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When my husband and I came to live here, I met him for the first time. He has become my neighbor and best friend. The first time I looked him in the eye, I felt something, can’t describe it. As if I came “home”. I felt a certain connection, but could not bring it home. I didn’t even find it super attractive. I always thought meeting him “should have been this way.”
I developed a close friendship with him. At parties we always visited each other and laughed at the same things. We only had to look at each other and we understood each other. I started exercising together and then our friendship deepened. Only, I fell in love with him and so violently, as I had never felt before. Not with my husband either. Not good! But it felt great! Only the desire to touch him and be with him really started to hurt and I told him that I felt more for him than just friendship. He was shocked (he is also married) but appreciated my honesty. He said he cared very much for me but did not love me. We have distanced ourselves in a certain way. Our “flirty”, “challenging” way of attracting and repelling each other through text messages and jokes has disappeared. But, the friendship has remained and is close, good and still very special! I also love my husband and children and don’t want to break anything. In retrospect I am happy that he does not love me. After a lot of crying and a difficult time I was able to give my love for him a place and cherish in the moments I share with him and the friendship I have with him. It is very special for me! I know – if I ever lost it – I would break it. He has become an important part of my life and I think about him every day. He runs through my life like a red thread. After a lot of crying and a difficult time I was able to give my love for him a place and cherish in the moments I share with him and the friendship I have with him. It is very special for me! I know – if I ever lost it – I would break it. He has become an important part of my life and I think about him every day. He runs through my life like a red thread. After a lot of crying and a difficult time I was able to give my love for him a place and cherish in the moments I share with him and the friendship I have with him. It is very special for me! I know – if I ever lost it – I would break it. He has become an important part of my life and I think about him every day. He runs through my life like a red thread.
Our relationship was only a friendship relationship.
My partner knows nothing about this and I don’t want to tell him either. He wouldn’t understand and I don’t want to lose him. I love my partner, although the love I feel for him is different from the love I feel for my friend. My friend also doesn’t know that I think he is my “soulmate”. I currently have no idea what he feels for me, although I am very sure that he cares very much about me and will always be there for me and will always be there for me when I need it.
An obstacle is that we are both married with children and he is full for his family. Very understandable! Yet I have the idea – when I look into his eyes – that he also feels something special, but that hides it away. If we both had not been married, we would certainly have started a love affair.
A love affair is impossible because of our marriages and I love him dearly, but he doesn’t love me. Our relationship is a close friendship relationship and that is satisfactory to him (I think), but I have moments when I long for him intensely. I can now better cope with those moments than 2 years ago. Then I had a hard time with my feelings for him.
It has made me realize that you can feel mega-lots and unconditional love for someone without understanding why. For example, I don’t understand why not everyone is in love with him. My love for him never passes, whatever I try. And it is a good thing … he is my very best friend and when we see each other we have a great time together and that is enough for me.
He just grabbed me a few times. Just without reason. Once at our house and once at a party. Nothing was said, but what I felt at the time was so special. The way he held me with his hands around mine and close to each other and his head against mine (he was behind me). Very special moments of 1 minute that I will never forget!
Unfortunately I have never experienced eroticism with him and I will never experience it, but in my fantasy it is special and fantastic!
For me, it is a soul love feeling: Unconditional, eternal, deep and I would give up everything for him and I would do everything for him. I live for him!
I would not want to look for such a love anymore, because I am convinced that I can only feel this love for him. Because it has been 10 years now!
Sometimes it’s so hard and sometimes I’m happy and I feel privileged to have my soul love as a friend …
My tips: If he doesn’t feel the same for you, let him go. Because trying to win his love for you makes no sense. If a moment ever comes in this life or another life that he realizes that you are the only true love in his life, then it will be all right. Even if you are 80 or 100 years old! I hope and know for sure that there will come a time in our lives (perhaps only when we are old), when we realize that we are meant for each other. I cherish him as a friend and I will never let that go!