Q0367. Why does one person suffer? Or is that not the case?

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When I read the answers and stories, I notice that when the relationship ends, the person leaving is in great pain and letting go is difficult. My question is: is the other person numb, heartless, does he or she have no pain, because he or she usually doesn’t hear anything anymore, it seems easier for them to go off or is it different, it seems.

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I think in my case, where it’s a twinflame, it’s a matter of time. I first want to know for myself what I want with it, how I want to fit it into my life before I confront my twin with it. (Unknown)

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I believe in reincarnation’s! I understand that everyone has known multiple lives and that people sometimes reincarnate in groups! In my opinion, that is where the special bond comes from with several people in this life. So not everyone who “intuitively” recognizes is your partner. You learn from them and they learn from you … to continue their path with the lessons they have learned from each other! Sometimes it is only necessary that you can open your heart again. That you can love again … I understand that people can feel sad or torn when the other continues their path … .. But eventually you find out that you have become stronger because the other has led you to your “I”. You are / feel who you are and will always be again, without all the walls around you. Your soulmate keeps his promise to assist you if you are building too many walls around your heart! And the moment your soulmate moves on again (just continuing his life!) It feels like a loss … you had found someone where you could totally be yourself. But now is the time that you stay yourself because you want to! In my opinion, it ultimately means … your soulmate is there to show you / feel how powerful you yourself are. Recover your own strength! I love my soulmate so much … so much that I sometimes feel that my heart is overflowing when I only think of him, his beautiful love full heart. Family does not understand when I tell how much I love him, without wishing for a male / female relationship with him! Think we will get back together (he is my ex)!

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A soul kinship, or twinflame love, is one of the most difficult commitments that exist. When reviewing / re-meeting your other half, especially with those who are a bit further in their (spiritual) development, the development will accelerate. Development means learning, and learning is not without growing pain. Usually it is also true that twinflames complement each other; that is, they complement each other in personality. This translates to the fact that one person is emotional, and the other approaches things in an intellectual way. And because one person dares to feel, this person will really feel the pain much more. The other person against it, who walks away from this pain, or denies or ignores these feelings. This is therefore the well-known attracting and repelling. It does not necessarily mean that the other person IS numb or heartless, but DOES more out of self-protection. Soul love is above all a lesson in love. In experiencing and feeling love. (Unknown)

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Soul Love a lesson in love; I also partially believe that; that is the emotional side / 2-dimensional side of it. but I think it goes further. there is also a spiritually inexplicable side to it. feeling each other as a magnet, at a distance, seeing, dreaming, meeting each other in crazy places, moments; symbolism; why is that? that is not a lesson in love. that seems more ‘fate’, something outside of us. we come together for a purpose; be sent for the good of everyone, to spread that shining love I think and I hope for ourselves too. we have been granted that wonderful love for a while or for a long time … reincarnation is also interesting to me; mssn do we come together because we were already ns together? to correct something, make up, karma? (Unknown)

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You read your answers and I certainly recognize certain things that are true; I have not heard anything from the girlfriend for 5 months and the beginning was very painful, but I also had a lot of pain during contact. But now I understand certain things: now I feel stronger than before, I understand attracting and repelling her and indeed I think I am further than her, there is no blame for her. In short, it was worth it. (Unknown)

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On the outside it looks like they are numb. It can have to do with a lot of jammers in their self, among other things, unconscious life, not knowing what love is built on, hurt life experiences, looking for answers outside themselves instead of looking inside. In other words, they do not learn to consciously look at their own feelings. Because of all this, a stubbornness may have developed, so having a large wall (ego) that you encounter as an emotional person. They know it in their heart, only they don’t know how to turn it into action, then they have to give in to the feeling. That is a very high threshold for them. Then when a situation occurs that they don’t like, they put their heads in the sand until it blows over. As a person you know that you have to solve the situation, you also get further in your process. Where you go further, many stand still. For every situation that they run away from and that actually matters to them, that is z! he solving them comes up over time and are placed in such a situation again, until the euro falls with them. This process can take a long time. That is why it is up to you not to depend on your twin and accept his feelings that come to you. After all, that is also a part of you. It is not a simple process, but you can count on it to come out stronger. At least now that I have completely let go of my twin, I feel liberated and accept his feelings in me. Love (Sanne) comes up over time and are placed in such a situation again, until the euro falls with them. This process can take a long time. That is why it is up to you not to depend on your twin and accept his feelings that come to you. After all, that is also a part of you. It is not a simple process, but you can count on it to come out stronger. At least now that I have completely let go of my twin, I feel liberated and accept his feelings in me. Love (Sanne) comes up over time and are placed in such a situation again, until the euro falls with them. This process can take a long time. That is why it is up to you not to depend on your twin and accept his feelings that come to you. After all, that is also a part of you. It is not a simple process, but you can count on it to come out stronger. At least now that I have completely let go of my twin, I feel liberated and accept his feelings in me. Love (Sanne) At least now that I have completely let go of my twin, I feel liberated and accept his feelings in me. Love (Sanne) At least now that I have completely let go of my twin, I feel liberated and accept his feelings in me. Love (Sanne)

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With us it is as if we alternate, as if one takes a distance when the other is actually approaching. That is very confronting because if I feel intense sadness because he escapes me and I do not understand his behavior, I am very aware of the way I hurt him. I really get the mirror held up. I think it’s just not our time. After more than 25 years, we are still not finished with our lessons. I’m trying to accept that. What strikes me very much is that, despite the intense sadness that I am now in the middle of, I have grown enormously and in one way or another I am very happy with my life. Liefs (I)