Q0483. What if your twin is someone in your in-laws?

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I am stuck with something that is very difficult and is strongly condemned by many. In fact, I have known for a long time that my twinflame is my husband’s brother. Nobody knows about it and I like it that way, because I don’t want to and can’t do anything with it. But the feelings are there. I feel a deep love for that person, we have a very nice bond and telepathy. Conversely, he feels the same to me I think. This is apparent from many things and I just feel it. In other forums I have read stories of women who felt like their brother-in-law and they were burned down and buried in the ground without mercy. I understand that it is sensitive, but a person does not ask for such situations himself? It just happened to me and I must honestly say that I can also enjoy the nice contact between him and me. Do I have to feel guilty now? And are there people who have the same thing?

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No you should not feel guilty, feelings between souls are real, they are there, enjoy it and if you do not feel that you have to go all the way for it then you can just enjoy it. I sometimes felt that connection with others, even more sometimes with my own partner. The advantage was that I could let those feelings rest away from them, because they did not concern my twinflame. With my twinflame I can no longer do it because my twinflame and I have come together and we want to be together, then it becomes more and more difficult, but condemning that is just not possible. If you are twins then you hear together whether ‘they’ want it or not .. just enjoy it … strength (Unknown)

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Thank you for your kind response. That’s how I deal with it myself; I enjoy it but do nothing with it because I am married and very happy with my husband. That exists side by side. I have felt guilty often enough, but not anymore. For me, a Twin Soul is very different from an earthly relationship or love. (Unknown)

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I think it’s very good of you that you handle it in the right way. What is often forgotten, when you encounter your twin, you experience unconditional love, which means that you let go and accept that it is there. From that point of view, you do not put your ego first. You also take the feelings of your partner into account. Enjoy the feeling that you have for your twin and know what you have with your partner. (Unknown)

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Thank you also for this response. I think, if I may say this of myself, that I deal with it in a good way, even though this is sometimes difficult. I see it as a task that I have in this life. I also don’t see my twin as a relationship partner with whom I should have a love affair, but more as someone from whom I can learn spiritually and he from me. That’s how it feels. But he doesn’t have this as clear as I do. That will come. (Unknown)

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If you have a happy marriage then you may be able to maintain that idd but sometimes I hear that someone no longer has a happy marriage and still stays with his partner, because a twin is not there to break a marriage .. but what if that marriage is already bad .. then you just stay where you are. while your twin is within reach .. I realize that this is different for the person asking the question .. but for many that is not the case and they dare not take the step … what is that..what drives you (Unknown)

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Yes, if your relationship is unhappy, it is a completely different story. In that case I would eventually go for twinflame too, I think. (Unknown)

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A bad marriage also remains a marriage. Suppose … how would you feel if someone would interfere with your bad marriage, even if it is your twin? (Unknown)

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This is the author of this story. Even if I was personally in a bad marriage, I would choose for myself and not for my twin. Desire has to do with the ego. The writer chooses what is right in her situation, if she has a good feeling about it. (Unknown)

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Yes, you shouldn’t actually do that, but it happens anyway .. because you sympathize with the other person and it is very difficult to see it .. my twin has also pushed me into the given good direction .. but interfering with it is not good. (Unknown)

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I am therefore the author of this question. And yes, it is sometimes very difficult. Firstly because it is in-laws. That makes it so much more charged. Also from its side of course. He would never cheat on his own brother and I would not cheat on my husband. But there are those feelings and the good bond between us. Very difficult and also very beautiful. I consciously choose to keep my distance and so do I. I see and feel that. But I also feel what is behind that distance; and that goes beyond all imposed limits. Love doesn’t care about all that. But the fact is that we will never be able to do anything with it. And that is tough. (Unknown)

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Desire also has to do with your feelings of love..to be together and to feel each other..how ego? .. love asks for closeness, for together .. when is the ego and when is it the heart that speaks is still not always clear to me .. if you feel that you want to touch the other person .. ego (unknown)

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It is about the person who asked the question here and that she understands. If you want to know, you can look it up on the internet. If you regularly go into meditation, you will find out for yourself what desire is and where it comes from. I can’t explain to you. (Unknown)

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Love is therefore altruistic and desire is more selfish. Love and desire are two completely different feelings that are very closely related. It is not always easy to distinguish them from each other. People often tend to confuse desire with love. The desirable drive can be so strong that it can pass for love. And you think: “If I feel such a desire for him or her, it means that I really love him / her very much.” You can long for someone without loving that person. Love, on the other hand, which is not based solely on desire, can go very deep without expressing itself in the beginning in desire. The desire comes as the relationship progresses. (Unknown)