with you (I also write something off of me and hopefully it helps you somewhere!) We met 2 years ago and were both in a relationship. The attraction was intense and we had very intensive contact during the first 10 months. After getting to know him I was away from my husband within six months, despite 2 small children. Believe me, it is no fun separating 2 children. Fortunately I have very good contact with my ex. For me it was simply impossible to continue my relationship, now that I had experienced these intense feelings arising from twinflame (by the way, I am only talking about a twinflame since the last few months.
After 10 months I noticed that my twinflame knew more and more that he wanted his earthly relationship to succeed, no matter how bad it was in his eyes. Then the pushing and pulling followed with us. I was single and didn’t find anyone else who gave me even 1/100 of that nice feeling, and he didn’t want to lose me either. The following 10 months we have tried to find a balance in seeing each other, enjoying each other, learning from each other. But with the slightest live contact, we were back within a second. And then he was held back for a moment … Only after his wife became pregnant did he start looking for a more structural approach. Physically too. Mission accomplished it seemed, so again twinflame contact possible.
My friends know my twinflame, they know everything about what I have shared with him and my deepest intense feelings. They were crazy about hearing everything, but have always said that he came into my life to bring speed to breaking a relationship in which I was not happy. So they also agreed that I had to dump it after the first half year, so that I could continue, which of course I didn’t do. So yes, now 2 years later, out of necessity to continue my own earthly life the way I feel comfortable doing it, I eventually broke off contact with twinflames, because I could not deal with the emotions / incomprehension that you now also experience. I can only give you advice, and ironically that is exactly what I have learned from my twinflame: stay close to yourself, am not afraid of the future and follow your heart. And .. not nice, but everyone is different, so you don’t have to be able to do what your twinflame can do, but maybe you do.
And well, about a new love. There must be someone very special in my path if I want to enter into an earthly relationship with that. But I do not mind. I am on the right track. I know very well from my heart that I would rather not have a relationship than one based on earthly
norms. I now enjoy small things that make me happy and that also gives me a great feeling. Good luck with everything!