Q0102. At the same time creating expectations and keeping a distance. Can someone possibly advise me how I can deal with this situation?

Dinesh

But last week I spoke to MSN via my soul love and then she wanted to see me again. I was so scared to see her again. Afraid to experience the same terrible feeling again because I am still crazy about her. She told me that night that she has feelings for me. I asked her I think it’s really crazy that I have taken up my life again so quickly. Because I never felt how miserable I felt that night when you left me. She then told me that she blasted me through it spiritually. I didn’t quite understand why could anyone explain something about it? But we had such a nice evening but when I think back now I started to get expectations with her again. And after that evening, she acted briefly against me and kept her distance from me again. I really don’t know what to do with her.

Answer
It is a sign of struggle to approach and at the same time keep a distance. She feels that very special love but does not know whether she wants to surrender to it or not. Or she wants it but she can’t or doesn’t dare. Or she doesn’t know what to do with it. For her, that is probably a very difficult process that you have no influence on. If this process nevertheless tries to influence you by drawing her after you, you will disrupt her process and that will only have a counterproductive effect on your mutual relationship. I have also experienced it myself. It is very difficult to deal with conflicting signals. I can only say 1 thing; try to be to her without expectations. Just continue with your own life and see how it develops with her or not. There is no point in worrying about it. Spend that energy on more useful or fun things. The future will tell you what to do with her. But what she has done with you is so wonderful that the future doesn’t matter. Praise yourself very happily instead of focusing on the tricky things. It’s very good that you stopped using her as a mainstay. Also try to put your relationship in a box of relationship sister or relationship like that. Enjoy every hour and every contact you have with each other. Because it often appears that you have to let go of your soul love again. Soul love is pure love and pure confrontation with yourself. (Tiny) Praise yourself very happily instead of focusing on the tricky things. It’s very good that you stopped using her as a mainstay. Also try to put your relationship in a box of relationship sister or relationship like that. Enjoy every hour and every contact you have with each other. Because it often appears that you have to let go of your soul love again. Soul love is pure love and pure confrontation with yourself. (Tiny) Praise yourself very happily instead of focusing on the tricky things. It’s very good that you stopped using her as a mainstay. Also try to put your relationship in a box of relationship sister or relationship like that. Enjoy every hour and every contact you have with each other. Because it often appears that you have to let go of your soul love again. Soul love is pure love and pure confrontation with yourself. (Tiny)

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Difficult, isn’t it? I totally understand you. But, a consolation: it is just a characteristic of twin love. A time-bound phase; It is rare that not one (or even both, as in my case) does NOT struggle with things such as creating expectations, etc. It can be comforting that it has nothing to do with your original unique love, but with the individual life patterns (to just starting with the upbringing and everyone’s personal behavior (thinking / feeling) patterns that result). These may partly resemble each other but will also differ partly because you each have to learn other lessons to pass on and complete to each other sooner or later. The distance (or defense) is therefore only a synonym for: “I am working on something important that is rather difficult, but rest assured, I am doing it for the two of us”. In essence, you yourself have every interest in the difficulties and issues of life where your twins are struggling on their own. Imagine: you have been given problems at school to solve at home. They are difficult and cause frustration because you cannot find the solution; Then there are 3 options: either you go looking for help, or you want to solve it all by yourself, or you want help, but you also want to find the solution yourself; in the latter case you go to work very focused and you prefer not to be “disturbed”, but you also want to “get a push” in the right direction … (Guylian) They are difficult and cause frustration because you cannot find the solution; Then there are 3 options: either you go looking for help, or you want to solve it all by yourself, or you want help, but you also want to find the solution yourself; in the latter case you go to work very focused and you prefer not to be “disturbed”, but you also want to “get a push” in the right direction … (Guylian) They are difficult and cause frustration because you cannot find the solution; Then there are 3 options: either you go looking for help, or you want to solve it all by yourself, or you want help, but you also want to find the solution yourself; in the latter case you go to work very focused and you prefer not to be “disturbed”, but you also want to “get a push” in the right direction … (Guylian)