Unknown
I have a question about soul love. When can you say that someone is your soul love? For a while I had a relationship with a woman that I started to love more and more intensively in a short time than I experienced in earlier, longer-lasting relationships. We both felt well together and needed little for that. During that relationship I also came to understand where I had gone wrong in previous relationships and failed other partners. The fierce confrontations and attracting-repulsion described here started quickly. In itself I found that no problem. Where in previous relationships I saw disagreements by definition as a problem of the other, I now looked more critically at my own behavior and underlying cause. I thought the way she “pushed” me away and walked away from me every time was terrible. Yet I kept trying every time with all the love I had for her. And she became increasingly hurtful, harder and killer. Until she finally broke the relationship. For reasons that were totally absurd for me. Everything that went wrong between us lay with me. I was able to accept her decision based on a feeling of pure love and that we are both against a piece of inability. If that was better for her then it is good. I found out afterwards that I dealt with it very rationally. I felt terribly rejected by her and the reasons she suggested to break the relationship were missing, in my opinion, any form of recognition for my love and acceptance for her. I didn’t get it out of my system at all. Where I can normally continue with my life after a while I continued to miss her. For nights I dreamed about her and woke up in a sweat. The sporadic contact we still had led to injuries every time. In the end, despite the pain, I see these experiences as a gift. I started to discover much more where feelings and choices come from. The most seem to have to do with my childhood. I also notice that I am becoming a different person and (want to) stand in life differently. A kind of new journey of discovery within myself. So I recognize a lot of experiences described here. I don’t dare talk to my ex-girlfriend about the transformation I’m going through. Afraid that she declared me crazy, although she is a lot more spiritual than I am. And the contact we have is very rough. Can I now speak about soul love in this case? Or is this an extreme form of heartbreak?
Answer 1
I certainly think you can speak of a soul love here. It opens your eyes to how you might have dealt with things like love so far.
(Unknown)
Answer 2
I find the change that you have undergone very typical. That the other person has made you look at yourself in a totally new way. Even though that doesn’t have to be her intention at all. It often happens that the encounter with your soul love suddenly brings new qualities in you, missing puzzle pieces are suddenly found. In the meantime, the other person can run away from the situation, which does not mean that the other person would not go through any development, only that he is directed differently. Where your new discoveries about yourself give you a better picture of your relationships, and help you deal with them in a completely different way, it may be the case that the encounter leads to a disclosure that for the time being excludes a relationship with you. Until that purely I-oriented development is complete. If that comes to that in this life. Once those twinflames come together once. We often see the twins respond differently to the situation. A common pattern is: one is overjoyed with it and wants to continue together, the other walks away after some hesitation or after a relationship of a shorter or longer duration. If a definitive relationship results, a joint transformation process is also needed. It is almost never the case, these are exceptions. Ever since I met my twinflame, I know that that love really exists that I already felt as a child. The meeting triggered a number of processes with me that were related to childhood and also referred back to past lives. I had to deal with a number of things myself in order to get out of the hurt of rejection and denial by the other. I am now much stronger, and certainly towards my twinflame. finding myself has finally made it possible to continue in this situation. In the end I say: pure profit. I don’t think it makes much sense to talk to you about your development as long as she looks at you negatively. Go your own way, become as complete as possible in yourself and continue to look at that other person in unconditional love. Don’t expect anything in return. Being spiritual only says something if you can give it your daily life. You apparently succeed better than them. become as complete as possible in yourself and continue to look at that other person in unconditional love. Don’t expect anything in return. Being spiritual only says something if you can give it your daily life. You apparently succeed better than them. become as complete as possible in yourself and continue to look at that other person in unconditional love. Don’t expect anything in return. Being spiritual only says something if you can give it your daily life. You apparently succeed better than them.
(Arundash)
Reaction
Arundash, Thank you for your nice and illuminating words. It is not that she made me look at relationships in a different way. It was more the feeling of intense love that I felt that made me look at relationships differently. The feeling that came over me in her presence and also the intensity that I felt when touched. Now I would say it was a kind of energy that I went through. I now discover that I still have many “old” pain points that have not yet been processed. And it is good to be busy with that and notice that it makes me look at things differently in life. Not just in the relational field. So it is pure profit, a gift that I have received. Yet it hurts terribly to have to let go of someone you love so intensely. It works out of mind, but the feeling continues to bounce. I now know that such processes cannot work together and also leave her alone. But the pain of letting go and missing is difficult. In my friends! circle nobody understands. Nobody understands that I can love her so unconditionally. “Be happy that you are done with it” is a favorite saying to support me. So in that sense learning to let go is the biggest learning point in my life for me, a difficult and sometimes lonely process. (Unknown) “Be happy that you are done with it” is a favorite saying to support me. So in that sense learning to let go is the biggest learning point in my life for me, a difficult and sometimes lonely process. (Unknown) “Be happy that you are done with it” is a favorite saying to support me. So in that sense learning to let go is the biggest learning point in my life for me, a difficult and sometimes lonely process. (Unknown)
Answer 3
I think releasing is the most difficult of all. I have to let him go too and it is the toughest thing I’ve ever had to do. especially because I know exactly what he is going through now. luckily I still have earthly contact with him but this is really the most difficult relationship I have ever had and at the same time also the most beautiful. sometimes he just needs that security to be able to cope with it again and he will come and get it from me. although they are sometimes small messages or short conversations, I really enjoy him. He also contacts me at times when I am through and then when I do not expect it because I no longer believe in love. it’s really the little things that matter. and as we agreed, I for you and you for me.
(Unknown)
Answer 4
I fully agree with the person from answer 1. After two years I finally had to conclude that a relationship with my Soul Love is not possible. There is another and he leaves for the other side of the ocean within two weeks (only for study). For a long time I had ‘relationship’ with him and I did not want to see where he really came in my life: to confront me with myself and my attitude towards myself and love. Maybe not his intention, but it is now as if I have felt that he would ‘force’ me into a learning process that is so necessary for my happiness in life, but that I fearfully avoided. That is why, right now, in this phase of my life, I fell in love with him. The outcome was not necessarily desirable, but I now understand why I can put everything into perspective. In the end I am grateful to God for bringing this man on my path. Because I can only learn and grow from this. Nothing ! has proved more useful.
(Flower)
Answer 5
Oh yes, letting go is so difficult! You must let go of the best thing that has happened to you. That hurts a lot, but it gets better, you suddenly see that. The only thing you have to do is expect that you will ever come together! But you both suffer from this, go ahead.
(Unknown)
Answer 6
Flower, I too see it as a gift that has come my way. This is also a great learning process for me to learn to find more love and happiness in myself, and to learn to let go. Something I have always experienced as very difficult. So I see it as an experience in which the journey was concerned and not the end goal. A relationship. I also note that there is no relationship now and in the future. In fact, I am now even doubting whether this has really been soul love. Nevertheless, I am grateful for the insights and the change it has brought me in myself. For that alone I will always carry her with me.
(Unknown)
Answer 7
To the questioner: I recognize what you say, that you get it right mentally, but that the emotions persist. You do well to think what exactly those emotions consist of. That was enlightening for me and taught me where I was dependent on her. Then I could free myself from that. The world is no longer going to end, but it just keeps on going, and I was able to join it again. That took some getting used to. It meant a completely different way of living for me. Because the deep-lying pattern that lay beneath it could only come to the surface through the appearance of my twinflame. Letting go is not throwing someone out of your heart, but allowing someone his or her own process. And not having to participate as necessary. The difficulty in releasing someone you love dearly is related to your own definition of love. If unconditional love means never wanting anything in return, if it even means not being allowed to give anything anymore, what is left of it? What is then of value? Apparently unconditional love is nothing more than what CS Lewis said of it: Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good as far as it can be obtained. That immediately means that you will not get better, that there will no longer be any benefit for you. And once that is enough, you have reached the level of divine love. No wonder it doesn’t happen 1-2-3. “Who knows what you’ve been saved for” is a common reaction from the circle of friends. Few people understand what this is about. For me, the encounter with my twinflame was a confirmation of a feeling that I already had as a child. Now I know: it exists. She’s there. That alone is immeasurable happiness. No matter what happens next.
(Arundash)
Response
What a wonderful answer Arundash! Thanks for this. Then I am well on my way to feeling unconditional love if I say so myself. (Unknown)