I have found that I cannot love another woman more than my soul love. I am always confronted with her, that’s okay, but you don’t always want to stay alone. I would also like to develop a bond with another woman. But that is simply no longer possible. How do you do that or do you only do it for sex and there is no love in the game.
yes … how do you do that? I only know that I have the same feeling as you. And then the sex feeling becomes more important, I sometimes even confused this with love. I am also unable to find another partner and do not always want to stay alone. I even had a time in which I thought I felt love for 3 men and my soul love seemed to fade into the background, afterwards this was only the craving for love and sex.
Look carefully in your heart and feel what you have to do. You cannot search for someone else for something that you have with your soul love. Because this is something special, and you won’t find it with anyone else. Because it is unique!
The only thing I can tell you is that unfortunately this will never pass. Your twinflame cannot be denied and the love for another will never be able to match this. It is simply in every cell of your body and mind. With me it was that I had a relationship for a long time when my twinflame presented itself. I loved and love the man I married, and that does not change twinflames. With twinflame I have a different kind of love that tends more towards the esotheric / spiritual side. By this I mean that he and I mainly meet in the astral (sometimes also in real life) and have a strong telepathic bond. It is beyond all imagination. But in real life we would not fit well together at the moment. He is still too attached to his ego, can only look at things in a very limited way. We will meet sometime, but not for the time being. First my twinflame will have to go a long way that I can already see but hi! j not. I cannot and must not do anything to dissuade him. So I keep the earthly contact to a minimum and I let it go. It is the only way to ever come together again.
This is very recognizable to me. After the relational break with my ex (which I see as my soulmate, soul love or twinflame; those names don’t really matter to me) I tried something with other men, but that doesn’t work. I sometimes fall in love for a day or so, but after a few days musing about such a person, that illusory feeling completely disappears and the man in question no longer has my interest. Also, when it comes to sex, I fiddled with other men (both with the aim of starting a new serious relationship and an attempt to become a lover with a man), but that doesn’t work either! The strange thing is that I often found the men who came after my soul love in bed better “technically”. So at first I thought: ‘great, I improved.’ But what I always at the same time pushed away emotionally was the pain it gave me to make love with those new men. They actually hit! me not in my soul. With my soul love I am fused (I have had spontaneous ‘tantric’ fusion experiences with him, just with our clothes on, but also during the act we often finished at the same time, which I believe is quite unique, just in ‘missionary attitude’, then pulled the heat through my whole body). I have always found sex and physical contact important, and now that I thought I found it completely with a ‘lover’, I came home from a cold fair again. The sex is wild and also passionate, but also empty. I actually feel nothing with him. Because of the ‘hug hormones’ that are released during intercourse, I always think I feel something for him. But as soon as he is out the door, he is literally ‘out of sight, from the heart’. I just want one man and that’s my ex. Even if we can only have a purely platonic relationship with each other. I am now about to take my lover out the door and go celibate again! and (which I actually always do at intervals). Just like you, I no longer know if and how I can ever love another man. I try to keep it open. I also try to say to myself ‘you cannot compare a possible new love with the deep soul love that you experience with your ex’. But yes, as more people will have here, that kind of rationalization will work briefly (a few hours, days and at best a few weeks) and then you will be back. To add a final point to your question – I sometimes wonder the following: would it work if two people started a relationship with each other who both had another as love in the background? So that you can communicate openly about that lack, but still love each other a lot, precisely because you are in the same situation? Would that work? As if you are both a sort of widower and widow who both want to start anew but fully understand the other person that there was once a very great love that preceded this love? precisely because you are in the same situation? Would that work? As if you are both a sort of widower and widow who both want to start anew but fully understand the other person that there was once a very great love that preceded this love? precisely because you are in the same situation? Would that work? As if you are both a sort of widower and widow who both want to start anew but fully understand the other person that there was once a very great love that preceded this love?
I recognize a lot in your answers. Voral in the answer to number 4. I have the feeling all the time that I am not wise or something, but when I read the stories here on the site, I am not the only one. I also have (I think) a twinflame, but he literally pushes me away. One moment he wants me and the next, this phase, he doesn’t want me again. Years pass and no contact is possible because I don’t have a phone number or email. The only thing I can do if I want to talk to him is to call his work, but that is not handy either. He wants to talk but does not. He once told me that I was very deep in his feelings. \ Just like him with me. But now I have been working on it for almost 17 years and had a relationship with him twice. I know him from the age of 17 and I will soon be 34. There was about 7 years between the 1st relationship and the 2nd that I did not see or hear him. I went on with someone else but I can’t do that anymore. I have now decided to idd. to live celibate because sex with someone else or a relationship with another is never going to be like him. Feel very empty inside and I will soon start a nurse training in a hospital, all thanks to him because he has invested in me in a training that will allow me to continue my education. I am extremely grateful to him, but now that he is no longer there, it is as if I live in hell. everything that I thought I had for 5 years. Is this the only one now? Waiting and hoping? And if you have no other relationship, choose to stay alone? Didn’t know that love could hurt so badly. It is very painful but I have never experienced it that long. My feeling says that I have to wait but people in my area think it’s strange and I can’t talk to anyone about it because they don’t understand that I am missing a part of myself so that I am no longer complete. I think they stay too long. Is that also true?
To Chantal: That is a very long time. You can wait, you are now behind that. It seems that that is also your choice: do not start with another. No other choice is possible for me: I never need another. Then it is better for you to be happy on your own, than to be with another person and to feel that love in the background. How? By fully living your own life, following your passions, daring to change in your life. Make sure that you become who you really are as much as possible. Indirectly, your twinflame will also be positively influenced by this. Being together only works if you are both ready for it, so you work on yourself and passive waiting is out of the question. Nobody can sustain that either.
Thanks Arundash !, I am very sure that I want to wait for him, but it is very difficult to accept it. I can’t handle his flight behavior. I have dreamed about him so many times, but it’s always about fleeing. I once dreamed that I was in a tram with him on my way home. And suddenly he was gone. Got out of an earlier stop somewhere. Does this really stay that way? If a relationship is not possible for whatever reason, because he prefers to stay with his girlfriend, or because it is not allowed, is friendship not allowed? Now I miss him very much and even when I make the proposal to stay friends he doesn’t want to. In any case, he says he wants it but he doesn’t. Does this affect everyone who has a twinflame? It is also very difficult because everyone thinks he used me and is just a worthless idiot and I just have to forget about him. Nobody in my area understands what I feel and sees it as an obsession when I say that I want to wait for him. Resistance is very big and only make enemies with it as soon as I talk about it. The only option I have now is to keep my mouth shut and spend my time and hope that I will be happy in my uppies to get the most out of my life with work and hobbies and all the passion I have in myself to improve myself etc. And this can continue until you die so to speak? That doesn’t make me really happy because I don’t want anyone else and without him I just feel empty. I don’t even have the feeling anymore that he is thinking of me or is somewhere with me .. Financially I don’t have much at the moment so I really have to change my mind and do nice things is not possible. In a few months it should be better if things go well, but not yet for the time being. And that was again a bit because of him because he had let me during my studies and internship that he himself paid for me. And he has more or less arranged the internship at the school where he works as a caretaker but I am living on benefits so I don’t have much left over. He works part-time and is half rejected so his income would have been better. Now I have to make what I can make of it. But with the pain there, this is not all that easy. and all because I confronted him with his lies and the fact that he is still with his girlfriend. Doubt whether this is what he wants or if he wants to be with me but does not dare .. I have never had love for so long for someone and never had the feeling that he and I really belonged together. I have had three long relationships but with him I just knew that for sure. How can you stay so positive and continue while you never know if you will ever get together? Can also be in a different life, but I don’t know that from now on… The chance that you die without your twin is greater than you are ever together. But I know that I could never be happy with someone else, and I don’t need sex with him alone either. Then you die without love ??? Except from the family, friends etc.
Here again Chantal .. Did it also belong that you can feel so bad and misused? Because that’s how I experience it very much. Maybe my own fault because I let it happen? But my intentions were good. I thought .. But if you have as much for someone as I had for him and thereby sexually abused as a child .. I told him. But as he now stays away and leaves nothing to be heard and also said that I stalked him and that I had to be admitted if I did not see that he did not want me .. I got from his stepdaughter because I house keys returned early via hyves. Really could not be another way hence. He did not answer the phone and he did not respond to emails … He wanted to talk cleanly to his girlfriend etc. Was this also part of it? Is this also flight behavior? Can someone give me an answer to that, is there anyone who recognizes it? Hope I don’t get too nagging about it, p. Greetings