Q0913. I recognize you


It started three years ago, at the first meeting there was already a click. He married, three children, I a daughter and a relationship. The feelings were expressed for the first time around Christmas last year. Full of love and love, we both said; I recognize you. We kissed a few times, it didn’t get any further. We are colleagues and of course they started to notice something. Talking came. After a month he indicated that we could no longer send text messages and had to take some distance. My relationship was meanwhile over (I ended), he is still married. We did business in the workplace for months. I was torn inside and still. He showed little. I have since met someone, but I continue to feel that eternal sorrow. I try to accept that I will not find the feeling of unconditional love and recognition in someone else. But I am still sad. He, on the other hand, seems to handle it much better. He was also happy for me that I had met someone. The contact is now business and friendly. We both look for other people in the workplace. I just don’t know if I will keep this up. Despite the very nice new love, my heart remains with my twinflame. I love him, I don’t want to be without him, I want to belong to him. And he keeps a nice distance. Last thing he said, I think it’s better not to talk about it. I don’t know what’s going on in his head anymore. I’m looking for some sort of confirmation if he still feels it. Do I still have to talk to him about this? Do I have to open it again? Or opt for the collegial way and continue to play a role? I am torn by fear, pain and sorrow. Another job or transfer I have already thought of, but in these times as a single mother a big risk. And I believe it won’t go away, although it will be out of my sight. We now see each other every day. HELP, what should I do? How can I make the situation bearable? what should I do? How can I make the situation bearable? what should I do? How can I make the situation bearable?

Answer 1
You are in a difficult period but believe me, having him in your life in a certain form is better than nothing at all. I have nothing to do with it. No more eyes, no look, no smile. I find that very difficult. Continue your life. He also wants to continue it seems? And otherwise ask him one last time? And otherwise keep a place for him, give him another place. Keep it different in your life. Give that new love a chance or you might miss someone who wants to go for you. Live through. I would like to know and therefore ask one last time if he really has peace with it? (Unknown)

Answer 2
With me the guys always left and went their own way if it got too much for me because of my rejection. I would only choose the option to leave if I were you, is that transfer not possible? Talk to your boss. Those are the best strategists when it comes to things like this. (Who knows)

Answer 3
Even if you go to work somewhere else and you walk away from him, leaving never does this again. Believe me. I don’t know if you should do anything further with it at this moment. Maybe I would send him an email or letter explaining my feelings and also saying that you let it go, that you respect his choice to stay married (that too is unconditional love !!) and always a warm place in have your heart for him. Then he knows that and does not need anything else. But then you have been honest. Nothing wrong with that, because there is already so much uncertainty between twinflames. Remember that now it says nothing about what the future holds. You do not know how life goes, and if he really is your other half, then it will be fine one day. Trust that. (Unknown)

Answer 4
Thank you so much for the comments! I have let it be known again via text message what I feel and think. He responded that we always stay connected. That I have to give the new relationship a chance, he says, I have plenty of room in my heart. As for us, I also had to give a place in my heart. I still find it incredibly difficult to see that he handles it so easily. But that has to do with his choice, I think. I wonder how he feels, or do I already know this? Occasionally we have a moment of memory, one of us says something and we both know what we are thinking about. Some memories may also be different and we have experienced differently. I have a little more rest, try to continue. But that line remains. Ups and downs … All tips and advice are welcome and thank you. I do get strength from that.

Answer 5
Thank you for the response! Thank yourself that he reacted like that girl. He himself says that you always stay connected and that you have to open your heart to someone else. That would be exactly what I would tell my own twinflame. Our time will come together sometime, but not now. And that also applies to you. (Unknown)