Q0364. Do I fall short when I give up my dream?

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Two years ago I met my soul love. I had never heard of soul love but immediately knew that there was much more going on. A year ago I told him what I felt. He made it clear that he experiences the same thing, that there is more to it than just an earthly attraction and that he feels that we will come together this life. I experience the same feeling. But for the time being he is still married, although there is no longer any question of a relationship. They live completely next to each other. The only thing that still connects them is their children. He wants to take all responsibility for this. I have a lot of understanding for that. In any case, his marriage will end in divorce. That is certain for everyone. That can take a few more years. Moreover, his faith and faith in love are at a very low level due to the many injuries that he sustained during his marriage. He will also need time to rebuild that. My question is: what am I doing in the meantime? I don’t have any children yet, but I do have a big wish for children. But the chance that I will give birth to a child with my soul love is small. He is 13 years older than me and has no desire to give birth to another child. In the meantime, am I going for a child with someone else (which is very difficult to imagine at the moment) or am I storing that child’s desire and enjoying life in a different way until a relationship is possible with him (of course with the necessary ups and downs due to lack and longing for him because regular contact is difficult)? What would you do in my place? I think this is a very serious dilemma. Do I give up my dream of a family or not? Do I fall short when I give up this dream? Can I give up this dream?

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I understand your doubts, you are not sure if there will be a relationship with your soul love and you want a child. but do you want a child with someone else? then it becomes very difficult to leave your partner when your soul love finally takes the step to divorce. your child has his feelings towards both parents again, that will be a huge stumbling block. And is it fair to only need someone for children? to then leave when your soul love is free? you can NEVER get your soul love out of your heart, soul and mind. I think in the long run you really cannot help but choose your soul love, that is something that is arranged from above and that pushes and pulls on you until you get it .. at least that’s how it went with me .. soul love is so overwhelmingly beautiful that there is no more missing! do not run away from it, because someone else will never be able to fill that place, you put yourself on the sidelines and the children of your soul love are actually also your children, you are deep inside the same, the same soul, so there will be recognition are with the children of your twinflame … in the long run, they will only be able to love you because they see part of their father in you. You and your twinflame are special and loving otherwise you would never have recognized each other, even children feel that and will get peace with it .. mind you, most children born today are often wiser (crystal children) than their parents and feel very good whether it is a play (bad marriage) or whether real love is involved (Unknown) you put yourself on a sidetrack and the children of your soul love are actually also your children, you are deep inside the same, the same soul, so there will be recognition with the children of your twinflame … eventually, they will not other than to love you because they see part of their father in you. You and your twinflame are special and loving otherwise you would never have recognized each other, even children feel that and will get peace with it .. mind you, most children born today are often wiser (crystal children) than their parents and feel very good whether it is a play (bad marriage) or whether real love is involved (Unknown) you put yourself on a sidetrack and the children of your soul love are actually also your children, you are deep inside the same, the same soul, so there will be recognition with the children of your twinflame … eventually, they will not other than to love you because they see part of their father in you. You and your twinflame are special and loving otherwise you would never have recognized each other, even children feel that and will get peace with it .. mind you, most children born today are often wiser (crystal children) than their parents and feel very good whether it is a play (bad marriage) or whether real love is involved (Unknown) so there will be recognition among the children of your twinflame … in the long run, they will only be able to love you because they see part of their father in you. You and your twinflame are special and loving otherwise you would never have recognized each other, even children feel that and will get peace with it .. mind you, most children born today are often wiser (crystal children) than their parents and feel very good whether it is a play (bad marriage) or whether real love is involved (Unknown) so there will be recognition among the children of your twinflame … in the long run, they will only be able to love you because they see part of their father in you. You and your twinflame are special and loving otherwise you would never have recognized each other, even children feel that and will get peace with it .. mind you, most children born today are often wiser (crystal children) than their parents and feel very good whether it is a play (bad marriage) or whether real love is involved (Unknown)

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That is very difficult … it is also not easy if you first have your husband-child and then meet your twin but this is even harder. you never have to marry someone to have a child. A child is too beautiful, you have to want to be there for the sake of a child. you can become single mom, conscious because you want a child, that’s something else. is only very heavy, doing everything alone. a bond with a child is also often a soul bond, just as special…. maybe you will meet someone you love too, with whom it ultimately clicks better than with your twin. a twin is no guarantee for a good relationship. go for yourself then it may or may not come your way …. success! (Unknown)

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The fact that you make this question public is already a sign that you are not doing anything to yourself. It IS a dilemma and therefore very courageous of you, but then you will also receive advice in which you may be mistaken. busy, but listen very carefully to your inner self; you have not just met this man. It is (finally…?) someone who makes you think deeply about yourself. Did you have that desire for children long before you met it and your age, that is not clear. What helps is always (in my opinion) the question: Do I have to look for it here? I knew from the age of 14 that I was going to be a single mother, no, I had to be, that I had to do it all myself and in my own way. But when, according to a comrade, I got a maternal appearance, I just didn’t know where to go search, is he here … or in this environment maybe ?? Never informed anyone about it.He came naturally into my field of vision and I heard a little voice: you have to pay attention here! I don’t think you have to wait for your soul love, but that may be hypocritical because I also waited exactly 20 years for the child, at the age of 34 everything came out exactly !! And when the child was 13 I met my twinflame, and now my twinflame appears to be the father of my child in our previous life! I tell all of this with the intention that you have to listen very carefully to your inner self or that perhaps indicates a direction, at least that’s how it went with me, it never cheats. My life is all about redoing, and your life is all about ….? (Unknown)

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I would ask him roughly 1 time if he then wants to become a donor for 1 time to give his soul love a child. take the road. Its NO then the signal for that (Unknown)

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I would like to thank you for your answers. It has confirmed me in the way I have chosen. I recently chose to become a Conscious Single Mama. I know that I will not be honest with anyone if I enter into a relationship with someone else just for the sake of a child. Moreover, I could not. I am almost 32 years old and have had that wish for children for much longer. I also feel that my twinflame and I have come together to stimulate each other to realize our dreams. He has also had a big dream for a long time and is now working on it. I think it is also important to live on and not just “wait” for your soul love. We met for a reason. And if we are aware of that and live by it then everything will be fine, then a relationship will become possible. Honesty and staying true to yourself and the other. Compared to yourself by not giving up your own life wishes. But also remain faithful and honest towards your soul love. That is how it feels. And as one of you says so beautifully: his children will eventually love me because they will see a piece of their own father in me. And my soul love will love my baby very much. I feel that. I am not yet pregnant because such a procedure can take a while. But so far everything is going very smoothly, much faster than the procedure normally takes. I think this is a good sign. Thank you for your wise words! (Unknown) But also remain faithful and honest towards your soul love. That is how it feels. And as one of you says so beautifully: his children will eventually love me because they will see a piece of their own father in me. And my soul love will love my baby very much. I feel that. I am not yet pregnant because such a procedure can take a while. But so far everything is going very smoothly, much faster than the procedure normally takes. I think this is a good sign. Thank you for your wise words! (Unknown) But also remain faithful and honest towards your soul love. That is how it feels. And as one of you says so beautifully: his children will eventually love me because they will see a piece of their own father in me. And my soul love will love my baby very much. I feel that. I am not yet pregnant because such a procedure can take a while. But so far everything is going very smoothly, much faster than the procedure normally takes. I think this is a good sign. Thank you for your wise words! (Unknown) I am not yet pregnant because such a procedure can take a while. But so far everything is going very smoothly, much faster than the procedure normally takes. I think this is a good sign. Thank you for your wise words! (Unknown) I am not yet pregnant because such a procedure can take a while. But so far everything is going very smoothly, much faster than the procedure normally takes. I think this is a good sign. Thank you for your wise words! (Unknown)

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Very special to read your story. I feel exactly the same: wanting children and wanting to remain faithful to twinflames. I also signed up for KID and procedure goes faster than expected. Good luck! (Unknown)