Q0524. Why that pain?

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To be there for each other, to be there for each other, to be there for each other, in everything that is. And yet experience that cut off feeling … It is not possible, it is not the right time yet, it seems impossible etc .. Too painful to articulate. You feel that you are in each other’s hearts, but when do you know if it is time to move on with or without your twin?

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Sometimes old pain is still not understandable, it must first be processed. you don’t both have to be perfect to get together, I guess, nobody will be able to do that, we have to be able to handle it; be someone before it works. I do not mean that we should not feel and show fear and trembling, that is not a problem, but we must be able to cope with everything on it and around it. there is something higher that helps, I trust that. then it becomes constructive for everyone instead of destructive. (Unknown)

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yes when is it time? that pain is in yourself, if you listen to your feelings then the pain is a lot less, is my experience, ignoring your feeling that causes pain, look at signals from the universe, at your feelings, if it is meant to go together then the universe is ticking you, it happened to me through inexplicable ‘coincidences’, accidents, illnesses, could not even walk for a while, inexplicable, I have been all kinds of doctors, from one therapy to the other, I really stood silent until I understood it had everything to do with my twin, the light went on and a miraculous cure was a fact, only I knew where it came from, and my feeling went around in a circle, the same things I didn’t want to learn came even harder again 1 year later, then it is as if the power of love / the universe is saying to you: “you are not that happy and now you have to …” but perhaps that is not always part of twin zi! They first have other things to finish, and you may not like the universe. I now also notice that I will be helped if I remain pure in my intentions and then I receive all kinds of signals that I am doing well , happy! (Unknown)

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Difficult question to which I unfortunately have to owe you the answer because I have the same problem. That enormous feeling of attraction, love and wanting to be together and not being able and allowed in this life. I do not find anything more difficult. I sometimes feel the same desires from my twin. He often shuts himself off from his feelings and then I come across a wall. But if he is also open, that is very intense and I would prefer to be in his arms. There are, however, many reasons why this is not allowed and it is difficult for me. I sometimes even think of a secret relationship with him, although that is not my way of dealing with people at all. Purely out of desire. But things like that always come true sooner or later and I don’t have to think about what a catastrophe would bring. No, I could only do that if I had 100% certainty that it would never come true and we could really keep it between us. And that certainty is not there so I start e! r not on. Quite apart from the question whether he would like that, and I don’t think so. Life can take strange turns with regard to a twinflame. I often notice that my husband himself proposes to visit him or invite him. The children love him too. We sometimes meet each other spontaneously and the coincidences between us cannot be called so many. I think if you are really twinsouls, you will eventually come together. In this life or in a next one. It is meager comfort, though. (Unknown) Quite apart from the question whether he would like that, and I don’t think so. Life can take strange turns with regard to a twinflame. I often notice that my husband himself proposes to visit him or invite him. The children love him too. We sometimes meet each other spontaneously and the coincidences between us cannot be called so many. I think if you are really twinsouls, you will eventually come together. In this life or in a next one. It is meager comfort, though. (Unknown) Quite apart from the question whether he would like that, and I don’t think so. Life can take strange turns with regard to a twinflame. I often notice that my husband himself proposes to visit him or invite him. The children love him too. We sometimes meet each other spontaneously and the coincidences between us cannot be called so many. I think if you are really twinsouls, you will eventually come together. In this life or in a next one. It is meager comfort, though. (Unknown) you will eventually come together. In this life or in a next one. It is meager comfort, though. (Unknown) you will eventually come together. In this life or in a next one. It is meager comfort, though. (Unknown)

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Yes and then it just hurts again, because you want to be together, because you do not want to miss each other anymore .. I see it so wrong .. sometimes you just do not know anymore.we also live in such a wise society, yet I am going to follow my feelings because that is what my soul tells me .. if I do not then I feel sadness, sympathize with you .. love (Unknown)

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I think it is an inner drive that is becoming stronger, a tension spring that is tightening more and more. There is both of them. And at a certain moment, determined by the universe, you both know NOW it is the moment (Unknown)

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It often has to do with a psychological explanation: Being hurt> not processing …> building a blockade> not being able to set up vulnerable> fear of the unknown, no self-confidence> looking for answers outside yourself instead of inside out. All barriers that can play a role. (Unknown)

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We have arrived at a point of inner awareness, not wanting to lose yourself, not wanting to lose your twin. Who am I, who are you, who are we? And how can we shape this in our lives at the moment. The desire for my twin is great so I am currently experiencing the pain in my inner being. (IMJ)

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Why would your twin close, would he close if there was a possibility of real contact? is it too uncomfortable for him. that happened to me very often when I contacted you, then you quickly put up a so-called wall because you still have to keep responding normally in public. maybe that’s the reason. and that of a secret relationship are you afraid of others / outsiders when it comes out, you don’t hurt them, they can chat at most, the question is whether you want it that way? but what you should be afraid of cheating on your partner in this way. and that in turn creates new ‘karma’. And even if you do not opt ​​for a ‘secret’ relationship, your partner still has the right to honesty, even if it is painful, what hurts more? play everything open and honest what you feel and want with your twin, that might be offensive but maybe the best you can do. give your partner the space to do what they want with it. so you keep respect for each other and so maybe you can go to your twin if they are open to it and that tension spring ? he does his work in the meantime .. you can count on that. (Unknown)

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For that longing soul; yes those weird twists and turns that come when it is meant to be that hope / I think but what will stop you from going to your twin once with your husband? if it already suggests I once tried, invited, but probably it was too awkward and now I have not spoken or seen it for more than a year and every day it seems to get heavier, go ahead but it hurts I recognize it that way, greeting dear to your toes

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That’s really unbelievable … walking. you can ask your twin to help you when you are once again in the pit … I only know feeling love helps but I think you can also help each other more consciously. (Unknown)

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Recognizable. Time will tell fellow sufferer. If that’s what you mean, then you come together. Uncertainty and no clarity. In my situation I think and feel that an inner search, a healing and processing must first take place. Now it is often the case that there is the feeling of being cut off. That is very painful and very sad. Ask yourself, from whom are you a cut off questioner? Of yourself??? or from your twin ??? I think and feel that it is first. Being cut off from yourself that you recognize and feel with your twin. This is confusing, emotional, double and painful! You will first have to go through this feeling and I think, before you can continue to grow with or without … I think you understand me questioner or you do nothing and continue as it is now, but realize that you then run away from the pain .Can also, but nothing will change in your life and with you! Strength questioner! It will be very painful, but it will be worth it if you do it! (Unknown)

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First you have to suffer before you can move on and grow. Everything you feel is not the other. You are that yourself. Cut off from the other? No … from yourself! Painful? YES (Unknown)

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Dear companion you write the following and I have a question about it and it reads as follows: “You feel that you are in each other’s hearts, but when do you know if it is time to move on with or without your twin?” I am not entirely clear what you mean. What exactly do you mean by going further? A relationship with your twin just like earthly relationships? Husband and wife? Women wife? Man and man? or something else? (Unknown)

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Why that pain? Companion what I wonder is what do you actually expect from the other person? Can you provide a pure and honest answer for yourself there? If you’ve done that, then you can share this with your twin and talk about it in all honesty and purity. That’s love too! I’m curious if you can do that for yourself and let us know here if you’ve succeeded. Success dear fellow sufferer and also a lot of strength with discovering and growing! (Unknown)

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Yes, but t does not mean that you cannot be familiar with each other beforehand, and you can speak and not make any mistakes. if you both do not want to make mistakes, there must first be clarity. earthly contact does not have to disturb ‘higher’ contact. it can also take pressure off the boiler and provide insight. never assume that a twin “understands.” (Unknown)

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In 1 of the answers someone concludes with the words: never assume that your twin understands. And that is, I think, one of the big stumbling blocks that it is all about .. My twin feels everything, but finds it scary, understands nix of the beautiful things that happen to him and shoots in his fear of becoming vulnerable .. There you have the wall again! He does not understand where those feelings come from and what he has to do with it, is so stuck in his own earthly way of thinking .. and so he distances himself, because then it is not there (he thinks). Have made several attempts to explain it to him, just get a grin or a ‘yes yes’ .. someday it will penetrate haha ​​.. (Unknown)

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“We also live in such a sensible society, yet I am going to follow my feelings because that is what my soul tells me .. if I do not, I feel sadness, sympathize with you .. love” Your feeling also indicates , I am convinced that you have pain and sorrow. That is also from your dear questioner (IMJ)! What will you do with this? Tuck away? Ignore? That is of course possible. There are a lot of others who do that too, but at a certain point you will discover that this is no longer possible. Really! It costs a lot of energy. That’s not what you want right? You scoop yourself from the inside. Within this, your core / source / being is full. Both positive and negative feelings and experiences. They actually need each other. They can’t live without each other. You need them. why? To become stronger and grow. To live instead of being lived and meeting the expectations of your environment in the broadest sense of the word. This is debilitating. Destructive for your being / yourself. Are you going to change? Yes and no. Eventually you will notice that you are changing and getting stronger. Your self-confidence will grow and others will experience and see that too. You have to be careful, though, dear questioner, because jealousy soon lurks. Others would want what you have achieved deep in their heart and soul! What? To be and to be yourself or rather: “Be that which you were not allowed to be for years” Yourself. You do not change, because then you are finally / actually yourself! (Unknown) Eventually you will notice that you are changing and getting stronger. Your self-confidence will grow and others will experience and see that too. You have to be careful, though, dear questioner, because jealousy soon lurks. Others would want what you have achieved deep in their heart and soul! What? To be and to be yourself or rather: “Be that which you were not allowed to be for years” Yourself. You do not change, because then you are finally / actually yourself! (Unknown) Eventually you will notice that you are changing and getting stronger. Your self-confidence will grow and others will experience and see that too. You have to be careful, though, dear questioner, because jealousy soon lurks. Others would want what you have achieved deep in their heart and soul! What? To be and to be yourself or rather: “Be that which you were not allowed to be for years” Yourself. You do not change, because then you are finally / actually yourself! (Unknown) “Be what you were not allowed to be for years” Yourself. You do not change, because then you are finally / actually yourself! (Unknown) “Be what you were not allowed to be for years” Yourself. You do not change, because then you are finally / actually yourself! (Unknown)

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In response to this last answer; I can fully confirm that. You must allow yourself to be yourself, 100%. It took me 16 years to do that and finally I accepted all my feelings. It can be there. The love for the man with whom I have my “earthly” relationship, and believe me, that is also true love with all the trimmings. In addition, the love for the man with whom I have a “heavenly” relationship, my twinflame. I always found myself so wrong because I loved both. In our society that is really not done, everyone is ready with judgments. So I never spoke to anyone about it. Never. And I still don’t, but I can feel it and enjoy it. That feels like a liberation. I can see what the future brings. I would prefer to live in a house with my twinflame and my husband,