Q0099. Does that pain ever go away? How do I learn to deal with this?


I have found my twinflame for half a year. That resulted in a very intense, intense contact. Both our lives were turned upside down. We are both married and therefore try to keep a distance from each other. I think it’s terrible. I miss him terribly. It seems as if we cannot have normal contact, because when we speak or email each other we feel such an intense love that we would want nothing but each other. Even though we have not been in contact for a while, we feel what we feel and think remotely. Bizarre! We know each other better than anyone. I love him so much that it hurts. Does that pain ever go away? How do I learn to deal with this?

I have experienced something similar myself, both married, children and decided to break contact due to dramatic circumstances. Both partners now know about it, situation is impossible. He seems to be better able to deal with that than I do. Has apparently made a choice for family. I cannot let go, I have met myself to the deepest misery. My heart is not where it belongs. I still see him regularly because he lives nearby, which makes it even more difficult. I don’t know if this pain will ever go away, because it is almost years ago. I know that you ultimately choose the pain yourself, I make myself unhappy. Wish I had an answer for you but I only recognize it. (Unknown)

The pain diminishes, but only if you don’t see each other and you don’t have contact. A year is too short for that. It takes a few years. My soul love also chose his relationship and I moved on. I eventually moved to the other side of the world, far away from him. That works. It has caused me a lot of pain and sorrow, I have talked about it with 20 people, 100 times and now it has a place. I am now 7 years further without contact. Strength, it’s hard. (Unknown)