Q0347. How is it that you can fall back into grief all the time?

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I thought I was reasonably in control, the sadness of not being able to be with your twinflame. then it suddenly pops up again. an ordinary love pales and the desire for the other is so great .. how can you continue with this in your life? do you always keep going with that grief? we are both married, so you can’t go on with each other because then you hurt too many people, but what do you do with the sadness you have? that is also against your own soul’s desire. yet it is your soul that shows you the way, do you ignore it with all your strength because you continue with an ‘ordinary’ love? … sometimes I feel so listless about this, that can never be good? have picked up all sorts of things, activities that I do from my feeling (soul), but the lack remains, how do you deal with this?

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Your question is so recognizable, also for me, it could have been my question. The pain … you feel it through the marrow and leg, so deep in your heart. Sometimes it just makes you sick. I also do all kinds of things to feed my soul, it helps me through the days. But the relapse to the loss remains. I admit, but continue to believe that our souls will someday be reunited, even if this is not in this life. Strength … (Unknown)

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The sorrow remains as long as necessary for the elaboration of your (you?) Karma. I only had a week or two of grief. However, about my soulmate, soulmate, I had more than 1 1/2 years of grief, while I no longer had contact with that person for decades. six months after I met my twinflame, that was much heavier and lasted for at least a year, and sometimes even a little bit. Now that karma is finished too. Unknown)

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how it is that you always fall back in your grief, very simply you have lost part of yourself, you leave a part with the other, that part can only be found again if you are truly reunited with the other. It is your greatest and most real love, that sadness remains, it will not go away anymore, you can only accept it if you stand behind the decision not to be with him but to choose your family. Deep in your heart you know that you prefer to be with the other, despite all the difficulties that this choice entails, so you no longer live according to your heart but what is best for your environment, that also makes you sad. The other is in fact always with you even if you do not see him, in time you may not even miss him anymore, then you know that the other is always with you. Ultimately, it wears out

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now I am happy with sorrow because I see the usefulness it has had for us. I am not ashamed of it either, because it is not for someone else! to imagine what happened to us, let alone what we all have to go through (Unknown)

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It is very recognizable what you write. Especially the part that it comes back with flurries and that actually governs your entire life. What really helped me is that the contact between the two of us was completely broken, but that too was not very easy. Both from my side and from his side we kept contacting each other (attracting), but the rejection also continued. At one point I realized that I couldn’t go on with my own life, because he would always stay with his family and I didn’t want to continue playing the second violin. I contacted him again and I asked if it really could not be something between us. He confirmed that. I told him that I could not continue my life like this and asked him what I had meant for him. He realized that if he told the truth about what he felt for me, I would stick to him forever. Then I got him some word! and put it in his mouth, which he actually repeated. I kept passing these words (with his voice) in my head, and once I realized what he told me I was filled with anger. This contact ended with a kind of fight and I never saw or heard him again. Only then could I let him go. Hearing his voice, those words had been my salvation. It took years before I got over the grief, but I could pick up the thread of my life. I just realized it wasn’t meant to be in this life. He is a responsible father and knows that his main task is here on earth, even though his twinflame passed by. I resigned that it is not yet time to be together, but in a different life, no matter how unfair it may be. And I have faith in that. Time helps to alleviate the suffering, but the crack will always remain. You are also right when you say the ordinary! love faded with it, but if you try to get your lessons out of it and then you know why it is. I now have a partner who fits in perfectly with my (sometimes difficult) character, and I am sure that I would only clash with my twinflame, because we are so similar! With my current partner I know that I can live together for a very long time and with my twinflame that would get better after a week. The big difference is, the love for my twinflame is unconditional and will never pass. And if you have learned to resign yourself to it, you will naturally notice that you have an “invisible line” with your twinflame in other ways, even though you will never see each other again. Eventually you learn to develop this line more and more and you will discover that the relationship is much more special than if you had a normal relationship with each other. The contact you have had with your twin in the past was for a different purpose than to continue as a life partner. It is a higher goal, of which it is not yet clear what that is. I wish you a lot of strength in dealing with your grief, but you are a special person, because the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger) then you will automatically notice that you have an “invisible line” with your twinflame in other ways, even though you will never see each other again. Eventually you will learn to develop this line more and more and you will discover that the relationship is much more special than if you had a normal relationship with each other. The contact you have had with your twin in the past was for a different purpose than to continue as a life partner. It is a higher goal, of which it is not yet clear what that is. I wish you a lot of strength in dealing with your grief, but you are a special person, because the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger) then you will automatically notice that you have an “invisible line” with your twinflame in other ways, even though you will never see each other again. Eventually you learn to develop this line more and more and you will discover that the relationship is much more special than if you had a normal relationship with each other. The contact you have had with your twin in the past was for a different purpose than to continue as a life partner. It is a higher goal, of which it is not yet clear what that is. I wish you a lot of strength in dealing with your grief, but you are a special person, because the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger) Eventually you will learn to develop this line more and more and you will discover that the relationship is much more special than if you had a normal relationship with each other. The contact you have had with your twin in the past was for a different purpose than to continue as a life partner. It is a higher goal, of which it is not yet clear what that is. I wish you a lot of strength in dealing with your grief, but you are a special person, because the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger) Eventually you will learn to develop this line more and more and you will discover that the relationship is much more special than if you had a normal relationship with each other. The contact you have had with your twin in the past was for a different purpose than to continue as a life partner. It is a higher goal, of which it is not yet clear what that is. I wish you a lot of strength in dealing with your grief, but you are a special person, because the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger) The contact you have had with your twin in the past was for a different purpose than to continue as a life partner. It is a higher goal, of which it is not yet clear what that is. I wish you a lot of strength in dealing with your grief, but you are a special person, because the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger) The contact you have had with your twin in the past was for a different purpose than to continue as a life partner. It is a higher goal, of which it is not yet clear what that is. I wish you a lot of strength in dealing with your grief, but you are a special person, because the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger) for the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger) for the encounter with your twin means that both of your souls have evolved separately to a certain level. Not every person meets his twinflame in this life! (Soulsinger)

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thanks for your answers. I have been struggling with my feelings for a long time, but if god / love / your source keeps pushing you in that direction, how can you ignore that and can you ignore it? It may also be the intention that you should choose your other half (perhaps because you never stood up for yourself). now also see that my current relationship is as double, based on matter and dependent love, everything must remain as it is. You cannot ignore soul love (it is like having a ball under water, it comes up once, even if you try to keep it under for so long, and then with power!) I think it also no longer has anything to do with karma but with well-considered decisions, when “earthly” love fades, then I think you cannot do anything else at a given moment, unless you still have a lot to deal with your ‘earthly’ partner or if you first wait until your children are independent. This is a force, also for the world, that we should not push down but that you must show !! THAT IS ACCORDING TO ME WHY SO MANY TWIN SOULS RECOGNIZE EACH OTHER TODAY. NEEDED FOR THE NEW TIME (Unknown)

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Finally know how to deal with this, after a long struggle with myself I can finally really enjoy soul love, my earthly partner has also found a place in it. Everything feels good again, great! Soul love is a fight if you want to be physically together while you are both married. You do belong together but you can’t hurt so many people, that doesn’t feel right, that’s not love. Now we can enjoy again and let that love feel to others and to each other. If there is a time that you really will always be together then it will come. That is my belief / trust in the goodness of the universe / god and otherwise we both learned a lot from it and it will work out “later”. Hopefully this wonderful feeling remains and I can finally have peace with it .. My previous reaction was one from great despair and I think a lot of people are here on this site! (Unknown)

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I have also had this experience. A wonderful experience but also very painful at the moment of release. Personal growth on my part went very quickly. Through this experience I learned to love myself and to love other people. And being able to receive and give love is a great gift. He has a special place in my heart and will always stay there. I now have a great partner with the same double first names. Really not wanted. We have been happily married for 11 years. I can only say “Thank you for this wonderful gift”. Take care of yourself too. Love (Maria)