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Why does the coming together of twins have something so definitive? Why can’t you mirror in openness for a while? Then you have the opportunity to investigate everything? seems much fairer to me?
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Even more mirroring and in all openness? like, but openness to / from whom? how open and vulnerable can you be? how much can you expect from someone? if there is no openness on the other hand and you notice that again and again, because it is all taken care of, yes what is fair? that has become an enormous threshold! have the idea that much is said about soul love but without the soul love and without the soul loves talking. (Unknown)
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Hehe, I think so too (Unknown)
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Yes and there comes a time when the open twin thinks it is enough and can no longer be dragged into a certain strategy, then the door closes and there is one more possibility, let go! and I have to say that is going to be increasingly attractive! let my twin be satisfied ?! maybe that is the nicest gift I can give my twin; Clarity, Courage and Insight (Unknown)
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Yes, my twinflame has also raised expectations with me. you unknowingly and sometimes consciously see each other where things are not going well in your life, so you think your twin is pushing you in a certain direction. you are pressed with your nose on the facts about the relationships, your reactions to them and I have seen them and drawn my conclusions, everything became visible! I resumed my life myself and I have to say it suits me fine. but it is not the case that twins look alike and therefore know / see so well what goes wrong with the other. the lesson they teach the other may be even more relevant to themselves! and is it not always true that everything else someone says to you is mostly about the problems they are struggling with the most. We have mirrored for years and it is still unclear, yes how open can you be? and yes it takes courage and perseverance, that is at least my experience, but then you also get something !! then you have yourself back! and yes what you will do with that you can see again, then you DO have a GOOD starting position, you start with the basics, yours! you do not drown by diving but by staying under water … (Unknown)
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Is the open twin not a woman in 9 out of 10 cases? And yes, talk to each other. (If possible) But just to the last unknown: if you feel it that way, I would let go. I did too. It’s hard, but idd a gift to yourself and your twin. Maybe it is time again to focus completely on yourself. Believe me, the so-called ‘closed twins’ usually do. Love doesn’t go away anyway, just letting go takes courage. I introduce myself as follows: my twin who does the polonaise and is ecstatic happy that I finally went up in smoke. Very over the top, but exaggerating and visualization can help. I laugh about it and do a little dance inside. This life is so bizarre. Can’t really take it seriously anymore. In my more enlightened moments, I think we will laugh about it later. On the other hand then. In the present, I think I’m just too much hassle for my twin and vice versa, that’s even more so. I still need him! congratulations, because he realized that fact much sooner than me! Ha! (Juul)
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Dear people, feel and grow through soul love, see what you are capable of and enjoy … it cannot be explained in an ordinary relationship. (Unknown)
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have faith in yourself, in the other, letting go brings me much closer to myself, to my twin. consider how you met, why wouldn’t that happen again? I hope I have more to offer. I want to learn so much. have faith instead of waiting and live. (Unknown)
Answer From your answers speak aggression, anger, to whom? have respect, especially for yourself. realize that everyone goes their own way, that’s ok. (Unknown)
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Ja loslaten is moed, heb er vertrouwen in dat het goed komt en het is geen agressie maar meer een gevoel van diep verdriet, het duurt al zo lang..hoop het zo dat mijn twin ook verder groeit en dat dat nog in dit leven goed komt.. het lijkt me zo zuur als je zegt ; na dit leven.. je leeft nu en je wilt toch nu ook ‘aards’ genieten.. maar ik leef en ik zal proberen los te laten. mijn twin heeft recht op zijn eigen proces, dat is oké. zal proberen er met humor naar te kijken zoals de vorige onbekende, het is op het moment gewoon te lastig voor mijn twin , zie hem echter geen polonaise doen,dit doet ons allebei te zeer. was het vertrouwen even helemaal kwijt maar ik ga er weer voor.(Onbekend)
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Agressie??? En hier wordt over moed gesproken, maar uiteindelijk is het allemaal esoterisch gepraat. En het echte leven dendert voort. Doorgaan betekent respect voor jezelf. En gevoel voor humor is ook een gave denk ik. Die niet iedereen heeft. Waarom moeten spirituele zaken altijd zo beladen en serieus zijn? Ook al is het vreselijk verdrietig! Echt! En iedereen die zo moedig is, kan zichzelf ook een naam geven. Al is het maar een schuilnaam. Onbekend komt zo kil over. En antwoorden tegen 3 onbekenden is nogal lastig.(J.)
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Dear J., I have not discovered aggression in the answers of anyone. what I do read from your answer is a feeling of despair, I cannot help but life continues to thunder as you say, but that is your own choice and you will also find it esoteric talk but it is, in my opinion, indeed so. do you let it pass on or will it be continued for you? spiritual things don’t have to be serious, very beautiful. I have because I have my love for my twin. I discovered again the humor in life, I lost it for a long time, but also the sadness. every person has the right to break or not to break through their fixed patterns or to climb over that mountain, or to thunder through. only when you feel that the burden is becoming too heavy for you then you can choose and then you still need courage and everyone should be free to decide whether or not to make that decision. don’t let anyone tell you anything, believe in your own things, have respect for yourself in whatever way! love, for a change. (Me)
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I do not mean love for a change but love, for a change; me (instead of unknown haha) (Unknown)
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Lieve J. just a supplement; what is real life all beautiful / special experiences? in fact, nothing is more real than that! (Unknown)
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I have not yet discovered any openness, no conversation, no other approach. that hurts, how on earth can you mirror it in all openness? I have no choice but to take distance, that is respect for myself … love (Me)
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Dear Me, (I’m actually talking to myself now, haha) You are right though. The answer I gave earlier here was not very subtle, does not sound very much like me. But sometimes I can be cynical. Sometimes you say things when it is not your day. I’m sorry. I’m usually nicer, just look at 407 and 409. This wasn’t bad for me. If I bumped people, I apologize. It was probably a projection. And when I’m talking about myself, sometimes I give advice that I can’t live up to myself. Sometimes that inner wisdom is there, but now it was inner stupidity. But anyway, I mainly speak to myself. I want to be honest. Despair probably played a role at the time. Despair, sadness, both likely. Only intellectually can I continue. And then I sometimes switch off my feelings. Under the motto: “Not dicks, but brushing.” And at those rare moments I think it is esoteric talk. But I’m here. Says enough of course. I betray myself. That is also very funny, by the way. I wish everyone and their loves the best and much more. And does not want to judge or hurt anyone. But if I am honest, I have just come to a very sobering conclusion regarding my feelings. I think my spiritual development sometimes goes two steps forward and then three steps back. I thought I was in a place where I had accepted everything. I felt fine. But I have had a confrontation with myself. And then everything collapsed. And that was it. I looked into the proverbial spiritual mirror and just wanted to run away. And still. Although it is now better. But I am afraid of the pain, do not want to be sad anymore, seeing twin was usually enough compensation. But no matter how childish it sounds, I don’t want to say goodbye every time. For a long time I told myself that I could handle it, but I am not strong enough. And therefore the ultimate irony, a more definitive farewell. That has to run away again and again, something in me no longer accepts that, not at the moment. When I talk about real life, maybe that’s a miscommunication between us, I mean the above, from my own personal feeling now. The part of me that wants more is no longer satisfied with less and it now dominates me. And rationally, there is no possibility of more. And I wouldn’t want that and can’t handle that either. So first I have to reunite myself. Now I still contradict myself. Because I am rowing against my emotional flow: my thoughts often go out to the next meeting with twin. Apparently the proverbial crutches that make it bearable for me. And when I am asleep, my dreams cannot be silenced either. Well, that subconscious too. I now really want to work on – or rather, work with – myself. I can’t handle the confrontation now. And it will indeed not be easier if everyone else around you finally finds you sensible. Which of course is nonsense. But a person is strangely pre-programmed. Even if you are ruled by your feelings. At the same time you are the result of the sum of experience and environment. I try to see through that. And yes, all beautiful, special experiences are certainly someone’s life. Nothing more important than that. I would never miss them. But I’m just scared of missing out on other things in that so-called “real life,” I’m trying to move forward in a certain way. Or maybe I’m resting. I want to have more confidence in myself and again. Then hopefully the rest will follow. Love (Juul / J.)
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dear J./juul. what an open answer, what a struggle, I recognize it that way! have faith in yourself, in your twin, in the universe. it leads me to people and things in my life, you are helped, sometimes I literally feel a soft caress through my hair, as if someone is comforting me, you don’t have to do it alone, listen carefully to the characters around you that has me led to the point where I have now come. sometimes people said something to me the moment I had a big question mark over my head, (I thought everyone should see that, it was that big) and what they said was exactly what I needed. a period of rest is also important if you feel that you are not ready, take your time, these are such important decisions. sadness..it’s there, follow your feelings, follow what you know deep in your heart, even if you don’t overlook it … follow your feelings. look at what makes your life happy and don’t let anything talk that you should be wise! jn..it’s your life, who do you live for? look at everything in your life, your work, your relationships, there is a middle way or another way for everything but not for this love .. rest, feel and trust that there will come a time when you know what to do do, you are stronger than people want you to believe. The closer you get to your goal, the harder the opposition, your ego / other egos, your environment. do not expect an understanding of others who do not know this love, I also wanted that, but that is to fight the beer quay, they will not get it. the well-intended advice from my area was mainly the one that best suits them (what is love?) people in my area saw my struggle and my sorrow and yet they still want you to be the way you have always been, except the people who really love you, who know how sweet and loyal you are and have always put the other person first. the only thing that matters is what you feel and want, love yourself! are it worth it. we will be very right when I read your story like this, it is very recognizable, I can no longer keep that distance, say goodbye again, it has not wanted for so long. it remains sad no matter what you decide, but have faith and continue to listen spiritually and watch the signals you get from the universe / god, if it has to be, then those signs are really there and maybe there have already been plenty?! I got so many that I really couldn’t get around it anymore. ask yourself a question that you are struggling with and the answer comes in the form of comments, events, accidents (of course I hope not for you) Also about what you want to do, have you always done what you like? maybe yes / no? your dreams can also make a lot clear, look at them (and of course enjoy them if they are beautiful!). please. 3 steps forward and 2 backwards instead. the other way around is also more fun for your twin ha and have patience, love and trust .. I have too! hope you pull it a little bit and that i’ll pull you a little bit! have helped? love (Me) ask yourself a question that you are struggling with and the answer comes in the form of comments, events, accidents (of course I hope not for you) Also about what you want to do, have you always done what you like? maybe yes / no? your dreams can also make a lot clear, look at them (and of course enjoy them if they are beautiful!). please. 3 steps forward and 2 backwards instead. the other way around is also more fun for your twin ha and have patience, love and trust .. I have too! hope you pull it a little bit and that i’ll pull you a little bit! have helped? love (Me) ask yourself a question that you are struggling with and the answer comes in the form of comments, events, accidents (of course I hope not for you) Also about what you want to do, have you always done what you like? maybe yes / no? your dreams can also make a lot clear, look at them (and of course enjoy them if they are beautiful!). please. 3 steps forward and 2 backwards instead. the other way around is also more fun for your twin ha and have patience, love and trust .. I have too! hope you pull it a little bit and that i’ll pull you a little bit! have helped? love (Me) look at it (and of course enjoy it if they are beautiful!). please. 3 steps forward and 2 backwards instead. the other way around is also more fun for your twin ha and have patience, love and trust .. I have too! hope you pull it a little bit and that i’ll pull you a little bit! have helped? love (Me) look at it (and of course enjoy it if they are beautiful!). please. 3 steps forward and 2 backwards instead. the other way around is also more fun for your twin ha and have patience, love and trust .. I have too! hope you pull it a little bit and that i’ll pull you a little bit! have helped? love (Me)
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A nice answer to such a fight / fight with yourself / myself can be found in ivy’s answer to question 251, I agree with ivy, keep an eye on each other, grow together, you have come that far, do not give up, sometimes wait quietly, give a kick to his ass and trust that the other person will also grow with you, even though sometimes at a faster / slower pace, protect each other with all the love you have in you, give each other the space and trust. there is never a way back, only to each other! believe in your dreams and make them come true, it’s so true! know it will be okay .. love (Unknown)
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Wow, I have not been to this site for a while and it has been busy here. Me, if you still read this; Thank you very much for your comprehensive reply. It was nice to hear / read your positive words. I can write a whole story again, but I just wanted to say thank you and it will be okay. Anyway. I don’t know exactly what ‘it’ is, but that also keeps it exciting, doesn’t it? I have had to let go of the people close to me a bit in that respect, because those opinions, they do not help you 9 times a day. I finally learned that lesson. And yes, I’m going to do what I enjoyed. Quite a struggle, but I am almost ready. Because it is not only fun, but it is also what I ‘must’ do. Thanks. Very much. Also wish you more than the best, in general and also in your twinflame adventure. As long as you continue to feel love, right? (And I can now do that again) Ultimately, everything revolves around that, in whatever form. The rest is just decoration! Love (Juul)
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Hi Juul, I am glad that I helped you and that you see it again, and as you say it is all about love and honest choices, if you have grown that far then you cannot do anything else. then the rest feels like decoration, like fake, and even though it feels insecure and sometimes unsafe, it feels better, is my experience. but I also still have to find out how to complete it and sometimes I cannot wait to see what else will come my way. what is the purpose of all this? I wonder how you are doing, love (Me)
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Thank you dear Me, I’m fine, hope you too. And the twins? It seems to make little difference whether I let go or not, whether I see twin or not. I could have seen him and didn’t do it and thought it was okay, but days later it suddenly bothered me. Not that this is a new phenomenon for me, but some things never get used to it. Now I am happy that the first six months of this year are over. For me, it is the year of major changes, but also decisions. And I’m not very good at that, but I’m still trying to adjust. It’s all part of it. I try to respect my inner limit that I have reached. We’ve talked about saying goodbye before, but it’s also sharing. All things that didn’t bother me, now I do also requires a little bit of myself to understand the why. But I understand what happened, as I wrote before, I was more at ease with the situation. But circumstances changed that. Very suddenly and quickly. And the proverbial quarter fell. And that changed everything at the same time. I mean; there were always difficult moments and if I had had the free choice, I would have always wanted more, but if life goes as it goes, then you accept that at a given moment. But since then I am aware of that more and know that it is not possible. So continuing on the normal footing would be cruel to myself, but also to twin. And I have not always made it easy before, as if that was sometimes necessary. I don’t regret every moment, some were eye openers and brought out deeper truths. But sometimes it was too much. We live and learn, we will! but say so. I have had more nightmares lately. In times that I let go or want to, I often feel unprotected, it is a strange thing. Everything related to twin nowadays also arrives a hundred times harder. I may experience a bit more peace, but the sadness is there, sometimes in the foreground, sometimes far in the background. Seeing him or not, like I said, it doesn’t always make a big difference. But maybe that makes sense. Twin is, I think, generally very happy and it looks like my active task – that’s what I call it – is over, or … I don’t know either. I would like to lie about it, but this is terribly difficult for me. And I think that is mainly because I have to let go of the part of my zest for life that is linked to him. A sacrifice. I have a great life energy. And I can really radiate that, no matter how vague that may sound. And don’t get me wrong, I can still do that. But twin makes it oh so much easier. But not everything is always easy. In the end, I am grateful for having met someone I understood so easily. Intuitive. Only later did I start thinking about it, but it is precisely this that has clouded things that were very clear. Seeing bears on the road that were just teddy bears. Non-hazardous, filled with sawdust. But that’s life and that’s how it went. It was nobody’s shit! d. We have always shared something that, in my humble opinion, we do not share with anyone else and I thank God that I could look through twin’s walls and get to know that interesting, beautiful soul. Just to throw in a contradiction: I still need twin and that makes me a bit disgusted. I never had so many problems with that before, although my proud part had to swallow a lot, it’s not really my strongest side, but I can. But now my ego refuses to give in, I prefer to survive the loss. I wonder how long my ego can withstand my heart and soul’s beating on the door. Yet it is also true that twin always wanted me to go further and see me prefer doing it, really for my good. I understand that, but if he had been in my shoes, he understood that it was not so easy for me. I think he knows that. Nevertheless, I believe he misses me, but he will find that taking my distance is my choice, we are ultimately not excused each other. And my mind fully agrees with that. The rest is another matter. The question that I often ask myself these days is, even after reading stories here, whether all that holding is so realistic? Is it not a natural fact that things / people disappear from your life? That love does not get off the ground, not out of unwillingness, but because life has decided so. I certainly believe in freedom of movement, but I fear that some things are also certain. Otherwise I could never have predicted dreams about things that still had to happen and that came true exactly, without saying anything about it … Do we sometimes just have to let go? How painful that is? Does this life sometimes not consist of acceptance? No matter how much we sometimes wanted to see things differently. Please understand me, these are questions, I think that no answer to this is a definitive answer. Sometimes we also let go of people we should not have let go, etc. etc. Difficult matter. One thing I realized recently, I have always been able to love people unconditionally. Sometimes to my own disadvantage of course. But it’s something that I was born with, can’t explain it otherwise. Many people learn to love unconditionally when they have children and some never learn, for me it is natural, but it is not easy. You will have to deal with disappointments just a little bit more. My twin didn’t quite get it when we met, for me it was obvious, too obvious, seen through more experienced eyes. I understand that now. But I never doubted what I felt then. And I still think that a young heart full of confidence does not necessarily have to be wrong, experience does not make love easier, twin has discovered that too. Ultimately, many adults long to experience love and trust as easily as when they were young. Or experience it again through their children. Many people want to return to that state of being. As they long for oneness, and experience when we think we are lost, an illusion, because ultimately everything and everyone is one. But that is sometimes difficult to feel, and so it usually feels like this: Divorce does not hurt, but being cut off. But: if you really believe that this is what it is, then there is no separation, then I don’t have to nag and believe that. Then we are always together, at a certain level, even though we never see each other again. Dear me, I wish you lots of love! Strength too, but especially lots of love! (Juul)
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How do you know that this is not intended? strength with your choice, hope your heart and soul agree with this..loves (Me)
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dear Juul, I understand your reasoning. I, too, have always loved people unconditionally, always saw the beauty in every person, and still, and because of that I felt that the overwhelming love for my twin made it impossible for my partner to continue. I could not go all the way for him no matter how much it hurt me. I also took the relationship so far as good enough. I always wondered if it is the intention because I can love people without much in return, so also my partner, but it felt like that to me, it feels more honest, because what do you do to your partner if you no longer have an honest relationship with that, my twin was always there. my twin also thinks I’m happy, only. my twin thinks that’s enough for me. it makes it tough, and sometimes I think I’d rather never have met my twin, then I would have ‘just’ gone further. but you write that you get nightmares if you want to let go of twin, that is not too much! know that you shouldn’t let go! and a task that’s on it, I don’t believe it, it’s not just a soulmate, it’s your twin! that task goes further and continues, I also need my twin and I think that is not at all wrong to feel that. it would hurt me if my twin put me on the sidelines, as you think you can. how does your twin feel about this or do you think it is sufficient if you feel reasonably happy about it? that of course every person is free, but whether that is unconditional loving? I like to feel my twin spiritually, to experience but that is nourished by sweet things, if you would never see that other person again it would feel like being cut off, that hurts, it hurts so much .. yes all people belong together, we are all one, but it doesn’t start with the reunification of twins, or is it enough if you are reunited spiritually? not all people are already in the same energy, your soul wants purity, and not half truths according to me, with me that has become my guideline, to go for the whole truth and not for a little … because that other is too difficult? have the idea that sometimes i’m tested by god, what does he want me to do on my own, whatever the task is, try to find my way in it and it also gives me luck, but it is so only human, that is not easy. it sometimes feels like a crusade. and then I no longer know if I feel it all right. hope you see it well for yourself and for your relationship with your twin, you are so connected to each other, such a one, wish you a lot of love with love (Me)
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Dear Me, Thank you for your answer. First of all I have to say that I am not reasonably happy about this. But the alternative didn’t make me a time either. And I have NEVER put twin on a sidetrack. I have been ‘alone’ for a long time, and on those occasions when I met someone else, things eventually went wrong. Twin is the one in a relationship here. I have lived for this love for so long. You should know, you wouldn’t have said what you said, but you can’t know that either. And I can tell you that I let go, I let go, without even noticing it myself. Forgiveness came naturally again. And I will see twin again. Don’t feel like dying of thirst in a twinless desert. Because that’s how it feels. I’ve also had fewer nightmares since then, much dreamed of twin. Your words do well, but you have to understand that I often look at this situation through worldly glasses, and those glasses do not seem to let go (practically then, spiritually it cannot be) madness. It is difficult if your best friend tells you that this is wise. That I am wise now. Although I have to say that this has caused me to think: “Wise?” Do you think this is wise ??? Beep wisely. My life.’ I cry, am very unhappy about it and she gives me that advice, they don’t get it. But somewhere, the so-called good advice was good, but not the way she meant it … My heart and soul would rather be in pain than being dehydrated. I will quench my thirst. Although I am still afraid that I am going to hurt twin, but sometimes I also think that the problem is there. One period does not want to burden you with the other and the other period is exactly the other way around. Enough of that. Although I still find it difficult, I am sometimes afraid of hurting Twin, because I feel that much harder in return, Twin is a rather powerful personality. (Pot blames kettle) But I’m tired of it all, I’m currently living not enough in my opinion. While I have to do that. I am a free spirit, I have restrained myself enough again.You can’t help who you love. Only I have to find another interpretation. Don’t you think it is important to be able to accept that it is the way it is? I can jump up and down like an angry Repel stalk, but there are more people involved in a life. And I’m not just talking about adults. So that it is separate from it, being together, if it’s not a being together. I just say it because I want to push the boundaries. I don’t just take everything. I also philosophize something. And again, ‘without’ twin was always very difficult for me, but my twin has chosen to go further and just fall in love etc. etc. You can fill in that yourself. And there have been turning points, but then we actually couldn’t enjoy anything anymore, just the feeling. Everything else had hurt too many people and I am convinced us too. Then. I don’t know what will happen in the future, but I don’t want to get stuck. LOVE yes, but also pass for yourself yes. And realize that some things are bigger than yourself! Love, (Juul) I don’t just take everything. I also philosophize something. And again, ‘without’ twin was always very difficult for me, but my twin has chosen to go further and just fall in love etc. etc. You can fill in that yourself. And there have been turning points, but then we actually couldn’t enjoy anything anymore, just the feeling. Everything else had hurt too many people and I am convinced us too. Then. I don’t know what will happen in the future, but I don’t want to get stuck. LOVE yes, but also pass for yourself yes. And realize that some things are bigger than yourself! Love, (Juul) I don’t just take everything. I also philosophize something. And again, ‘without’ twin was always very difficult for me, but my twin has chosen to go further and just fall in love etc. etc. You can fill in that yourself. And there have been turning points, but then we actually couldn’t enjoy anything anymore, just the feeling. Everything else had hurt too many people and I am convinced us too. Then. I don’t know what will happen in the future, but I don’t want to get stuck. LOVE yes, but also pass for yourself yes. And realize that some things are bigger than yourself! Love, (Juul) you can fill in yourself. And there have been turning points, but then we actually couldn’t enjoy anything anymore, just the feeling. Everything else had hurt too many people and I am convinced us too. Then. I don’t know what will happen in the future, but I don’t want to get stuck. LOVE yes, but also pass for yourself yes. And realize that some things are bigger than yourself! Love, (Juul) you can fill in yourself. And there have been turning points, but then we actually couldn’t enjoy anything anymore, just the feeling. Everything else had hurt too many people and I am convinced us too. Then. I don’t know what will happen in the future, but I don’t want to get stuck. LOVE yes, but also pass for yourself yes. And realize that some things are bigger than yourself! Love, (Juul) And realize that some things are bigger than yourself! Love, (Juul) And realize that some things are bigger than yourself! Love, (Juul)
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dear Juul, what do I feel a love and a sorrow from your answer, all my life? you never wanted to hurt, I’m sorry. I have erased my twin, part of my life, out of self-protection, I think. always missed something, was sometimes just sad and blamed it for the things I experienced, but it was undecided / unconscious sadness for my twin, now it is all clear to me .. that erasing was necessary to live my life tnt. so that I could do the things that I had to do in this life, how did you sustain that? but now that is all different .. my twin is in a relationship with a soulmate and I think my twin is happy in his life that is why I also look for solutions .. my relationship is with someone I think is not that close, but with which I have shared my whole life, in that sense doubts arise because you always read and hear that twins do not give up their relationship for a twin and then I sometimes think fat nonsense, because what if it no longer feels completely right? do you go on and on? for 14 years I have been changing and growing away from him and it is still difficult to make a decision, familiar and safe, especially now that I sometimes feel so sad about everything, so not yet strong enough! not independent enough, or is it pity? or love? can i do it? what a fight. do not feel like a little repelstilt but more like a yo-yo (won a competition with it once, well that says enough again!) always been a doubter .. yes more people are involved in your life! but that does not have to be an obstacle, the people who love me want to see me happy .. am also actually actually very happy with the daily things but you sometimes find yourself still es es, fear of being alone the rest of my life? afraid my twin never comes to me? am also a free spirit and he wants only one thing; in a nutshell to her twin, because he is it for me..but yes my twin has a relationship. Acceptance of how it is now? I think that’s the best right now! dear Juul, quench your thirst it seems good to me, letting go is no longer possible, rather pain and sadness than eternal thirst, that’s how I feel it is, literally, refueling together without a Together, an oasis of light and Love. your free spirit guide you and have a shit at what others want and think of you .. I am now so far that I don’t care much about it. this is also not life, push your limits. LOVE let it be there, don’t hide it. Earthly love wants to judge, wants rules because it keeps chaos under control, but this Love cannot be put in a cage, but wants to get out of it, otherwise you just go against natural laws, you can’t say gravity either; it is not there, this is also the case with this Love, why do twins not seek each other out to talk to each other and feel what they want together or Together, without others there..and what they feel and think that the intention is of their covenant and what they want with it. I won’t let myself cage anymore, will! I no longer adapt to everyone, I already have a wonderful free life and this fits in well … wish you success with philosophizing and yes I will continue for myself. I am aware of that bigger but I still have to finish something first . the future? twins can look beyond this moment, it’s about being able to feel / read that Love again in each other’s eyes, find out together what you want … Love
supplement; my environment has seen how great my ‘disorder’ is, they will now have to accept that I am looking for a solution that makes me feel good .. live and let live, if they cannot do that, then it is clear to me .. (Me)
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Dear Juul, maybe your best friend knows you so well that she knew how you were going to respond and that was exactly the response she wanted to see and maybe that is also what your twin is missing! he just can’t let you go, it might make it very difficult for you ..? follow your own road, a cycle path or highway, it doesn’t matter Liefs (Me)
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Hi dear Juul, one more question to you; I have no relationship but I find it very difficult that I have to do a lot on my own, my twin is in a marriage and wants a friendship relationship with me, would you like that? would you always want to be alone if your twin stays in his relationship / situation? nothing I know for sure and yet I have turned everything upside down. is that stupid? or is that Love? my twin goes for certainty it seems? and I ?? if he only contacted as a friend, then it would become so much clearer .. one moment he says this and then that again, sometimes it no longer understands. understand me well I have a nice life but always alone? that is not what makes me really happy..Liefs (Me)
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Sometimes I’m going to hang on my twin a lot! I don’t really want to. Do you sometimes do that? will go my own way and should not bother Twin with my lack, my doubts. my twin has enough of his own problems and then i do this..will try my expectations, how it should go, let go and want to give my twin the space he needs..and i now fully support it. I will also have to solve my own troubles, no one can help me with that, but I really like knowing that there is someone who loves me so very much, that gives me strength in this difficult time of decisions. Because of that immense love, which twin has made me feel, I keep it up and for that I want to fill in my life even better, hopefully they will help me a bit up there again .. Dear ones (Me)
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And maybe then you idd but have to accept that life runs so .. that you can not always be together, as long as you continue to feel love, also for others around you .. even though it is not that Love, dear Juul I understand your explanation and am now so far that I can feel that .. let go and move on and feel a lot of love for everyone around me .. I have to accept it .. I don’t live anymore, not anymore. (Unknown) )
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Dear Me, I know, I have been silent for a while. Come back after a while and read your answers. And yes, of course I hung a lot on twin, I was a star in it. But rest assured, it is a process, that suddenly stops, that hangs, not love. But I can’t tell you how that will go or go for you. You are already aware of it, so then you are well on your way. Because you can also break that habit yourself by being very aware of it and being very strict with yourself. It was very difficult for me, but it is possible. And in spite of the pain it will cause some sort of liberation. And then you feel the love purer, without too much dependence. I am of course talking about a situation where twins are not together, because things are slightly different in a relationship. And yes, alone … It remains an interesting question of what being alone is. For me personally I feel ‘alone’ when I turn away, from people, from my feelings, from life in general, but that is very personal. I understand, of course, that being alone is not appealing as a reality for the rest of your life. That is very normal! You do not have to sacrifice yourself in the name of this Love. If you find another love that you want to go for, it would be terrible to let that go. Every story is different, everything is possible, I also don’t know what will happen in my story. On some days I have resigned myself to everything, on some days my heart seems to be in a parallel universe, while I’m just still in reality. My head knows and accepts reality, but my heart and soul apparently live in their own world. Not much to do about it, it is the healthy balance. Standing in front of your feelings, but also bese! ffen that makes you happiest, and sometimes that includes accepting a certain reality. Earthing in reality does not detract from the Love that you feel. It is precisely the ego that you want to tell that you will lose love if you do not grasp it firmly and hang on it with fear. In my most anxious periods, I thought so too, and that eventually prevented me from “letting go” in a certain way. For good reason I put letting go between quotation marks, because I believe that you can never let go of love with a capital L. You learn to deal with it in a different way, though. Or you let go of all the expectations that you once had of love in general and this one in particular. The desired image of a relationship, a very normal human desire of course, but not always feasible. And after letting go of that, accept that love remains, even though it has not met your initial expectations. Many people rejected! n love has not arrived as a desired outcome, and that is certainly ripe, but impossible in soul love, so better to surrender as quickly as possible. And find a way to deal with it. Easier said than done, but it is necessary in many cases. I also struggled with it, but choosing for yourself (if only for a breathing space) is not equivalent to ‘giving up’ or betraying your love. Let alone ‘loss’. This love remains. STAYS. Whatever happens. People say it all the time, they know it intellectually, but the point is that you have to experience it internally in order to really understand it and thereby release as much fear as possible. Because if everyone really felt that immediately, this question / answer section would probably not exist. It is believing, and sometimes that is difficult, unfortunately. So in short; please don’t be lonely or alone. Accept the reality, but feel the love, believe in it. Go after your own dreams. Just give love, don’t be afraid that you will lose twin’s love, that is fear that speaks. The better you understand that, the shorter your periods will be when you ‘hang on’ to twin. It all comes as it comes, it will be fine. It is a path of life, a path of love, but do not lose yourself. You are not incomplete without the other, because you are part of that whole. After all, there is no such Great Love without you. So your own life is very important. I continue and learn every day, I have finally started my big dream, and I want to realize that. And the love? It stays, that STAYS. Lots of love (Juul)
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Hey that Juul, nice that you still answer me again, had actually given up a bit .. that you came here again..yes you say that’s right, you should be able to let go of expectations of a normal relationship..then feel you that true Love .. remotely and always .. how it goes? you don’t know, you can’t plan it … but another love? I do not believe in staying in your words .. there is only one for me .. this is just too big, too beautiful .. then I could have just stayed in my old relationship .. there I had I would rather have given my love to it .. although I did not fit it completely anymore .. it is not a sacrifice but more a feeling of an assignment as if it was destined .. I just could not continue in the old situation .. but a new one love..no..it sounds like a sacrifice but it is not .. then I just have to go ‘alone’ if twin does not choose me .. I would find it very unfortunate but not insurmountable, because I have enough love .. in mi! In work, for other people, my children and friends, I no longer feel alone, I sometimes feel happier than I have been for a long time, more meaningful, more loving. have great fun work but it is not enough for me yet .. but single for the rest of my life is not really attractive. but well you do not know what will happen again on twins and my path .. how the ball will roll. I feel very happy with the contact that I have with my twin nowadays .. hope of course for everything, with all the trimmings but yes you can not enforce that .. I am not dependent on it anymore and will be happy would be if there was real contact because that longing for each other it is so present, it wants to be together so much..not twice a year but preferably every day..but yes you need 2 for that .. look in the mirror and I would see him but would rather look into his eyes..even drown in that beautiful, beautiful soul..it would make me happy! .. together without others what would it be beautiful..loving..the Love STAYS. .how ever..it is as if i can tell you everything..so familiar..hope to share a lot with you..love (me)
Answer Hey Me, I understand that other love. I never really succeeded again. Twin by the way, so yes … I find it sometimes difficult. Although I am used to it in the meantime. I have no children, so somewhere I find it destructive of myself to give up any other hope of love, because I fear that I and twin, if, then later, but I don’t know either. As I wrote, all expectations were released. That dream of every day remains … I know it. And what you say about the mirror is terribly recognizable. Sometimes I actually see it reflected through my eyes. Oops, I once cursed that before, could not run away from it. These days I can manage it a little better. Usually then, haha. I’m happy to hear that you’re doing so well! Hope the best for you and your twin, may you ever come together in love !!! And I pass here every once in a while, so I’ll read your messages! Thanks for listening, you too. Love (Juul)
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Hi Juul, thanks again for your kind words, you are really a good friend to me, but what I wonder; what do you fear? fear is a bad counselor! if you want complete certainty before you want to follow your heart, shouldn’t you go your own way independently of twin … what is destructive? ..What are you afraid of? that that love passes again? would you first like to be even more certain about your feelings or do you actually know what is important? nice to talk to each other every now and then .. I hope that you will find each other once and in the long run will never let go. But actually that is also no longer possible because as twins you are always together. Sometimes I have the idea that twin understands more of me when I think of myself .. crazy eh .. lots of Love (Me)
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Hi Me, well, idd, I like that twin understands you better than you and vice versa. I’m afraid I recognize that. I sometimes find myself destructive of myself, but I am sure of my feelings, but that is the only thing. Well, that’s not entirely true. So many things have happened that I know it is what it is. But it always stagnates again. And he’s really happy now. It was also just a bizarre history this whole story. And I have such an idea that there was no other way, you know? That is difficult to explain, is not just talking or telling myself. I really think it should go that way. I know that. But sometimes it is still just as difficult to feel that. Remains complicated. Sigh. But one day everything will be fine. I recently experienced a very bizarre and strong moment of telepathy. And got that confirmed too. But the question always remains, does he know? Twin is rather difficult to look into the cards, he has secret drawers. I’d b! est want to ask directly someday, who knows? I saw twin again by the way, and that was very strange / intense. But everything happened afterwards, like an energy storm. Just as you think … well, what does it actually think? Hope everything is fine with me. And wish I could just wave a magic wand so that all love could just exist, even for the people here, the pain would disappear, whether you were together or alone. Nice wish, right? It is not the love that hinders, it is the pain. Lots of love! (Juul) who knows? I saw twin again by the way, and that was very strange / intense. But everything happened afterwards, like an energy storm. Just as you think … well, what does it actually think? Hope everything is fine with me. And wish I could just wave a magic wand so that all love could just exist, even for the people here, the pain would disappear, whether you were together or alone. Nice wish, right? It is not the love that hinders, it is the pain. Lots of love! (Juul) who knows? I saw twin again by the way, and that was very strange / intense. But everything happened afterwards, like an energy storm. Just as you think … well, what does it actually think? Hope everything is fine with me. And wish I could just wave a magic wand so that all love could just exist, even for the people here, the pain would disappear, whether you were together or alone. Nice wish, right? It is not the love that hinders, it is the pain. Lots of love! (Juul) whether you were together or alone. Nice wish, right? It is not the love that hinders, it is the pain. Lots of love! (Juul) whether you were together or alone. Nice wish, right? It is not the love that hinders, it is the pain. Lots of love! (Juul)
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Hey that Juul, yes it is the pain that hinders and a person has to go through it. what is love? start with yourself, have for years found others more important than myself. Everything is going well with me now, I have a fairly happy life and I am grateful for everything I have learned .. I am grateful for all the wise and sweet lessons .. I know that he is not doing well at the moment, he is very have been very ill, has been temporarily paralyzed and is now recovering I have heard, I feel that he is being helped, but I never speak to him and see him even less and that is difficult if you love someone so much and they are in it the misery, hoping that he will be completely better again, would love to go to him and give him my love / my energy because that would be healing I think / feel but I cannot do that, I am not welcome there, that I know.. send him sweet thoughts and hope that they reach him .. what life is beautiful and difficult but as you hope and know; it’s coming go! ed, is it not here or later. sometimes you are desperate then again you have such a certain certainty in you that it is impossible to get rid of whatever is said. my environment is loving and I am happy with that, but they should not come to me with stories about seeking love because I should not think about it .. there is only one for me .. it sounds easy but it is not! but I don’t have to tell you that … it is a special time in which we live, a time of trust that love is stronger than fear and a lot of people are not really behind that. nice that you have seen your twin again, miss mine for so long, yes in my dreams now and then but mostly only the feeling, few images there, too bad but the feeling of twin and me together is great alone. used to have a lot of dreams now that is less, don’t know why, maybe because it has all calmed down a bit for me, is no longer in a crisis, I give love and get love and it feels good to keep me busy with that , I can lose my love somewhere .. hope I can hold this feeling .. wish you a lot of love, alone or with your twin..loves (Me)