Q0745. Why?

Unknown

If I ever die, I will deeply regret that I have never loved him. That I have never been able to say to him that I love him. That I was never allowed to come near him. That I could not hold him in my arms. That I have never heard his heart beat. That I was not allowed to press a kiss on his lips. That we have never been able to do anything together – except painting in kindergarten, which has been so valuable and dear to me. Painting in kindergarten … while other people make love together, enjoy life together and surrender completely to each other. I will then regret that I have never really been able to talk to him. That we didn’t get any further than some superficial stories and jokes. That I couldn’t go through his hair with my hands. Also regret that I was not allowed to give myself to him and that he will never have been mine and there for me. I will then regret the dead silence that surrounds us. That cold that wraps around my heart so often and the pain I experience every moment. I will be sorry we never had sex, he and I together. HE and I TOGETHER. TOGETHER … together. I want to be together. But it will be for eternity. Only then. O God, I want to die now. Only then. O God, I want to die now. Only then. O God, I want to die now.

Answer 1
I believe that more will follow after this life, and you lived many lives before this life. That thought can be a reassurance for you. If he is your twinflame, someday you will come together when you are all ready. It doesn’t stop with death, because death is just a new beginning or transition to the next. (Unknown)

Answer 2
Dear author of this story, what do I recognize myself in this … … but why couldn’t it? because he didn’t want to? or because you did not meet his requirements and expectations? does he still have too much ego? then it is certainly not your time yet because twinflame love is without fear and expectations, is pure and unrestrained. But telling someone how much you love him / her can always remember that !!! and the rest, yes, very recognizable and frustrating but you know … if it is to be and destined, the universe will do everything to bring you together, have faith … no matter how difficult it sometimes is and enjoy the beautiful moments in this life, also live in the NOW, earthly life is only so short … trust yourself, your inner voice then you really don’t make mistakes, lots of strength and love! (Unknown)

Answer 3
I am completely sad by your question, and you know why, because I have exactly the same as you, I understand you enormously. I also long for that, especially those things that you wrote in your question !!! Yes why … that’s the big question. I think you can answer that question for yourself. My twinflame has been in my life for a while and I have experienced very special moments and felt the best. I cherish those ‘things’ in particular Hart and nobody takes that away from me. Cherish your moments with your twinflame in your heart, nobody will take that away from you either. Lots of love. (Elselina)

Answer 4
A gift from god but we do not open it because there is a nice package * around it … .. as a child you tore it open … because you knew it was a beautiful gift that you received from your father / mother / grandfather / grandma got because you knew they loved you and because they wanted you to do it. Now it’s scary because ooo what would come out .. god / universe loves you .. don’t put it away (far away) but look carefully what is in it. (Unknown)

Answer 5
Then I can reassure you; more will follow after this life, and you have already lived many lives before this life. If he is your twinflame, someday you will come together when you are all ready. It does not end with death, because death is only a new beginning or transition to the next. (Unknown)

Answer 6
Dear writer of this story, what do I recognize myself in this … … but why couldn’t it? because he didn’t want to? or because you did not meet his requirements and expectations? does he still have too much ego? then it is certainly not your time yet because twinflame love is without fear and expectations, is pure and unrestrained. But telling someone how much you love him / her can always remember that !!! and the rest, yes, very recognizable and frustrating but you know … if it is to be and destined, the universe will do everything to bring you together, have faith … no matter how difficult it sometimes is and enjoy the beautiful moments in this life, also live in the NOW, earthly life is only so short … trust yourself, your inner voice then you really do not make mistakes, a lot of strength and love! (Unknown)

nswer 7
Remarkably, it could be my story … you touch a sensitive chord with me and while reading I suddenly feel like a huge loser and I realize that I can only blame myself, I realize how blunt I am for my soul love continue to ignore her (that icy silence) and still not dare to tell her what I feel for her, while she has declared her love to me without fear and shame, in that respect she is 100 light years further than me. I suddenly feel like a loser because I want her for me alone and I can’t bear that she loves someone else, can’t live with the fact that she doesn’t choose me now. Really incomprehensible how she can choose a life with a loving person who also loves her unconditionally and gives her a hug when she needs it, who says how much he loves her and who has proven that for many years … do I have such a big ego that I am alone! why not tell her how much she means to me ?? And yes, I know that I live now, and whether or not you believe in multiple lives, in karma and in kinship, it’s never too late to say I LOVE YOU. And yes, I feel a dork because for some reason I still dare not tell her, I don’t dare to be clear, that I just ignore something so unique that I can share with my soul love because I am too stubborn am. (because who will see his twin in this life and if you recognize each other as such…., I seem crazy!) I suddenly realize that I have every reason to regret everything you write , if only I weren’t so arrogant, sob….

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It must have been that he came my way, it cannot be otherwise and I do not believe in ‘coincidence’ either. Thanks to him I became happy again, I felt like a ‘woman’ again, only because of the beautiful look of recognition, appreciation and respect he had for me and still has. I see him as my ‘alternative ego’, the masculine variant of myself and, strangely enough, we display many similarities in physionomy (face, shape of hands, shape of nails even!). Those who are familiar with numerology would find it striking that even our names / family names possibly count letters. But apart from that the man is simply beautiful: as a person and as a man; attractive and irresistible. There is a great attraction between us, but it is guided by respect and the basic rules of ‘moral decency’ of course. We are both married (and happy in that marriage) and have children and neither he nor I would skate! in this respect. Yet that immense desire for him burns in me. I always think about everything and let my common sense guide me. I cannot give room to my feelings and he does not. That frustrates me enormously, because I also have that deep passion in me, but it now seems that there are always brakes on my ‘system’. We see each other regularly, almost every day during the week; we talk to each other, send each other secretly coded messages through looks and smiles. I can almost hear what he doesn’t want to say and maybe can’t even say. Our communication is often more silent body language than many words. I have already received a lot from this silent friendship and I even dare to put the word ‘love’ on it. I cherish all those moments of being together quietly, but sometimes I just want more … because I am convinced that he and I should be together. But explain that to the world! around us. I also don’t know if this man would accept such a statement. Thank you for all the comments here, I am sorry to read them! (M., the “questioner”) I am sorry to read them! (M., the “questioner”) I am sorry to read them! (M., the “questioner”)

Answer 8
Dear questioner, how can you be happy in your marriage AND have that burning desire for someone else? Are you honest with yourself? I don’t see that as real happiness but more as a safe kind of laziness. Because in your question you are talking about cold and cold around your heart because you cannot resonate 100% with each other? Because I read that in your question, unhappiness due to lack of resonance. My twinflame doesn’t want to resonate either, and I experience that as cold and chilly. I might be planning to find a literally warmer place to live, Borneo or something. Something in me says that we (my twin and I) will do that together. So wait a little longer …? No life without soul assignment (Wieweet)

Answer 9
To answer 7: Your reaction touches me, I think because I recognize my own soul love in this. Without knowing a word, I know what goes on inside him, he feels it very well. He does exactly like you, aloof often, and sometimes arrogantly. At first it could hurt me enormously and make me sad. But for some time I see why he does that and I only feel love for him. Because I know he doesn’t mean it so bad. I also want to give you that; you are not a loser, you are a beautiful person with fears that you have to gradually tackle and put out the door. Purely based on your story you could be my twin, but you never know who you are facing here, and it would be very coincidental if you were. If we would like it, we would communicate via this website. But it doesn’t matter. I am learning a bit from this for my own situation. If you want to tell your soul love what you feel for her, do so. At a time where you feel completely comfortable, when you are two. Bring it open and honest. Then she will take it well, I know that for sure. If my twin did this, I would jump a hole in the air and hug him tightly. Because although I KNOW that he feels this for me, I would love to hear it from his mouth! May I ask how she has declared her love to you? I have given my twin a lot of instructions in the form of conversations, body language, looks and telepathy, but I have never spoken it verbally for the reason that I feared that he would misunderstand it. After all, I have been with my partner for a long time and was afraid that I would give the wrong impression to my soul. You say that you feel like a loser because you want her for you alone; but isn’t that very human and logical? I can imagine that it is difficult to accept that she is sharing her life with someone else. That’s how it is with me. But I can tell you that I love both men. From my twin, however, more unconditionally than from my partner. That’s just how it is. I could tolerate anything from twin, grant him all the freedom of the world. And with my husband it is different. Strong the feeling that we are working out karma. You are right to say that it is never too late to tell someone you love her. Do it, it won’t go wrong. If she is as far as you say, she will understand you 100% and will never judge you. Love (Unknown)

Answer 10
I recognize myself in both the emotion of questioner M and answer 7. Thank you for both stories! And 7, thanks for all honesty, and this situation seen from a man. It offers me some comfort. Sometimes there is more behind a sometimes seemingly ‘indifferent’ exterior. Hope you can tell her again soon what you feel for her. (Unknown)

Answer 11
To M of the reaction under answer 7; I recognize everything in your story. My twinflame and I also speak volumes without words and with body language, in words that have a different meaning for us, etc. It is difficult, because I would really like to hear and say what I feel for him. I long for that man even though I am in a relationship. I know that he and I belong together, and that he fits me 100%. He really is my other lever in everything. Exactly the opposite but still the same. A clairvoyant once said that we have the same energetic blueprint and that is how it feels. When we are together, we always unconsciously mirror each other, I can see a lot from his eyes. And sometimes he touches me casually. Everything, really everything stays with me, is engraved in my memory. I am sure that someday (and that goes for you too) we can be honest with our twins. Only when the time is right. But ever. (Unknown)

Answer 12
Answer 7; what is not now does not mean that it is never so. (Unknown)

Answer 13
After meeting your twinflame, your whole life is turned upside down. You would very much like to be guided by the happiness of your twinflame but also so many things that hold you back. You are looking for a middle way to deal with it in a good way. Love is not without pain, as many here already know. I find it very clever of many who are in a relationship and meet their twinflames. I would not know what I would do in such a situation. Ultimately in whatever position you are, we will find the way back to the basics of our feeling. I wish you a lot of strength and power. I hope you can find happiness in yourself. (Unknown)

Answer 14
If it is you, answer 7, which I very much hope (but of which I am absolutely not sure) then realize that we are more alike that you think. I too sympathize with this questioner and were you not the one who wanted to stay with her? Who told me that we are not meant to be in this life? That we have to learn without loving each other? (Unknown)

Answer 15 Answer 14
, I have no idea who you hope I am, I am the author of answer 7 and wrote this piece as a mirror for my twin. It has been said here many times…. don’t think to find your twin here, it would be too good if you could communicate with each other here, right?

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Thanks for all the thoughtful comments, sweet words and the understanding / feeling that I find here! I must say that I am not at all familiar with esoteric ideas and that I will not easily acquire concepts such as ‘universe’, ‘ego’, ‘energy’ and even ‘twin’. I am ‘just’ religious and try to follow the path that has been mapped out for me. I am convinced that it is all about LOVE in this life: in thoughts, in actions and behavior, in words and deeds. For me the ultimate love is GOD, everything goes out of Him and everything goes back to Him. In between I try as much as possible to make that love my own – by trial and error – love is always about the OTHER for me, the total openness to that other person. And so not for myself, my own ‘ego’, what I want or what would benefit me most. I read that quite a lot on this site: a lot is written about the ‘ego’ of the other being an obst! would be akel for us, but what about our own ‘ego’? Yes, I have my deep desires, my wishes and that yearn for someone else. I have feelings that I am not yet able to steer in the right direction and that entails intense inner pain for me (and also for all those who experience such a thing). I cannot imagine that it entails really deep happiness to, for example, steal the man or the woman from someone else, just because I would have the idea that the other person is my ‘twin’ or my soul’s love. Perhaps my own (Christian-inspired) belief is largely in between. My pain in this story is that I will never be able to be with that other man and that I can only love him from a distance, with respect for his life. And it also hurts me that I will never be able to tell him that I love him and that he will never tell me that he loves me. But my love for him is authentic and genuine; I wish him all! the very best in this life and that he can always be happy. He will realize how much I love him and maybe that will only be in Heaven. That will be the moment of joy for me (Marjolijn, the questioner) But my love for him is authentic and genuine; I wish him all! the very best in this life and that he can always be happy. He will realize how much I love him and maybe that will only be in Heaven. That will be the moment of joy for me (Marjolijn, the questioner) But my love for him is authentic and genuine; I wish him all! the very best in this life and that he can always be happy. He will realize how much I love him and maybe that will only be in Heaven. That will be the moment of joy for me (Marjolijn, the questioner)

Answer 16
Hello answer 15, Response 14 I sent in an emotional mood. My twin and I have communicated through this site (everyone’s situation is different). And if you think your twin is not coming here, why do you mirror him through this site and pretend to be a man? By the way, do you wish all the strength in your process. (Unknown)

Answer 17
Question for knowing; what exactly do you mean by this “My twinflame does not want to resonate, and I experience that as cold and chilly.” And does someone do that consciously or unconsciously? if you write “don’t want” should I conclude that it is a conscious choice (or process?)? (Unknown)

Answer 18
Yes Answer 17: Excuse for the late reaction. That he does not want to resonate sometimes, that is an unconscious process, I think. He is still working on so many other things that must happen that he does not want or can do anything else. that does not alter the fact that I experience it as cold and chilly, at those moments. Compare it to a mother, who also has to do all sorts of things and, at the moment, supreme (seen from the child’s point of view), also let the child know. understands it (mother does not want to resonate at the moment) but still experiences it as chilly and cold. Incidentally, I am aware that I also do that to my twin, on a soul level. (Wieweet)

Answer 19
Thank you, yes, if you don’t do both, then it won’t work . Maybe it’s just the time yet, I believe that everything has a reason, nothing happens for nothing. (Unknown)

Answer 20
You know what (funny name), with my twinflame and me I sometimes wonder … who really let it go on the “moment supreme” … with the realization again, everything has a reason, nothing happens for nothing, pffff, I was from antw.19 (Unknown)