Q0680. Help, what should I do?

Unknown

Dear reader, I need some space to outline the dilemma: my current relationship has been getting worse for years. Considering stopping, I was loosening myself emotionally when twin returned to my life. Partner knows that I am in a process of change whose outcome is uncertain and that I am dissatisfied with our relationship, but I know nothing about twin. He is suddenly affectionate and wants all sorts of things that he used to do reluctantly or NEVER. Despite my cool attitude or maybe that’s why. Have daily (only energetic) contact with twin. Feel that we can now choose each other and made the decision for myself to leave partner yesterday. But nothing said yet, I first want to have a plan of how / when to leave and really want to wait for contact with twin. Partner notices that something is wrong. Tomorrow short vacation (was planned miraculously) with partner and child. But feel bad, I can hardly ‘play’ anymore. Help, what should I do?

Answer 1
Be honest ……… (Unknown)

Answer 2
It is difficult to hear such a vacation, keep believing in yourself. You know it doesn’t feel right anymore, even though it’s planned, do you have to let it go? my experience is that you can see much better what is wrong and that comes in extra hard at such moments..i saw people around me who looked so sweetly at each other, so i felt how far away we had.it was good to to feel, making decisions easier, but it is an attack on your health, mentally and physically. strength (unknown)

Answer 3
I have known my twinflame for 5 months now. he has girlfriend and 2 children, I was in marriage but went out for him. I recognize the pain, it is a raw pain that stays, wants to continue with him but he wants to stay with his girlfriend because he has children. (Unknown)

Answer 4
Maybe you should confess it to him if it makes you feel so bad. At some point you cannot continue like this. Then it will eat on you and it will make you sick. (Unknown)

Answer 5
My advice; no more playing theater but being honest to yourself and your partner I have done too long and that makes you feel bad, with fear, dear greeting. (Unknown)

Answer 6
I am in a similar situation. It is going at the moment with many downs and few ups. I can hardly afford to participate in ‘fun’ anymore. But I don’t do anything myself (yet) I look at it, I think it’s a part of the process that I have to go through and that I have to learn something from it. (Unknown)

Answer 7
I also say to be honest, your partner is just as valuable a person as you are, who has the right to decide for himself whether he wants to live with you if he knows what is going on in your head and body. Now you make that decision for him. I always say, and I know from experience, leave your partner because your life with that person does not feel or is not good. But not because another is involved. Allow yourself the time to recover from the relationship with your partner. Wash you clean of the influences and stress of a ‘bad’ relationship. And only then can you start something else freely. Twinflame, soulmate or whatever brand you want to give it. You also do not step unwashed in a clean underpants right? I don’t understand why people make someone else’s decision to leave the partner. Is being alone so terrible? For me it has been a gift in which I have had the peace and the time and still have to grow to the level that I am now at. After years of always being with someone (different people) I know what I’m talking about. I think the person who left the answer despite the fact that twin stays with girlfriend and children is therefore very brave. After all, it is primarily about honesty within the relationship (which is also orchestrated by God) in which you are currently. Listen in silence to your heart and to your angels and then you know the correct answer yourself. You don’t feel bad for nothing. (Marcelle) After years of always being with someone (different people) I know what I’m talking about. I think the person who left the answer despite the fact that twin stays with girlfriend and children is therefore very brave. After all, it is primarily about honesty within the relationship (which is also orchestrated by God) in which you are currently. Listen in silence to your heart and to your angels and then you know the correct answer yourself. You don’t feel bad for nothing. (Marcelle) After years of always being with someone (different people) I know what I’m talking about. I think the person who left the answer despite the fact that twin stays with girlfriend and children is therefore very brave. After all, it is primarily about honesty within the relationship (which is also orchestrated by God) in which you are currently. Listen in silence to your heart and to your angels and then you know the correct answer yourself. You don’t feel bad for nothing. (Marcelle) Listen in silence to your heart and to your angels and then you know the correct answer yourself. You don’t feel bad for nothing. (Marcelle) Listen in silence to your heart and to your angels and then you know the correct answer yourself. You don’t feel bad for nothing. (Marcelle)

Answer 8
I am in the same situation. I have had a love affair with my twinflame for a long time, but I do not really get away from fear and compassion. He has exactly the same. But life passes with drama. If you can take that step, then you are ready. Do it for you and for your partner. Otherwise you live a lie. Have a good think during the holidays and you will know what your heart is saying. If you had to choose within 1 second, what would you choose? (Unknown)

Answer 9
Dear readers, thanks for all the responses. During the vacation it became even clearer what was wrong (answer 2). Could not keep it for me any longer and told today that I no longer see our marriage. Is a big drama now of course. He doesn’t want to let me go, but I know there is no future in our relationship (I actually already know twin or no twin for a long time). Twin makes it easier to make the decision now, so that arrival is exactly at the right time … (Unknown)